Silk + Salt Blog

Sometimes You Need to Borrow a Lens

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 00:42:12 GMT

Suzy's Story... the one that inspired the Soozy Project

The morning of my preventative double mastectomy and spacer implantation surgery was quiet in that way hospitals often are; too bright, too sterile, full of tiny sounds that make your heart beat louder in your ears. I remember thinking, This is the day my body changes forever. I had prepared myself for that truth logically, but emotionally? I was not okay. I hugged my Mom before I left for the hospital. Daemon walked with me, hand in hand, and his Mother came to give healing support.

Then Mateusz showed up.

He wasn’t there as “the photographer from Silk + Salt.” He was there as a steady presence. A witness. A friend. The camera wasn’t a prop; it was an anchor. He didn’t aim it at me like a spotlight. He held it like a candle.

That day wasn’t glamorous. There were no soft fabrics or golden light, only the harsh fluorescents of the recovery wing and the sterile hum of hospital machines. But even in that space, he managed to see something beautiful taking root: a woman in the middle of becoming.

Months have passed since that morning. The healing is still ongoing (body, mind, and spirit) but I can feel a shift. Soon, I’ll step back into the studio, this time beneath warm, forgiving light instead of the fluorescent kind. Pamela will adjust the music. Mateusz will adjust the lens. And I will take a breath and adjust my posture (not from self-consciousness, but from ownership.)

Because this body, the one that has been cut open, stitched, reshaped, and reimagined, is mine . The same hands that trembled on the hospital bed will rest confidently on silk sheets. The same shoulders that bore the weight of fear will roll back into grace.

The same eyes that saw me at my most fragile will help me see myself as whole again.
Sometimes you need to borrow a lens.

Photography, for me, isn’t just art…it’s medicine. Not the kind that heals wounds, but the kind that helps you see yourself clearly. The kind that reminds you that beauty isn’t something you have to earn back . It’s something that never left.

Hospitals saved my life... Silk + Salt will help me celebrate it.

Every click of the shutter will be an act of reclamation. Every frame will whisper: You are here. You are radiant. You are allowed to take up space again.

When that day comes, I won’t just be taking photos.

I’ll be taking my body back.

Not the old one. The true one. The one that survived.

And to every woman who’s still finding her way back to herself:

Sometimes healing begins when you let someone else hold the mirror.

Sometimes, you just need to borrow a lens.

Exploring Your Gender Identity Through Boudoir

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 21:27:35 GMT

Why Silk + Salt Is a Safe Space for All

Boudoir photography is often seen as a celebration of femininity—but at Silk + Salt, it’s so much more than that. It’s a celebration of you. Your body. Your identity. Your story.

Whether you're trans, non-binary, gender-fluid, or still exploring where you land on the gender spectrum, we want you to know: you are welcome here exactly as you are. Your boudoir session isn’t about fitting into anyone else’s version of sexy—it’s about discovering and celebrating what feels true to you.

Your Session, Your Identity

There is no one way to “look” or “pose” in boudoir. At Silk + Salt, we reject rigid gender norms and expectations. We co-create every session with our clients so that your images feel authentic—not performative. Whether you want to embody softness, strength, fluidity, mystery, vulnerability, power—or all of the above—your session is built around your expression and comfort.

You get to choose the vibe. The wardrobe. The energy. The story you want to tell.

This is a place to try something new, to affirm who you are, or to simply play in the space between. There's no wrong way to show up here.

A Safe, Respectful, and Judgment-Free Space

We know it takes courage to step in front of the camera—especially if you're questioning your gender identity or have had past experiences that made you feel unseen or misunderstood. That’s why we approach every session with respect, curiosity, and zero assumptions .

You’ll never be misgendered, pressured into a pose, or expected to present yourself in a way that doesn’t feel right.

We believe safety comes from being seen and heard—and we make it our priority to create a space where you can let your guard down, take up space, and be celebrated without exception.

We Celebrate Every Version of You

Maybe you’re still discovering what feels like “you.” Maybe your relationship with your body is complicated. Maybe you’re trying to reconnect with yourself after transitioning—or before.

Wherever you are in your journey, a boudoir session can be a powerful way to reconnect with your body and spirit on your terms. It’s about self-love—but it’s also about self- discovery .

And we’re honored to be a part of that.

Final Thoughts: This Is Your Space

You don’t need to “look” a certain way. You don’t need to have all the answers. And you definitely don’t need to shrink or hide who you are.

At Silk + Salt, we’re here to hold space for every version of you—with care, warmth, and zero judgment.

You are worthy of being seen. You are worthy of being celebrated. And we can’t wait to show you just how stunning your truth looks on camera.

Why Every Couple Should Do a Boudoir Session Together

Sun, 11 May 2025 19:51:47 GMT

When you think of boudoir photography, you probably imagine a solo shoot—one person celebrating their sensuality, strength, and beauty. But here’s the secret more couples are discovering: boudoir isn’t just for one. Couples boudoir sessions are an incredible way to connect, celebrate your relationship, and create images that are as powerful as they are intimate.

Whether you’re newly in love, celebrating a milestone, or simply want to reconnect on a deeper level, here’s why a couples boudoir session might be exactly what your relationship needs.

1. It Brings You Closer—Literally and Emotionally

A couples boudoir shoot is a unique opportunity to be present with your partner in a whole new way. Between careers, parenting, and day-to-day responsibilities, it’s easy to forget what it feels like to simply be with each other—no distractions, just connection.

During the session, you’ll laugh, flirt, cuddle, and maybe even surprise yourself with just how comfortable and connected you feel. It’s a beautiful reminder of your physical and emotional bond—and the best part? You’ll have stunning images to look back on that capture that exact energy.

2. It’s a Confidence Booster—for Both of You

Let’s be honest: everyone has insecurities. But something truly magical happens when you step in front of the camera together. You stop worrying about “posing right” or “looking perfect” and start focusing on how good it feels to simply enjoy each other.

Seeing your partner look at you with genuine admiration, excitement, and love? It’s powerful. And seeing yourself through their eyes—in a beautifully crafted image—is a confidence boost that lasts well beyond the shoot.

3. It’s a Shared Experience You’ll Never Forget

Couples boudoir isn’t just a photo shoot—it’s an experience. From planning the vibe (moody? playful? steamy?) to picking out outfits (or none at all), to sipping champagne and being pampered before the session, it’s something you do together.

You’ll walk away with a collection of images—but also inside jokes, memories, and probably a story or two you’ll be telling for years.

4. It Rekindles the Spark

We hear it all the time: “We haven’t done something like this since our honeymoon,” or “This is the first time in years I’ve felt seen by my partner like this.”

There’s something about stepping into a space designed to make you feel attractive and empowered that naturally translates into deeper intimacy. A boudoir session helps you celebrate your chemistry—and maybe even rediscover it.

5. The Photos Are Truly One-of-a-Kind

Let’s face it: most couples' photos are selfies at dinner, or awkwardly posed portraits. A couples boudoir session gives you a chance to create something extraordinary. Whether it’s sultry black-and-whites, soft romantic moments, or bold, artistic shots—your gallery becomes a reflection of your unique connection.

And no, you don’t have to go “all the way” with nudity or overt sensuality. Couples boudoir is as steamy—or as subtle—as you want it to be. It’s all about your comfort level and what feels authentic to you both.

6. It’s a Celebration of Your Relationship, Right Now

Every stage of a relationship is worth celebrating. Whether you're dating, engaged, newlyweds, or decades into marriage—this is about honoring where you are right now. You don’t need a “perfect” body, a special occasion, or a reason. Your love story is reason enough.

Final Thoughts

If you're looking for a way to reconnect, spice things up, or simply do something different and unforgettable with your partner—a couples boudoir session is the ultimate experience.

It’s romantic. It’s fun. It’s empowering. And it just might be the best date night you’ve ever had.

Reclaiming Sexy: How Boudoir Helps You Feel Desirable Again (Yes, Especially After 40)

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 22:14:13 GMT

How Silk + Salt Can Help You Reconnect with Your Sensuality

Let me start with this:

Sexy doesn’t have a shelf life.

If you’re over 40 and wondering if boudoir is “still for you”—I want you to know, not only is it for you, it might just be exactly what you’ve been missing.

Because somewhere between juggling work, family, and being everything to everyone else, it’s easy to lose touch with your own sensuality. That quiet confidence. That spark that once made you feel magnetic.

And boudoir? It’s a beautiful, empowering way to reconnect with that part of yourself.

You are not a before-and-after.

At Silk + Salt, we don’t shoot boudoir to transform you into someone else. We do it to show you what’s always been there. We work with real women—women with laugh lines, stretch marks, stories—and every single one of them walks away seeing themselves differently.

It’s not about looking 25 again.

It’s about feeling like you again.

Confident. Desirable. Alive.

“Pamela and Mateusz are simply the best. This isn’t just a service or a product, it’s an experience. It will absolutely change the way you feel and the way you see yourself. I felt safe, sexy, and FUN!!!! Seeing my photos at the reveal changed my life. You might be thinking that you’ll gift these photos to someone but GODDESS — this is truly a gift for yourself. Every woman should have a session!!! I will absolutely be returning for more. I love you Matt & Pamela!!!” - Mauni Krueger

You don’t need to know how to pose.

One of the biggest worries we hear from clients? “I wouldn’t know what to do in front of the camera.” Totally normal—and totally not a problem.

We guide you through everything. You’ll walk in nervous, and leave feeling like a goddess. We use natural, flattering light, gentle posing, and lots of encouragement to bring out the version of you your best friends and partner see—the one you might’ve forgotten to look for in the mirror.

You don’t have to try to be sexy.

You already are.

“10/10 would recommend! Mateusz and Pamela were amazing and SO accommodating. They made me feel so comfortable in my skin and were very professional. I have been telling all of my friends that they NEED to book a shoot because it was such a fun day! I’d love to do another one as a couples shoot one day. SUCH beautiful images and I’m so so happy with how they turned out!” - Shelby Watts

This is personal for me, too.

I, Pamela, started Silk + Salt the year I turned 40.

Something about that milestone hit different. I’d always heard the message: 40 is “over the hill,” the beginning of the end of sexy, of fun, of adventure. But stepping into this work changed everything for me.

Boudoir helped me see my 40s in a new light—not as the start of decline, but as the start of awakening.

I felt hopeful, alive, and grounded in a way I never had before. And somewhere in the middle of all this creating and capturing beauty, I realized: this would be the decade I stepped into my power. This would be the decade I found my voice. And yes—this would be the decade I had the best sex of my life.

That’s the kind of fire I want to help you tap into.

This is about more than photos.

Sure, you’ll walk away with stunning images (and trust me—you’ll love them). But more than that? You’ll walk away changed.

We’ve had women come in after divorce, after cancer, after babies, after years of putting themselves last. They walk in feeling unsure, and leave saying things like:

“I didn’t expect to feel this different. But I look at those photos and I see myself again.”

Because it’s not just a shoot. It’s a reclamation. Of sensuality. Of confidence. Of your right to feel beautiful, powerful, and desired—right now.

“Pamela and Mateusz are so classy and professional! Five stars is truly not enough for this life-changing experience, and their quality is unmatched. I was so impressed by the way they cared about the specific results I was looking for and how they went out of their way to achieve them. I was stunned by how much younger I looked and how beautifully enhanced my natural features were after Eleyna did my makeup and I’ve been trying to replicate it since!” - Caitlin Wall

“Silk and Salt provided an absolutely wonderful experience! I was so nervous going into the photo shoot, but everyone there made me feel so comfortable and at ease. The makeup artist was so sweet, Pamela was so helpful, and Mat was the best photographer anyone could ask for! He was so supportive and always giving such kind compliments. Their prices are also so so so worth what you are getting, the photos are top notch. I would recommend highly to anyone looking to do a photo shoot :)” - Kierra R

You're not too old. You're in your prime.

If no one has told you this lately: you are stunning. You are magnetic. You are worthy of being seen—not just in everyday moments, but in the ones where you feel most fully yourself.

So if you’ve been waiting for a sign, this is it.

Let us show you what everyone else sees:

A woman in her prime.

Let’s make some magic!

Why Hiring a Male Photographer for Your Boudoir Session Might Be the Best Decision You’ll Make

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 22:16:50 GMT

Let’s be real—boudoir photography is intimate. Trusting someone to capture your most vulnerable and empowered self can feel daunting. And when you find out that the photographer is a man? For some, that might raise a few eyebrows.

But here’s the truth: hiring a male photographer for your boudoir session can be an incredible experience—one that leaves you feeling empowered, beautiful, and totally comfortable. Let’s explore why working with a male boudoir photographer can be a game-changer—and bust a few myths along the way.

Why Choose a Male Photographer?

�� A Fresh Perspective

A male photographer can bring a unique artistic lens to boudoir photography. While female photographers may understand the female form from their own lived experience, a male photographer often has a different creative perspective on lighting, angles, and emotion. This can result in truly captivating images that highlight your strength and sensuality.

�� Comfort and Connection

It might surprise you to know that many clients report feeling completely comfortable with a male photographer—sometimes even more so than with a female one! Why? A professional male photographer knows how to create a safe, judgment-free zone where you can relax and truly shine.

�� Professionalism Above All

The most important factor in any boudoir session isn’t the photographer’s gender—it’s their professionalism. A skilled photographer understands that creating a comfortable and respectful environment is key to capturing authentic, stunning images.

Common Misconceptions About Hiring a Male Boudoir Photographer

Let’s tackle some of the most common myths about working with a male boudoir photographer:

❌ "It will be awkward."

It’s natural to feel a little nervous before a boudoir session, but a professional photographer knows how to help you relax. Through clear communication, gentle guidance, and a laid-back approach, any awkwardness melts away quickly.

�� "Mateusz was pure magic. He was very respectful and positive. He made the experience fun and easy! He would direct us in how to pose, while still allowing for our own natural flow. His enthusiasm was contagious, and I laughed out loud several times from his excitement when I ‘nailed a pose!’"

❌ "A male photographer might be inappropriate."

A professional photographer operates with integrity and respect at all times. Boundaries are always honored, and a skilled photographer will never touch you or make you feel uncomfortable.

�� “Mateusz is an incredibly talented artist that will make you feel like a rockstar while at the same time creating an environment that is so, so safe.”

❌ "He won’t understand how to flatter my body."

A good photographer understands lighting, angles, and body positioning—regardless of gender. Male photographers are just as capable of capturing your most flattering side as female ones.

�� "They really want to understand what YOU want out of your session. I left feeling like I was on a high! I felt empowered. Sexy. Genuinely grateful and happy."

The Importance of Professionalism

Above all, professionalism is key. A professional boudoir photographer:
✅ Will never touch you without consent.
✅ Will communicate clearly and respectfully.
✅ Will make sure you feel comfortable, empowered, and in control.

It’s normal to feel vulnerable during a boudoir session, but the right photographer will put you at ease and help you embrace that vulnerability as strength.

What Clients Are Saying

Don’t just take our word for it—here’s what our clients have said about working with a male boudoir photographer:

⭐️ "It's not even exaggerating when I say my time spent with Silk + Salt was life-changing. I have come out of this entire experience with more self-compassion and confidence than I've ever thought possible. Mateusz is an incredibly talented artist that will make you feel like a rockstar while at the same time creating an environment that is so, so safe."

⭐️ "I’ve followed Silk + Salt on Instagram and Facebook and have seen enough of their work to know I’d have amazing pictures—but what I couldn’t know until I experienced it myself was how pampered and loved, cared for… how NURTURED I would feel. How they were able to capture such a variety of emotions—and mirror them back to me so that I could see the beauty in each of those emotions. How SAFE and comfortable I could feel in such a potentially vulnerable state."

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, the photographer’s gender isn’t nearly as important as their professionalism, artistic vision, and ability to make you feel comfortable and beautiful. A male photographer can bring a fresh perspective, a calming presence, and a whole lot of talent to your boudoir session.

So if you’re on the fence about hiring a male photographer for your boudoir shoot—go for it! You might just walk away with more confidence and self-love than you ever imagined.

Boudoir Is an Act of Self-love

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 00:44:08 GMT

Why Boudoir for You?

Have you ever thought about doing a boudoir photo shoot but quickly dismissed the idea, thinking it was only something to do for a partner or spouse? It's easy to assume that boudoir photography is all about giving someone else a special gift — something sexy, intimate, and designed to make their jaw drop. But here’s the truth: a boudoir shoot is, first and foremost, an incredible gift to yourself.

In a world where women are constantly putting others’ needs first — whether it’s caring for family, supporting friends, or managing work responsibilities — it’s easy to forget that taking time for yourself is just as important. A boudoir photo session isn’t just about capturing a moment; it’s about reconnecting with yourself, celebrating your unique beauty, and stepping into your personal power in a way you may have never experienced before.

Boudoir Photography as an Act of Self-Love

Let’s start with what boudoir photography is. Simply put, it’s a genre of photography designed to showcase your sensuality, confidence, and personality. But there’s so much more to it than just the photos. It’s an opportunity to connect with your body, your emotions, and your inner self in a way that can be incredibly empowering.

Self-love and body positivity have become buzzwords in recent years, but boudoir photography allows you to experience these concepts in a tangible way. It’s about more than posing in a sexy outfit or wearing glamorous makeup — it’s about allowing yourself to be seen and embracing the woman you are, right here, right now. It’s an opportunity to honor the body that carries you through life, whether it’s marked by scars, stretch marks, or the wisdom of age. Through the lens of a boudoir photographer, you’ll see yourself through a new, loving perspective — one that reflects your strength, grace, and authenticity.

The Empowerment Factor

Imagine this: you step into a space designed just for you, where the lighting is soft, the atmosphere is welcoming, and the photographer is dedicated to making you feel comfortable and confident. The focus is entirely on you, your beauty, and your spirit. This is the magic of boudoir photography — it’s a chance to show up in a space that’s entirely about you being seen, celebrated, and empowered.

For many women, this experience is a turning point in how they see themselves. Boudoir shoots offer a rare opportunity to fully step into your confidence. It’s about shedding self-doubt and letting go of insecurities, even if just for a moment. No matter your body type or age, boudoir photography is an opportunity to embrace your full, authentic self. The shoot is yours to direct — whether you want to show off your playful side, your fierce side, or your elegant side, it’s all about expressing your unique personality and sensuality.

And here’s the beauty: when you’re feeling empowered in front of the camera, that energy translates into more than just beautiful photos. It spills over into your life, boosting your confidence and changing the way you see yourself in the mirror every day.

The Life-Changing Impact

Many women who have done a boudoir photo shoot report that it was a life-changing experience. It’s not just about the photos you walk away with (though they are, of course, stunning); it’s about the feeling of confidence and empowerment that stays with you long after the shoot is over.

Women often talk about how the shoot helped them reconnect with their bodies and embrace parts of themselves they had previously ignored or criticized. For some, it’s a way to reclaim their sense of self after significant life changes, such as a breakup, pregnancy, or a milestone birthday. For others, it’s simply an opportunity to tap into the confidence they know is within them but haven’t fully expressed. No matter what brings you to the session, boudoir photography helps you realize that you are deserving of love, admiration, and respect — from yourself and others.

What makes boudoir truly transformative is that the impact goes beyond the photo shoot itself. Many women report looking back at their photos years later and still feeling the rush of confidence and empowerment they experienced during the session. The images become a lasting reminder of their strength, beauty, and the power of self-love.

Why You Don’t Need a Partner to Do a Boudoir Shoot

Sure, boudoir photography can be a wonderful gift for a partner. It’s sexy, intimate, and personal. But let’s be honest: the experience is so much more when it’s for YOU. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we need to do something for someone else to validate our worth. We often feel pressure to look a certain way or act in a way that pleases others. A boudoir session, however, is the perfect opportunity to let go of that mindset.

This is your moment. A boudoir shoot is about reclaiming your own story, your own beauty, and your own sense of self. It’s a celebration of YOU — independent of anyone else’s approval or expectations. It’s a reminder that you are worthy of admiration, and that starts with how you see yourself.

Taking the time to invest in yourself and your confidence isn’t selfish. It’s one of the most profound acts of self-love you can offer. Boudoir photography allows you to connect with yourself in an intimate, authentic way, and in turn, it empowers you to live life unapologetically — just as you are.

What to Expect and How to Prepare

If you’re ready to take the plunge, here’s what you can expect when you book a boudoir shoot. First and foremost, you’ll be guided through every step of the process. Your photographer will help you choose outfits that make you feel confident, comfortable, and true to your style. You’ll have the opportunity to discuss your vision for the shoot and talk about any insecurities or things you’re feeling unsure about — a good photographer will be there to help you feel at ease.

The preparation for your boudoir session can be as fun and exciting as the shoot itself! Think about the vibe you want to create — maybe it’s soft and romantic, or bold and daring. Don’t be afraid to bring along accessories like jewelry, scarves, or shoes that make you feel extra special. And most importantly, bring your authentic self. This is about celebrating who you are, not who you think you should be.

Remember, a boudoir shoot is all about you feeling amazing. Your photographer will guide you, but the most important thing is to embrace the experience with an open heart. It’s an act of courage, and you’ll leave the session with more confidence than you ever imagined.

A Gift You’ll Cherish Forever

Boudoir photography isn’t just about taking beautiful photos; it’s about capturing a moment in time where you fully embrace who you are. It’s a celebration of your beauty, your strength, and your unique story. Whether you keep the photos for yourself, share them with a partner, or just admire them as a reminder of your own power, the experience will stay with you forever.

So why not give yourself the ultimate gift? The gift of confidence, the gift of self-love, and the gift of a life-changing experience that celebrates YOU. A boudoir photo shoot is more than just a session; it’s a way to honor yourself, rediscover your inner strength, and create lasting memories you’ll cherish for years to come.

Change Your Tune Podcast

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 19:03:41 GMT

Change Your Tune with our very own Mateusz!

Learn about Mateusz's origin story as he moves from the world of classical music to the artistry of photography.

23:08: The thing I’m most grateful for (that I learned from) music is listening. That’s the thing that I translate to everything in my life, you know, my relationships obviously, but like photography the more I do it, the deeper I dive into it, the more I realize that it’s much more about listening than looking. And it’s the same, I try to just... listen to life. Just for the lack of a better word I’ll call it listening to the universe... There are things in front of us, around us, but we’re just not used to listening and looking anymore really, you know, so opening yourself up to it-it’s been my greatest treasure.

My Boudoir Experience

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 15:37:58 GMT

I am a researcher by nature. I gather information, mull it over, think about all the scenarios and possible outcomes before making a decision. In some way, this gave me a sense of control in my life. I could predict how things would go, and if they fell into another scenario, well, I had already thought about that and could figure it out when that moment came.

For years, this system never failed me. So imagine my shock when my marriage of 13 years came crashing down around me. Infidelity, a much younger woman. Having to sell our home, divide assets, move myself and my children into a family member’s home. I was broken in every sense of the word. I remember feeling so helpless, so unloved. Until one night I was scrolling on my phone mindlessly when I saw an advertisement for a boudoir studio. I clicked on the pictures, suddenly so envious of the ladies in them. They looked so confident, so happy, so…beautiful. I figured it was some kind of magical camera trick or clever editing but I was hooked. And true to my programming…I started researching.

I started with following multiple studios on social media. I wanted to see their Behind the Scenes, the “before and afters” and of course all the sets and wardrobes! I mentioned to my friend that I was looking at studios and she mentioned Silk + Salt. I hopped on my phone and was immediately blown away! The pictures were stunning! The vibe was exactly what I was looking for. Pamela and Mateusz seemed to truly LOVE their job. I silently followed them, liking a post here and there for months. I kept thinking “those women are prettier than I am. Younger for sure. There’s no way I could look THAT good…unless..”

Unless I took that next step. At this point, I was healing from my divorce and trying to find who *I* was again. I took dance classes, I made jewelry, and with every new and scary thing.. I learned that new and scary usually meant new and exciting.

The next time Pamela posted about booking a shoot, I had a glass or 2 of wine and I took a deep breath and hit “book now”.

When I TELL YOU that I was wrapped up in so much support immediately I am not kidding. Pamela reached out to me with a welcome email, we booked a “pre-shoot” call with her and Mateusz to meet each other and talk about my expectations for the shoot. They emailed resources on self compassion, body image, pre-shoot planning and more. Every email made me more excited, and having Pamela so close (text, email, or a phone call away) was a life saver!

As my shoot approached I noticed I was getting more and more excited. I had told Pamela that I didn’t have a lot of “sexy” clothes and she assured me that I could bring anything I felt comfortable and pretty in, but that there was a FULL closet I could choose from, with all sizes and levels of spice. It took the “what will I wear” out of the equation.

The day of my shoot I showed up and Pamela met me at the door.. I was pampered with cozy robes, yummy snack plates and an amazing hair and makeup artist.

Pamela helped me pick out some great outfits and by the time we were ready to start taking pictures, all my nerves melted away.

I’ll spare you all the boring play by plays of the shoot but Mateusz was wonderful in helping me pose and move. I remember thinking that maybe.. Just maybe.. My pictures would look like the ones I had been stalking for months on social media. I left that day on cloud 9, feeling for the first time in a long time like a sensual beautiful woman. I couldn’t wait for my reveal.

When I headed back into the studio for my photos, I was back to that anxious “what if I just look silly” person.. Convinced that I wasn’t going to like the pictures because I was still working on liking ME.

Cue Pamela to save the day, again. Sitting on the couch with my hype woman, Suzy, Pamela pulled up my pictures and tears immediately formed in my eyes.

The person on the screen was me, stunning, soft, lovely ME. and for the first time since my divorce, I felt like I looked beautiful, desirable and amazing. Each picture made my heart sing. There I was, not the tired, stressed single mom. I was sensual, inviting, and beautiful. Mateusz captured me in so many ways, and for the first time in a long time, I felt really good about myself. And that magic I was so convinced was a camera trick or an editing hack? Well, that magic actually came from inside me and I just needed some help pulling it out.

I walked out of the studio a changed woman. The confidence that booking a shoot gave me can’t be measured. While I still have healing to do, looking at these photos reminds me that I am strong, and capable, but I am also soft and gentle. Sometimes you need a reminder that you are both.

The Empowering Benefits of Doing a Boudoir Photo Shoot with a Disability

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 20:29:14 GMT

Boudoir photography has long been celebrated as a powerful way for individuals to embrace their sensuality, self-confidence, and beauty. While it’s often associated with women looking to create intimate gifts or celebrate milestones, boudoir photography is for everyone. For those with disabilities, participating in a boudoir shoot can offer even more profound, life-changing benefits. It can become an empowering act of self-love, a way to celebrate your body, and an opportunity to reclaim your sense of agency and confidence.

If you’re living with a disability, whether visible or invisible, a boudoir photo shoot can help you see yourself in a new light and appreciate your body in ways you may not have considered before. Below are some of the many benefits of doing a boudoir photo shoot with a disability.

1. Reclaiming Your Body

Disabilities often come with a sense of disconnection from your own body. Chronic pain, limited mobility, or visible changes to your physical form can make it difficult to feel at home in your skin. A boudoir photo shoot offers the chance to reclaim your body and celebrate it for everything it is. Boudoir is about focusing on how you look, not what you’re “supposed” to look like according to society’s standards.

Through the lens of an experienced photographer like Mateusz, who understands and appreciates diverse bodies, you can embrace your physical self—whether that’s a scar, a prosthetic limb, or the way your body moves differently. The photos can serve as a visual reminder of your strength, beauty, and resilience.

2. Boosting Self-Confidence and Self-Love

Living with a disability can sometimes lead to feelings of isolation or low self-esteem, especially if society’s beauty standards don't seem to include you. Boudoir photography offers a safe space where you can cultivate self-confidence. The experience is all about celebrating your unique form, not about conforming to traditional ideals of beauty. As you see yourself through the camera’s eye, you may find that the way you perceive your body changes—sparking a deeper sense of love and admiration for who you are.

The results from a boudoir photo shoot are tangible. Seeing professional photos that highlight your strength, elegance, and sensuality can give you a powerful reminder of your worth, helping to counteract negative feelings that may arise due to your disability.

3. Empowerment and Agency

Disabilities can sometimes strip people of their sense of agency, whether it’s from medical treatments, caretaking, or simply the daily challenges of living with a disability. A boudoir shoot is an opportunity to take control of your narrative, on your terms. You get to decide what to wear, what pose feels most empowering, and how you want to represent yourself in the photos. It’s about giving yourself permission to be seen and heard in your most authentic form.

Through boudoir photography, you are the director of your own self-image. This sense of agency can be incredibly empowering, allowing you to break free from the limitations or stereotypes that others may place on you because of your disability.

4. Overcoming Social Stigma and Stereotypes

Many individuals with disabilities experience stigma or feel objectified based on the assumptions people make about their bodies. Boudoir photography allows you to challenge these preconceived notions by presenting yourself in an empowered, confident light. It gives you the chance to be seen as a person first and foremost, with desires, beauty, and sensuality that extend beyond the scope of disability.

Moreover, by sharing your boudoir photos (if you choose to), you help normalize the idea that all bodies—regardless of ability—deserve to be celebrated. You can help others with disabilities see themselves in a new, more positive light and inspire them to embrace their own beauty.

5. Healing and Therapy

For some, a boudoir photo shoot can also be a form of therapy. It can be an act of healing if you’ve experienced trauma, body image struggles, or emotional challenges related to your disability. The process of being photographed in a way that emphasizes your strength and beauty can be cathartic. It may provide a sense of closure or emotional release, helping you work through difficult feelings in a creative, non-verbal way.

Boudoir photography offers a unique opportunity to connect with yourself, reclaim your self-worth, and perhaps even rediscover parts of your body or identity that you may have neglected or overlooked. For some, the experience may be a transformative step on the road to self-acceptance and healing.

6. Celebrating Your Milestones

Boudoir shoots aren’t just about celebrating beauty in a conventional sense—they can also be a way to honor personal milestones. If you’ve recently overcome an illness, undergone a significant medical procedure, or adapted to a new way of life with your disability, a boudoir shoot can be a beautiful way to commemorate those achievements. It's a reminder that you are strong, resilient, and capable, no matter what challenges life has thrown your way.

Many people use boudoir photos as a gift to themselves, marking an important transition or achievement. A disability doesn’t make those moments less important—if anything, they make them more powerful and worthy of celebration.

7. A Boost to Relationships

If you're in a relationship, a boudoir photo shoot can deepen intimacy and help you reconnect with your partner(s) in new, exciting ways. Disabilities can sometimes make individuals feel disconnected from their partners or even feel that their disability affects their relationship. By doing a boudoir shoot, you may rediscover a side of yourself that reignites passion, sensuality, and intimacy in your relationship.

It’s also an opportunity to demonstrate to your partner(s) that, no matter what physical challenges you may face, your sense of self-worth and desirability remains intact. This shared experience can foster deeper connection and understanding between you and your partner(s).

8. Challenging Beauty Norms

The beauty industry has historically neglected the representation of people with disabilities. However, boudoir photography is evolving to become more inclusive. A boudoir photo shoot can serve as a direct challenge to traditional beauty standards, which often overlook the diversity of body types, abilities, and identities. When you choose to participate in a boudoir shoot, you’re actively helping to redefine what beauty means—showing that beauty and sensuality don’t have to conform to any one mold.

By embracing your own unique beauty, you contribute to a growing movement of body-positive representation that includes all bodies, regardless of ability.

Boudoir photography can be an incredibly empowering and transformative experience for individuals with disabilities. Whether you’re reclaiming your body, boosting your confidence, challenging societal beauty standards, or simply celebrating yourself, a boudoir shoot has the potential to provide a profound sense of empowerment and self-love. In a world that sometimes feels dismissive of bodies that don’t fit conventional norms, boudoir photography offers an opportunity to be unapologetically yourself and to celebrate your beauty in every form.

If you’ve been considering a boudoir shoot, remember that it’s a celebration of you—just as you are, with all your strength, beauty, and uniqueness.

Workshop with Szymon Brodziak

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 15:37:24 GMT

BW-only workshop with one of the best in the world

This October, I had the chance to attend another workshop—this time with one of my favorite photographers, Szymon Brodziak, who is regarded as one of the best black-and-white photographers in the world. Since I began my journey in photography, I’ve carried over many habits from my 20 years of classical music training. One of those habits is a commitment to continuous learning and growth, no matter how proficient I may already be. Each year, I seek inspiration and insights from the best of the best to bring fresh energy to our sessions at Silk + Salt.

Although the workshop took place in Greece, I didn’t get to see much of the country because we spent nearly all our time focused on photography and learning. I only caught a distant glimpse of the Parthenon, so I’m already eager to return and experience the rich history there. It was essentially a non-stop schedule: straight from the airport to the workshop, then back to the airport three days later when it ended.

What makes these high-level workshops truly remarkable is the community of photographers who share a drive for improvement. The conversations, the exchange of philosophies, and the sharing of experiences create a unique atmosphere. Social media has changed the way we interact with each other, and while we are more connected than ever, it often feels like we’re also more distant. It was fascinating for me to experience photography in my native Polish language. It became a personal experiment to see how differently my mind and heart responded with a camera in hand while speaking Polish instead of English

So, what am I bringing back from this short yet incredible time spent with Brodziak? Above all, even more energy and love for what I do. I think anyone who has met me—or especially those who have had a session with me—can feel the passion I have for what we do at Silk + Salt and what we stand for as a boudoir studio, especially here in Utah. The most important part of this work for me is meeting you and creating together. Every session is deeply personal, and watching Szymon create his sessions broadened my vision of how much more I can offer to each client. Your story is also part of my story, and capturing that together in our photos is essential to me.

It’s rewarding to see that the people who inspire me share similar processes and philosophies. It reassures me that we bring you the highest level of service and photographic quality, on par with the best in the world.

One thing is for sure—every day, we aim to end the day better than we started, and we’ll continue to do so always.

Your Body is an Instrument

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 00:38:48 GMT

by Vanessa Rae

I won't lie to you, speaking on the topic of body positivity makes me cringe and squirm with uncomfortable feelings. In intimate and trusted spaces, I've been a fly on the wall for many conversations on the topic, politely nodding in agreement while in my head I say to myself, “this doesn't apply to you.” There are many points to be made about body acceptance, body image, and body dysmorphia, all of which I believe are important and deserve to hold space in conversation. But what if I care less about what my body looks like, and more about what it feels like? How it functions, and more importantly, how it sometimes doesn't function the way I want it to?

I hold space for many women who struggle with body acceptance, and although I don't share in their struggles with body image, it's hard for me to accept when my body is hurting, injured, or needs accommodations that are potentially inconvenient for others. I've spent a lot of my life down-playing physical pain and pushing my body way past its limits, which in hindsight is extremely self destructive. However, since I haven't faced insecurities about how my body looks, I sometimes feel as though my negative feelings towards my body don't deserve to be talked about in body acceptance conversations. I can't be the only one who feels this way, right?

About a month ago, almost to the day, I sustained a work injury that has left me unable to do basic household chores, drive a car, or even shower without pain - and that is SUPER frustrating! On top of constantly feeling like a burden to my friends for inconveniencing our lunch dates with my food allergies, I now rely on them to help me through my day-to-day tasks and it's difficult not to be disappointed or frustrated with my body for not being up to it. I'm embarrassed by my body when it “gets in the way” of what I want to do, and what my friends want to do. It's obvious to me that this way of thinking is due to societal and patriarchal programming from a young age, and the voice in my head that’s telling me my body is “inconveniencing” others is a voice only I can hear.

Lexie and Lindsay Kite's book “More Than a Body: Your Body is an Instrument not an Ornament” shows you how you can use those experiences to heal your relationship with your body, rather than staying stuck in a shame spiral. This book was absolutely revolutionary for my way of thinking about the functionality of my body. The quote that particularly spoke to me was from Lexie saying, “When we are self objectifying, our identities are split in two; the one living her life, and the one watching and judging her.” That line hit me like a punch to the gut. Turns out even if body insecurities are seated in functionality rather than image, they originate from the same way of thinking, and are equally deserving of understanding and healing! Although I may not frequently feel embarrassed by my body image, I still experience the same range of emotions and thought processes of any other woman that struggles with directing positive thoughts towards her body.

Okay, so my body is an instrument, not an ornament. I couldn't agree more, but let's get a little deeper into deconstructing the shame spiral that surfaces when the instrument is under repair, or doesn't function the way it's “supposed to.” First thing I gotta ask is, what do you mean by, “supposed to?” In the case of a work injury, it's easy to jump to the idea that how my body is meant to function is, of course, without the injury. But the very idea that my body is “supposed to” work a certain way is not the same as hoping for my body to heal. One feels like frustration and impatience, the other feels like self love and acceptance. The first step to deconstructing the shame spiral is identifying the difference between passive thinking and self-actualized thinking. Lindsay Kite goes on to explain, “When we live our lives in this perpetual state of body monitoring, we are living passively, being judged and consumed by ourselves and others - not self-actualized humans actively making choices.” In other words, whose standards am I holding myself to? And why the hell do I care about meeting those standards?

Let's take a step back. Viewing your body as an instrument and identifying self-actualized thinking are great points to make about body acceptance, and speak heavily on the topic of body image. But my body embarrasses and frustrates me the most when I can't enjoy my hobbies because of it and when I feel like I'm “missing out” on fun activities. It's hard not to place blame on myself or my body for not being up to task and needing rest - and let's be honest - it's okay to be frustrated about frustrating things. I'm learning to remind myself that it's valid to be frustrated about the situation, but to be careful not to direct that frustration onto myself and let it turn into embarrassment. The truth is, there's nothing to be embarrassed about, everyone needs help sometimes. And sometimes, I put WAY too much pressure on myself to be operating at 100% everyday. Reading what Lexie Kite had to say, “My body was never the problem - my perception of my body was the problem.” is absolutely something I hold onto in those frustrating moments.

You, yes you reading this right now. This applies to you, too. Your body is an instrument, it's capable of some pretty freaking amazing things, and just like any instrument, it's going to need maintenance and repair. Your body, and the way it helps you transverse this world, can never keep you from what you choose to experience in life, only how you get to experience it. Your body is worthy of taking up space, receiving accommodation, and being viewed with grace - especially by you.

Silk + Salt Fashion Show

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 20:40:23 GMT

Alternative Fashion Show 2024

CLIENT CLOSET SET: All of these pieces were borrowed from our client closet...

AND THE WINNER IS...

Competitions

Thu, 04 Jul 2024 22:22:17 GMT

Competitions, Awards, and Why They're Important to Me by Mateusz

In the photography community competitions are a subject without a clear consensus among the majority of photographers. One cannot judge art like a math test and therefore photo competitions in a way seem to be completely pointless. And I completely agree with that. Why do I participate in them regularly then? Let me explain.

I come from a classical music background, education that is extremely deeply rooted in tradition and carrying the torch of arts through many centuries. One of the reasons I left music for photography is that after studying it for more than 20 years I felt like it became a kind of a corporate equivalent in the art world – I felt like I was playing other people’s music and not my own. On top of it I had to play it in an extremely specific way if I even dreamt of winning an audition to a major orchestra one day and therefore fulfilling the classical musician dream. That to me was not art and it became the clear reason why I fell in love with photography so hard and deep immediately upon picking up my first camera.

That is why in photography I cherish originality, expressiveness, and honesty above technicality, setups, and soulless copying of what others might be doing. Why do I send my photographs to competitions then? Isn’t that the exact opposite of why I fell in love with it in the first place? Absolutely, definitely, positively yes. BUT. I also took and transposed (hehe) a lot of the training I received as a musician into learning and exploring photography. When I was a musician, I was constantly growing in an environment where natural and institutional competition was a constant thing. We were constantly judged – in lessons, in rehearsals, in our own practice time by ourselves. On top of it, students would often ask their friends and peers to perform mock auditions in front of each other in other to gather critique and insight into the things we might be not hearing ourselves. These types of rituals were sometimes extremely stressful and nerve wracking but they also often hardened all of us and made us better faster than any other way ever could.

This does not really exist in photography. Back in the day there used to be photography clubs and community meetings that worked in a similar way but nowadays in the age of internet, it became exponentially easier for people to upload something to the internet and just watch the number of likes and reactions, rather than having a real conversation about art and deeper meaning of it. Critique became unwelcome because most photographers out there do it just for fun – it’s their hobby and they don’t need to challenge themselves in these more stressful and sometimes tough situations.

Competitions for me are a great way to stay in touch with myself. I value opinion of other professionals who are at the top of the industry looking at what I create and giving me a feedback. What is the most important to me though, is how I react to it. For example, if I send a photograph to be judged and it scores high, perhaps even gets to the final round, and gets an honorable mention but does not win – I am actually sometimes even more happy because of it. I look at the comments and other photographs that won. If my photograph did not win because I “should spend more time on editing and making sure skin looks spotless” or I did not win because “the pose is not the greatest” etc. I often take such comments as a badge of honor. It is a check for me whether I stand behind what I believe in. I want my photos to be real, authentic, organic, and emotional. I want people in my photographs to be themselves and fall in love with who they are. That is why for me it does not matter if I score high or low – I send my photographs there to look at myself in the mirror and not get twisted by all of the echo chamber of Instagram, Facebook, and other social media platforms which push trends, fake images, and completely insane standards onto photographers, artists, and more importantly people and teenagers.

All of my awards make me happy and proud but what is my truest greatest achievement, is seeing our clients happy with the experience of creating with us and with the photographs that we create. This is my most important compass and all of the awards will always be secondary to the magic that is created between a person behind and in front of the camera.

Reflections on Magic

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 20:15:00 GMT

My experience with Silk and Salt Photography was like stepping into a fairytale where I got to play the leading role in my own story.

From the moment I walked in, nerves and all, they wrapped me up in a warm hug of encouragement and empowerment.

It was a rollercoaster of emotions—equal parts nerve-wracking and exhilarating—but amidst the vulnerability, there was this undeniable sense of magic in the air.

It felt like shedding layers of self-doubt and stepping into my own skin, unapologetically and authentically.

It's not every day you get to feel like a goddess, but thanks to Silk + Salt, I walked out feeling like I could conquer the world, one fabulous photo at a time.

Working with Mateusz was like collaborating with a wizard behind the lens. He's not just a photographer; he's a master storyteller who knows how to capture the essence of a moment and turn it into pure gold.

From his infectious energy to his keen eye for detail, every snap felt like a piece of art in the making. He somehow managed to make me forget about the camera and just be myself, which is a testament to his skill and genuine passion for his craft.

In short, working with Mateusz was an absolute blast, and I couldn't be happier with the results!

Things I Wish I Had Known before My Boudoir Shoot

Thu, 30 May 2024 16:30:00 GMT

A boudoir shoot is about YOU. It shouldn’t be done because someone else wants you to. It needs to be something that you want. A good session is a co-creation between you and the photographer. You collaborate and create a joint project that is both of yours. If you are invested in your own shoot, it will be a beautiful partnership.

Boudoir can mean a lot of things. Your photos can have a feel that is cute and flirty, sultry and mysterious, erotic and provocative. There is not one right choice. You can have the vibe that feels right to you.

Keep an open mind. It is wonderful to have ideas, and I would encourage you not to be shy about them. You are working with experts, though. Be willing to branch out. Be open to trying new poses, angles, and lighting. Don’t be afraid to try an outfit a little out of your comfort zone or a little unexpected.

That being said, start your session with the outfit you feel the most comfortable in. A boudoir session is a vulnerable experience, and you may already be pushing yourself into trying this new thing. Give yourself a moment to ease in.

You don’t have to know how to pose. You have hired a professional for a reason. Trust your photographer to know what will look great in pictures, even if it feels just the tiniest bit ridiculous. Because…

You will feel silly sometimes. Arching your back, pouting your lips, pointing your toes – I don’t know about anyone else, but those are not things that I do in my every day life. It felt a little absurd. But the results were worth it.

And with all that posing, be prepared to be a little sore the next day. Posing is hard work. You will use muscles you didn’t know you had and you'll be bending in ways you didn’t know were possible. Mateusz knows what looks the best in pictures.

Therefore, a photographer like Mateusz who specializes in boudoir is important. The skill set of a boudoir photographer is specifically geared toward the things that will make you look the best in these kinds of images. The person who takes your family pictures may be amazing at that, but that may not translate to boudoir photography.

Feel your best going into your session. Make sure you are hydrated, have gotten a good night’s sleep, and aren’t starving. Little details matter, so moisturize for a few days before, maybe get your nails done, take care of chapped lips, have your eyebrows looking the way you want them to. Boudoir is about more than surface-level pretty pictures. If these things are important to you, take that time to take care of yourself. You will notice it in your images.

Try on all of your outfits before your session. Pack your bag with everything you need the night before. Put things that you are concerned about forgetting in your bag well ahead of time. Coming into your session rushed and stressed will do you no favors.

Wear something comfortable to your shoot. Loose clothing won’t leave marks, and you will have something cozy to change into when you are finished.

Communicate. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or express that you were feeling unsure. Talk about your ideas. Everyone at Silk + Salt will be kind and encouraging and nonjudgmental.

Be in your body. Revel in the experience. Show some reverence for this body that has carried you through life. Your body is a part of what makes you beautiful. Feel this moment of choosing yourself. You deserve it.

I really, really wish I had known just how much fun I would have. Focus on enjoying yourself. Not only will it make your session more relaxed and easy, it will absolutely show in the final images.

And finally, I wish I had known that sometimes, the confidence comes after the fact. Often women feel like they need to be absolutely selfish and fearless in their skin to book a boudoir shoot. But the act of having these pictures taken will often create a confidence that was not there prior. Take a deep breath, book the session, and the confidence will come.

How to Have a Relaxing, Comfortable Boudoir Shoot

Thu, 23 May 2024 16:15:00 GMT

Maybe you have been thinking about scheduling a boudoir shoot, but your nerves have you feeling a bit apprehensive. It is completely normal to be a little anxious about it. After all, you are about to have your picture taken, in very little clothing, by someone you don’t know very well. A few butterflies are to be expected! But this should be fun and exciting – not stressful. There are some things you can do to ensure that your session is relaxing and comfortable.

First, nerves are usually based on a fear of the unknown. Most of these ideas are going to be about preparation. Knowledge is power. Have a game plan. Do your research.

Begin with finding the right photographer for you. There are many talented boudoir photographers. In your research, you will probably run across several whose style you like. But even more important than appreciating their artistic choices, it is crucial that you vibe with your potential photographer/boudoir team. Find someone who will take the time to do a consultation. You are going to be in a vulnerable position, and it is so much easier to relax with someone you enjoy being around.

Ask questions. Ask them during your consultation, ask friends who have had a boudoir shoot, ask on social media. Ask all your questions. The more you know, the better you will feel. Preparation is powerful. Having a clear understanding of what to expect will help put you at ease.

Trust that your photographer is an expert. This might be your first boudoir session, but it isn’t theirs. Trust the process. Building a connection with your photographer is a big part of that, but so is building a connection with your body. Be open minded. Forget your hangups. You can remind yourself of why you wanted to do this. Accept your nerves, fake a little confidence, and focus on having fun!

Communicate, communicate, communicate. Not just with your photographer, but with yourself. Give yourself a peptalk. Get excited about it. Talk yourself up. Reassure yourself. You are a bad ass!

Know what you like. No photographer will copy another person‘s work, but if you create a mood board or a Pinterest folder that inspires you, they will know more about what kind of shoot you are seeking. What kind of aura are you looking for? What clothing or lingerie appeals to you? What colors?

Think of ways to personalize your session. The more you feel like yourself, the more comfortable you will be. Do you always wear the same lip color? Do you have a necklace that is practically part of you? Something that makes you feel at home in your skin will be reflected in relaxed pictures.

There are some basics that everyone should do to have a more comfortable boudoir session. Non-negotiables like making sure you take care of yourself by hydrating and eating something before you attempt to be photographed for a few hours. Sleep and be well rested. Things we should always do for ourselves, but we sometimes forget.

While you definitely don’t want to be impaired during your session, a relaxing glass of wine or champagne can help settle and calm your nerves. A great playlist can also make you feel all sorts of confident. Play music that helps you feel yourself. Your playlist is powerful, and so are you.

Make sure all the outfits you choose make you feel incredible. Worrying about the fit of a bra or thigh-highs that keep falling down is a quick confidence killer. You are amazing. Choose outfits that showcase that.

Many photographers allow you to bring a friend for moral support. Depending on the friend, this can definitely be a game changer. You want someone that you trust completely. Someone who will be your cheerleader. If you are the least bit self-conscious around them, leave them home! You can be your own hype woman. If you bring moral support, make sure they add to your comfort, not take away from it.

If it is at all possible, try to make your boudoir session your only scheduled appointment of the day. If you are worried about being late for something else, or getting back to work, that tension will show. Relax. Take a day off. You deserve it.

Most of all, enjoy the experience. Breathe. You are here to gain confidence. Enjoy being pampered. Enjoy feeling beautiful. Deep breath. You are calm, comfortable, and confident. You are going to rock this!

Society, Social Media, and Body Image

Sat, 18 May 2024 15:57:46 GMT

The world relentlessly bombards us with unrealistic beauty standards. Women in particular are told, both directly and indirectly, how they should show up in the world. They should be pretty, but not unapproachable. Sexy, but not slutty. A boss, but not bossy. Thin, but curvy. A caretaker, but not a nag. Passionate, but not hysterical. Attractive, but modest.

The standards are impossible, and so we begin to choose. Do we want to be competent or liked? A leader or accepted? So often, we reign ourselves in. We make ourselves smaller, quieter, more polite. We choose invisibility, but we are judged for it as much as when we choose visibility.

How about… no.

It’s unattainable. The ideal (body, personality, life) is a fabrication. The image painted by society of perfection is privileged, ablest, sexist, racist - all the bias and bigotry, and it’s designed to make us feel unworthy and never good enough. Insecurity is profit.

The proliferation of social media in all our lives has been complex, creating a world that is more connected and more isolated. It is quite literally a virtual reality, and often, we are basing our self image off this medium that is inherently distorted. There is a strong correlation between high social media use and loneliness, low self-esteem, and anxiety. It has even been shown to lead to disordered eating and other unhealthy habits. It is no wonder that being flooded with filtered, edited images can trigger body dissatisfaction, and even body dysmorphia.

ALL media is curated. It is not surprising that a false environment with a culture of comparison can fuel mental health issues and distorted perceptions, thoughts, and emotions about one’s own body. When we are inundated with deceptive practices, with images of people presenting themselves only only in their best light, it can be hard to remember that social media is NOT reality. It is a carefully chosen mirage.

So…now what?

It is easy to say avoid social media completely. For some people, that may work. For most of us, social media has benefits that outweigh the problems. It is where we connect with family and friends, get news, and educate ourselves. It is our entertainment and, at times, our lifeline.

As an alternative, we can push the concept of social media literacy. Think critically. Question the motivations behind posts. Challenge your assumptions about what is being presented. Take breaks. Remind yourself that technology doesn’t equal truth. Trust, but verify. Look around the real world occasionally and remind yourself the people are not airbrushed, that your friends and family and acquaintances exist outside of the photoshopped perfection of virtuality.

We can also curate our own feeds. Change the focus of your feed. Unfollow people and pages that make you feel worse. Surround yourself with positive influences, both on and off-line. Find creators that share non-enhanced and diverse bodies. Or follow cute puppy pictures and amazing food. Share unfiltered truth and unedited images on your own page. Real is beautiful, no matter your imagined defects. You deserve to be seen.

Find inclusive spaces on social media. They do exist. It is possible to use social media in a healthier way. There is community and support available, if you seek it out. Try to connect with a safe, supportive network. Reach out to people who embrace all kinds of bodies, as well as explaining your interests in things that have absolutely nothing to do with physical appearance.

Most of all, forgive yourself for not seeing your body with kindness. Body positivity can feel daunting. So try for body respect, body acceptance, body neutrality. This is not selfish or vain. Feeling good about yourself makes you more available to love and health and productivity. Existing in an imperfect body and feeling joy in your life is both an act of peace and an act of revolution. As artist Caroline Caldwell said, “In a society that profits from self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.”

Can we completely reshape society standards? Can we show all kinds of bodies as beautiful and powerful? I hope so. At the least, we can widen our lens to what is beautiful, and include ourselves in the picture.

Leaving Your Comfort Zone in the Dust

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 23:02:36 GMT

Maybe saying that if you can do a boudoir shoot, you can do anything is a bit of an overstatement. But really – a boudoir session is out of most people’s comfort zone, and making the decision to take that step is a fantastic way to push your limits and challenge yourself. And who knows what will happen when you break that one inhibition? It could carry over into your normal life and change everything.

You have untapped potential that lives in you. It won’t ever get out if you don’t take the leap. Jump. It is liberating and rewarding to break away from the constraints of fear. Sometimes, self imposed boundaries are the hardest to question. But those boundaries are often created by expectations that surround us and anxiety about doing something different. Your comfort zone may be fine. It may be good enough. But you deserve so much more than good enough. Show up for yourself. Appreciate yourself. Invest in yourself.

It is time to decide what kind of life you want to live and start taking steps toward it. You discover a lot about yourself when you step into the unknown. The self expression that is a part of your boudoir session can expand to other aspects of your life. You empower yourself.

You feel awkward or silly? No! You are daring. Adventurous. Sexy.

Your comfort zone is safe. Predictable. Familiar. But you are a risk taker! You are bold. You lean in.

Surrender feels vulnerable? That’s OK. You are strong.

Insecurity rears its ugly head? Tell it to take a hike. You are a glorious creation.

You are an average woman with an average job and average kids and an average relationship? HELL NO YOU AREN’T. You are a goddess that does boudoir modeling! You are spectacular and ravishing and magnificent! Nothing about you is average. You are ideal.

We are creatures of habit. But we can make decisions to be more than that. Your unhealed wounds color your perceptions, and we must challenge them and do new things as a catalyst for change. Surprise yourself. Boudoir session may be intimidating, but fear is where the growth happens. You are perfectly imperfect, and your body doesn’t have to change to change the way you look at it. This new experience is therapeutic. Don’t let complacency limit what you do. You empower yourself through this experience. If we want inclusive beauty, we must BE inclusive beauty. Embody it. YOU are beauty. That yummy soft belly, those stretch marks that map you like the magical journey you are, the freckles and moles that decorate you like a goddamn work of art. YOU are the model of perfection.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Build up a tolerance. Sometimes, you have to step outside your comfort zone to get more comfortable in your own skin. Imagine having a set of photos where, every single time you look at them, you remember that you conquered your fear. You challenged your ideas about yourself. You explored new parts of who you are. You can walk away from this experience more in love with yourself than ever before, and that opens up exciting doors to doing things you never thought possible. Find out what waits for you on the other side of your fear. You aren’t someone stuck in a rut. You are someone who takes chances. You deserve to feel good about yourself

Talk yourself into it. When you see sample boudoir photos, it is so easy to see how stunning every single person is. There are so many variations of shape and size and color, and they are all amazing. It is time to see yourself through that same lens. The truth of who you are is incredible.

You are awkward and majestic and goofy and sexy and ridiculous and sensual. Be comfortable with that, and your comfort zone doesn’t stand a chance. It becomes a beautiful life.

Life is out of everyone’s comfort zone sometimes. So, you may as well embrace it and do something you didn’t think you could do. Take the pictures. You’ll be glad you did.

Boudoir with Glasses

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 22:27:09 GMT

Boudoir with Glasses

We recently had a potential client ask us if we had any examples of women wearing glasses at their Silk + Salt boudoir shoot. We told her that of course we do! Eyeglasses can actually be a fun and sexy prop at your shoot. And we always encourage our clients to wear them if they don't feel like themselves without them or if they just love the way the look with them!

How Props Can Make Your Boudoir Shoot Unique

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 19:51:25 GMT

A boudoir session is an amazing way to celebrate yourself. It is meant to showcase who you are – your personality, your passions, and all of the peculiar things that are unique to you. One way to incorporate this into your photos is through the use of props.

Boudoir is an opportunity to get photographs that are as unique as you. Every detail matters. You can begin with expressing your creativity through what you wear. Lingerie and clothing may not traditionally be thought of as props, but they can definitely be part of illustrating who you are as a person or possibilities you want to explore.

There are so many fun ways to personalize your pictures and add some of your own style. Many boudoir photographers offer accessories that you can use in your session. Basics such as body jewelry, adventurous lingerie, or a feather boa can create some playful and memorable photos. But what is even better is something that is unique to you.

Do you have a signature item that no one can picture you without? Maybe you are never seen without your coffee cup. Maybe you always wear bold glasses. Maybe you are known for your cowboy boots. Include them! This is your unique journey. While you want to look your best, you also want to be recognizable as you.

This is also a great opportunity to add accessories that give an idea of who you are as a person. If you are an athlete, include some sporting gear. A photographer? Show off your favorite vintage camera. A writer? Pose with paper and pen, or a typewriter. Musicians can pose with their instrument (guitars are particularly appealing in their mirroring of a woman’s curves) or a favorite vinyl. Include a record player to really increase the story told in your visual narrative. Artists can show off a piece or a representation of the medium they use.

Even small details can make a difference. If there is a piece of jewelry that you love, and wear every day, wear it in your session. If you wear hats, make sure at least one of your poses includes your favorite. Your favorite pair of heels, and maybe some seamed stockings or fishnets, will be amazingly sexy. If you are an avid reader, bring your favorite books. Your boudoir session will capture you and your interests at their most attractive. Talk to your photographer. See what options they offer, and ask them for ideas!

If you really want to embrace your individuality, go all out. If you are a huge nerd (I say that in an “I am too!” way), bring a light saber. Bring your gaming controller. Be totally and completely you. You are a super hot geek. Own it.

Are you covered in tattoos or have a few special pieces of art on your body? Choose lingerie or clothing that shows that off. Let your ink be your accessory. You can reveal them in a bare bones way with nothing else at all. Beautiful art is an enhancement all on its own.

Boudoir props can also allow you to explore what you think is beautiful and sexy. Gorgeous angel wings can eliminate the need for any other accessory. If you have an interest in kink, padded handcuffs and leather accessories will be seductive and sensual additions to your shoot. A lacy mask or an elaborate masquerade veil can be sexy and may allow you to feel a bit more free to explore. If part of your face is hidden, it isn’t just mysterious; it can offer you a buffer. Maybe you’ve always wanted to be a burlesque star. Use this opportunity to fulfill that fantasy. Or maybe you have had the dream of being Princess Leia in that iconic gold bikini. Do it. This is your session.

The point of a prop is to individualize your session – not to overpower it. Make sure it is something that you are comfortable with that will boost your confidence. Even if you are just a bit nervous and want some thing in your hand, which is understandable, it should add to your session rather than detracting from it.

You are the star. These are merely your accessories.

Fears and Boudoir

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 00:13:29 GMT

There are some fears that may be stopping you from booking a boudoir session. It can be scary to step outside of your comfort zone. Let’s take a few of these anxieties one by one and address them.

I don’t look like those women!

Boudoir is for every body. We all have doubts about our appearance. There is no one particular kind of body that is built for boudoir. You don’t have to look like anyone but yourself. It can be nerve-racking to be so vulnerable. But there is no greater accomplishment than doing something that scares you. Remember - this is a photo session that is supposed to make you look and feel your best. Let it.

I don’t want to be half naked in front of anyone, never mind someone who is going to document it!

Boudoir photographers are professionals. They are experts who are there to create a safe, comfortable environment, and if a photographer fails to do that, run! Fear can stem from the unknown, so do your research. Read testimonials, check out websites, and talk to your friends. Choosing the right photographer will do a lot to assuage this particular fear. Many people are hesitant about doing something so intimate, but the best boudoir photographers work to make you feel secure.

I don’t know what I’m doing!

It’s okay. I’m someone who does not like having my picture taken. It’s awkward, I’m awkward, and seriously – am I the only person who never has a clue to do what to do with my hands?! It’s like they are not even attached to me. I don’t know where to look. Posing? What’s that?! Rely on your photographers’ expertise. They know how to flatter your body. They are trained to accentuate everything incredible about you. You don’t have to know what you are doing. That’s what you hire the experts for.

What if the pictures get into the wrong hands?

Boudoir photographers take your privacy and security VERY seriously. They keep your images protected to whatever degree you wish. There are confidentiality agreements and photo releases and NOTHING will be shared without your express consent. And when you get the confidence boost that comes with seeing how stunning your pictures are, you may be the one sharing your images with the world. But if the only person you ever want to see your pictures is you, your photographer will take steps to ensure that is exactly what happens.

I feel silly trying to act “sexy”.

I feel you. But everybody can be sexy. And sexy is different for everyone. It is time to expand your self-love journey. There is courage in the attempt. And YOU get to define what sexy means. Laughter is sexy. Comfortable is sexy. Nerdy is sexy. You do you, boo.

What will everyone think?

This one comes down to a fear of judgment. First of all, no one has to know about your session unless you tell them. But also, who cares? Maybe they’ll think you are awesome for facing your insecurities. Maybe they’ll think something critical. That’s about them. Not you. Don’t let fear of what someone else will think make your decisions for you. You deserve to live a big life and blow your own damn mind. Show them that you are the boss of your life and your choices.

I’m not a lingerie girl

Cool. Don’t wear lingerie. Wear what makes you feel sexy. Or wear nothing at all. Or encourage yourself to try out different kinds of lingerie. Boudoir does not have to equal lingerie. Your session is yours. Try out a bunch of stuff, and troll Pinterest for ideas. There are all kinds of options.

It’s so expensive!

Skilled boudoir photography certainly can be an investment. It is a luxury experience. But you are worth it. Additionally, a lot of photographers will work with you on payment plans and help you to find ways to finance your boudoir session. You are worthy and deserving of spending money on yourself.

As Maya Angelou said, “The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.” Test your limits. Face your fears. Take risks. Try new things. Open yourself to possibility. If we stay complacent, we never grow. I believe that you are stronger than your fears.

Body Neutrality: the freedom to think less about the skin you are in

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 19:16:17 GMT

Part Two. Read Part One HERE

I am an intelligent, mature, and sensible woman who has spent time, research, and energy attempting to love my body. Sometimes, it works. Sometimes, I still have to remind myself that being thin or young or beautiful will not make everyone love me. I have actively tried to dismantle the toxic ideals about body image that society has taught me, and I am still trying to unravel this idea that my worth has nothing to do with my appearance

Some people are successful at really embracing the truth that all people deserve to love themselves, regardless of shape or size or ability. Wonderful! I truly mean that, and I wish I was there. But I’m not. It takes time, and the journey is far from linear For me, this is where body neutrality comes in. Body positivity and body neutrality can both be positive. With body neutrality, I have been able to begin to heal by taking the focus AWAY from my appearance

I have been working hard toward thinking less about my body, striving to move away from being so concerned with looks. Body neutrality is a body image movement that doesn’t focus on appearance. How do you look is the least interesting thing about you. Your skills and strengths and talents and accomplishments are the things that lead to genuine happiness and fulfillment. The less time we spend thinking about our appearance, the more time we can devote to thinking about what truly matters to us.

Elevate yourself and your perspective around your body by instead of working to change it, caring for it. So much bodily autonomy is already taken from women. Do not take it from yourself. It is about simply being, without passing judgment. We can be a part of beginning to create a world outside of beauty standards that is not hyper-fixated on looks.

In your journey to accepting your body, here are some reminders:

It’s okay not to love all of your body all of the time.
Find the ways your body serves you.
Your worth is not defined by your physical ability.
Be kind to your body.
Don’t let thoughts about your body interfere and pursuing what you care about.
Your body isn’t wrong.
Speak to yourself like someone you love.
Your body works hard and deserves compassion.
You are allowed to take up space.
Dress in what you like - what makes you feel confident and comfortable.
Be proud of what your imperfect body has accomplished.
Nourish your body.
Explore what makes your body feel good – delicious food, massage, sex, dance.
You don’t need to feel attractive all the time in order to enjoy life and relationships
Your body is unique and doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s.
Your body is not an object for others to evaluate.
You deserve to enjoy your life.
Liking your body is not a requirement for loving yourself.
Don’t allow body negativity to dictate when you do or don’t do something.

Overall, you will feel positive sometimes. You will feel negative sometimes. But, mostly, the goal is to just not think about your appearance much at all. You can even practice on others as a way to get used to this for yourself. Stop commenting on peoples appearances. Stop speaking your body shame out loud. Even if the voice in your head is hard to silence, you don’t have to give it an outlet. Deemphasize appearances. Compliment someone’s gentle heart, infinite patience, or kickass attitude. We are trying to shift an entire mindset from discontent to respect. The goal is for body image thoughts not to take up so much mental space.

One of the first things I did on my personal journey of radical acceptance of the body I am in is to look toward my daughters. It is so easy for me to see them as incredible and amazing, for so much more than their bodies. Not only that, they look like me in some ways. I don’t want them to see me hating a part of myself that may look a lot like what they will look like at 40. I can’t hate my body if I love theirs.

It is fine to have body neutrality as your goal. Choose goals that work for your life. Loving our bodies can feel unattainable. Instead, be liberated from thinking about it as much by embracing body neutrality. Neutrality can also be a more realistic goal for those who have not been included or accepted into the mainstream body positivity movement. People with disordered eating, people of color, compulsive overexercisers, disabled people, and people in the LGBTQ+ community can experience marginalization, or even damage, from some of the ideas, promoted and mainstream body positivity.

Accepting what is, even when it is difficult, as a radical act. Choosing to focus on attributes other than appearance is an act of rebellion. You are already a work of art.

Boudoir and Body Neutrality

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 20:53:55 GMT

Part One...

Boudoir photography is often associated with body positivity. And while body positivity is an amazing goal, it is not always attainable, or even realistic. That is where body neutrality comes in.

What is body neutrality? In simple terms, it means that it doesn’t matter if you think your body is beautiful or not. You recognize that your value is not tied to your body. It says, “I accept my body as it is.” You are worthy of all good things no matter how you feel about your body.

Sometimes, body neutrality is a step in your journey to body positivity. Sometimes, it is the destination. Either is OK. Give yourself grace and compassion along the way. It can be hard to love your body. Come to terms with your body instead. You are so much more than a body.

Emotions around our bodies can be complicated and difficult. When we unlink self-worth and appearance, we can create a healthier and more realistic relationship with our bodies. Your love can look like taking care of yourself and tuning into your needs. Respect your body, regardless of what it looks like. See your body as a vehicle that you treat with kindness to help you move through the world in a joyful way.

We, particularly as women, are socialized to think that our value is related to our appearance. It is work to dismantle these internalized beliefs. Body neutrality takes away some of the pressure to shift this paradigm. You don’t have to force yourself to love the way you look. Our purpose lies beyond what we look like or what we can’t do. The fact that your body lets you experience life is incredible, in and of itself. You can celebrate the fact that your body simply exists and accompanies you through life.

Boudoir sessions can allow you to meet yourself where you are. It is a freeing space to express yourself inside your body. Boudoir that presents people in a more natural, less airbrushed state is especially helpful. You can be a part of creating timeless images that celebrate your individuality. Of course it is good to love your body. But it is even better to love yourself without equating your value with your body. A good boudoir photographer will capture photos that are authentic and true to your soul.

Your session can also be way to take this self-love journey one step at a time. Maybe you love your eyes, or your hair, or your powerful thighs, but you are doing your damnedest to embrace and feel neutral about your stomach, your nose, or your big feet. Maybe you are in a body that doesn’t feel like home right now due to illness, injury, gender identity, or an eating disorder. Some bodies cause us pain. You don’t have to celebrate everything about this container you are housed in. But you can celebrate pieces. You can reject the idea that there is such a thing as a perfect body and accept where you are right now without judgment or shame. Boudoir allows you to be present in your skin, and become more mindful and aware of the things about you that are beautiful and/or useful.

Self criticism takes a lot of energy. Body positivity also takes a lot of energy. Honestly, it can be exhausting. Focusing on neutrality and peace can feel much less overwhelming. Being at peace with your body, embracing it on good days and bad, and recognizing that you don’t have to deem yourself beautiful in order to feel worthy is powerful.

Our bodies are unique and should be viewed without criticism. Easier said than done, of course. So we can start with reframing our thoughts, listening closely to what our bodies tell us, treating ourselves with respect, and living as we are in this moment, without continually telling ourselves to improve. Ideally, we will begin to see the beauty of diversity and celebrate all bodies. In a perfect world, we will focus on living and considering our body’s needs for care and food and rest and movement. Until then, we can begin with acceptance and inclusion – a neutrality that begets love.

How to Choose the Right Boudoir Photographer

Sat, 20 Jan 2024 00:28:40 GMT

A boudoir photography session is personal and vulnerable. Making the right choice for your photographer is important. It can be difficult to know what to look for and ask. Here are some things to consider when making your decision.

First, understand your own style. Boudoir photography can have many different feels. Art is subjective, and it is necessary that you understand what you like. Photography can have many kinds of aesthetics. Find examples of photos that you like. Do you prefer soft or sophisticated ? Romantic or racy? Ethereal or edgy? There are no wrong answers here, but you want to make sure that you find someone with the kind of approach you prefer. When you look at this person’s photographs, can you envision yourself being a part of their work?

It is also essential to know if your photographer specializes in boudoir. This doesn’t mean that they cannot do other types of sessions, but boudoir involves a unique and specific skill set. It is completely different than family or landscape photography. How experienced are they? How long have they been in business? Do they have a variety of body types in their portfolio? If they have only worked with fitness models, they may not understand what poses flatter a larger frame. If they don’t have examples of women over 50 on their website, they may not have experience in capturing more mature women.

Additionally, editing style matters. Again, look at the images they advertise. Some photographers edit quite a bit; others keep images more natural, and true to life. It is up to you to decide what kind of look fits your ideal. Retouching is typical, but you would probably like to recognize yourself. Something temporary, like a blemish, being edited away is not a big deal. But scars and stretch marks are a part of your amazing and beautiful body, and they don’t need to be taken away to make a work of art.

One of the most critical things to consider is that you really need to like the photographer – not just their work. Connection matters. Is this a person who makes you feel comfortable? Is it going to be a positive atmosphere where you feel safe and at ease? Trust your gut. The vibe you feel is crucial – this is a relationship that really needs to be the right fit. This is a person that you will be trusting to see you in an intimate and vulnerable way. Feeling relaxed and truly yourself is something that will be captured through their lens. Posing for a boudoir shoot may seem uncomfortable at first, but with the right photographer, it will also be fun and funny and enjoyable. Some of the sexiest photos will capture a huge laugh.

Of course, you will want to look at reviews and testimonials. If a boudoir photographer seems to be someone with an approach and style you align with, see what people are saying. Set up a consultation to have your questions answered. You will want to know if they have a client closet, if they offer guidance on wardrobe and posing, and whether or not they communicate clearly and professionally. You may want to ask about privacy concerns and how they will keep your images protected. You will need to know if they have a hair and make-up artist on staff, and you can ask even why they shoot boudoir. That answer can tell you a lot about how they think.

Now it is time to consider your budget. Boudoir is a luxury experience. And while you need to take cost into account, it should not be the first question in your search. A good boudoir photographer delivers an unforgettable experience. They will take their time, create incredible works of art, and have many available product options. You are investing in yourself and in art that will last forever. While cost is certainly a consideration, it should be something that is a factor after you have found photographers that deliver the kind of session and results that you want.

It could be overwhelming to decide on who the right artist is for you. But, in the end, you will have tangible proof that you made the right choice.

Documenting Your Body’s Journey

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 21:04:17 GMT

Bodies are meant to change. Society may tell us differently, urging us to look perpetually like 18-year-old supermodels, but change is inevitable. We age, we are injured, we gain and lose weight, we have pregnancies. Every bit of this is normal and expected. Beauty is not static. Your body, then, now, and in the future is not before and after. It is not better or worse – just different. You are not something to be improved. You are already a masterpiece.

What better way to embrace your body in all its stages than through documenting it with a boudoir session? Our bodies evolve, naturally, and accurately depicting how you look at each of these moments acts as a journal of your body to create a collage of your life. Your body bears the marks of a journey that is uniquely yours. Photographing it will offer you a tangible, visual expression of the vessel that carries you through your life, which is deserving of love, always.

Be proud of your body in the story it tells, just the way it is. Capture your essence. Honor yourself through its changes. Every inch of you is worthy, in every season of life and at every size. This is your reclamation. Think about how incredible your body is. It is capable of recovery. Of surviving. You do not have to let insecurity define you. Take pride in who you are.

A boudoir shoot can allow you to embrace new aspects of yourself as you change. We are all on ongoing journeys of acceptance, and ultimately, celebration. Salma Hayek said, “People often say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder.” You are a living testament to the path your life has taken, and your body has carried you through every challenge, every heartbreak, every success, every hard day, every grief, every joy. Your body is boudoir ready. Right now.

The woman you are now is not the woman you were yesterday. You aren’t meant to always be the same. Diversity is not only about the differences between people; it is also about the differences between you now, in the past, and in the future. Diversity, in all its forms, is beautiful. Repeated boudoir sessions, over time, will document this incredible evolution.

Beauty standards are not static. Societal expectations and perceptions of what is beautiful have no bearing on what is actually beautiful. Your body is a blank canvas, and you get to choose what story to tell. You don’t have to fit anyone’s criteria but your own. Your appearance WILL change. It is supposed to. With time, with age, with circumstance. None of these changes detract from your beauty and deserving of nurturing and affirmation. Society can say whatever it wants. You don’t have to listen.

Don’t live your life on hold. Take a chance on appreciating yourself. You don’t need to lose or gain weight. You don’t need to change your hair or get filler or Botox. There is no right way to get older. You don’t know what life will throw at you. Live in the moment. Exist in the present. Look at your body with adoring eyes. This chapter in your story is valuable. They all are. It deserves this affirmation, this chronicle of the person you are. You are amazing today, and the person you are is worth acknowledging with time, effort, and energy.

Self-love and self-acceptance are a journey. Self-exploration and discovery evolve over time. Make peace with this part of who you are, this body. Give yourself permission to enjoy the pleasure it can give you and the resilience it has gifted you with.

Your session can celebrate this recognition of who you are and how you fit into the world. Document this evolution. Every part of the messiness, the winding path, is worth looking at through a lens that sees the fullness of its awesomeness. Younger honest, progressive images of who you are and where you’ve been. It is all part of the story - your story. It is a story worth telling.

Celebrate yourself. You are worthy and beautiful, then, and now, and forever.

Boudoir and Disability

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 22:45:35 GMT

If you are disabled or have a chronic illness, you may be hesitant to do a boudoir shoot. Disabled bodies are sometimes dismissed, or even derided. Perhaps you view your body as a foe. When you are constantly fighting with your body about what it can or can’t do, you may disassociate or disconnect from it.

Disability can impact every area of your life. There is no need to avoid acknowledging that in your session. Limitations - physical, mental, and emotional - are real and are nothing to be ashamed of. The everyday realities of living with a disability may mean you need some accommodations. Every person comes into a boudoir session with different needs. The best photographers will meet you where you are. Poses can be adjusted for mobility challenges. You may experience fatigue or body pain and need a break. This is all completely fine. Concern for what feels good for YOUR body is paramount.

Often, with disabilities or chronic medical conditions, body autonomy goes by the wayside. People are, in an effort to help, touching and poking and adjusting and assisting. Much of this may be necessary, but that doesn’t mean it is always enjoyable. Boudoir sessions are about honoring your needs, making you feel more connected to your body, and offering a positive, inclusive, and welcoming environment where body autonomy and consent are of utmost concern.

Society often deems disability as something to be hidden away or held up as “inspirational” or “brave”, simply for existing in a disabled body. Photo documentation of you, and your life, being in your body in a joyful, sexy way, is so important. Beauty standards are often limited to a narrow definition, and positive examples of sexuality and disability together are rare. People with disabilities don’t have to be either a tragedy or an inspiration to be worthy, and photography that shows disabled bodies in a full range of humanity, including sensuality, makes a difference.

The world’s perceptions often leave disability out of the narrative. You are either stared at or invisible. Boudoir celebrates your presence, wholly. You are affirmed and supported every step of the way, and this deeply personal, meaningful experience challenges the world’s stories. You are embraced as worthy, valuable, and beautiful.

The world so often tries to define what people, especially women, “should” be. Should doesn’t matter. Reclaim your disabled body in the way you want to define it. How we should be, what we should be able to do, how we should feel - these are arbitrary standards that no one can fulfill completely.

Good.

Normalization comes through representation. Diversity and awareness go hand in hand. Show the world what a gorgeous, passionate, alluring disabled person looks like - what you see in the mirror. You may not have control over your disability, but you have control over how you think about it, and ultimately, how you choose to live with it.

Everyone can struggle with feeling unworthy and unattractive. There is not a single person on the planet who has a perfect body. It is a radical act to love the body you are in, especially when society tell you that you shouldn’t. You are not barriers. You are not stereotypes. You are not assumptions.

You are a beautiful and whole person. You are made up of the sum of your experiences and choices, and the person that came from the totality of that is incredible. Recognize that. Acknowledge it. Celebrate it. Take pictures of it.

You are the center of your story, and we don’t see people with disabilities as the center of stories often enough. Your story’s full of joys and triumphs and sadness and love and heartbreak and adventure. It is a romance and a mystery and a thriller and a memoir. Tell it.

Using Boudoir as a Tool to Heal from Trauma - Part 2

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 20:41:19 GMT

Consent

Boudoir can be a setting that can allow you to explore your sexuality and reclaim your power if someone tried to take that from you. Trauma can hurt your sense of self-worth. But you are not damaged; you are resilient and capable of healing. Your boudoir shoot is a place to feel safe, seen, and heard.

Sometimes, life does not give us space to hold the trauma we have experienced. It becomes up to us to create that space. Trauma often holds us back from fully accepting ourselves. And while a boudoir session is not a magical fix that will heal years worth of trauma with a few hours in the studio, it can be a part of that journey back to getting in touch with your whole, true self and rediscovering who are outside of your trauma.

We often call these places of profound emotional expression, these opportunities to facilitate a new type of healing, a “safe space“. And it is. You will be respected and empowered, and your autonomy will be prioritized. But a better name might be “brave space“. It takes courage to be vulnerable, and to move through those moments of exposure in a new way. It takes a huge amount of bravery to feel safe and worthy enough to try this new thing. You are taking a step forward, listening to the emotions you are experiencing, and writing a new story about yourself.

Our trauma response is often to shut down our vulnerability and avoid it at all costs. Boudoir can involve intimate or revealing poses, which can trigger emotions. You will be emotionally supported through your experience. You are in control. In this environment, you are given a way to use your voice. Your needs and desires are respected and honored. You will not only be asked for consent and how you are feeling every step of the way, but you will also be supported and encouraged to clearly express yourself.

Through this process, you will be able to release fears and build a sense of security. You will be empowered to work through whatever thoughts and feelings come up in a controlled environment. This time of healing is fragile and sacred, and being in a welcoming and inclusive space where communication and consent are valued is powerful.

You deserve to fall in love with yourself, whether again or for the first time. Your appearance has nothing to do with your value, but it can be enlightening to see yourself through the lens of a camera and understand that even the parts of you that have hurt in some way are beautiful. They are beautiful in their imperfect strength and incredible resilience.

Your beauty is inherent. Whatever you have been through, perhaps it began to dim your light. You may feel like an echo of your true self. Through capturing your essence, and allowing self expression and art to fulfill their capacity to heal, you can begin to see your inner light again after a dark time. Let your light shine.

Using Boudoir as a Tool to Heal from Trauma - Part 1

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 22:28:32 GMT

Reconnecting to Your Body

Your body is your home. You deserve to feel comfortable in it. Trauma sometimes forces us to escape our bodies. Your body is amazing. It did what it needed to do to protect you. Everything that has happened in your life, the good, the bad, the traumatic – your body has carried you through it all.

As a tool for healing, boudoir can help to ground us in these wonderful bodies. We can begin to embrace the stories our bodies tell. Our traumas leave our bodies with stories of survival and resilience. Often, when someone is hurt emotionally or mentally, the physical self becomes distant. A boudoir session can aid in restoring the connection with your body and getting back in touch with your physical form.

So many things in this world attempt to strip women of their worth and their right to exist in their bodies, just as they are. Taking ownership of your body is empowering. Trauma can make us feel invisible, wish we were invisible, or, contrarily, make us feel like our bodies are the only thing about us that matters. Boudoir can be a step on the path to healing that says you are ready to be seen.

It may not be an easy step. Boudoir feels vulnerable. Boudoir IS vulnerable. It takes mental strength to do this, but you are made of strength. This is an amazing way to remind yourself of that. It taps into something in yourself that may have been buried. We conceal ourselves to protect ourselves, but nothing about you needs to be concealed. You are not your trauma. You are so much more. Boudoir can help you get used to celebrating your body

There are so many forms of trauma, and any of them can bring a feeling of detachment from your body. Your body may have been a source of shame or discomfort. Boudoir can offer a way to rewrite that narrative and see yourself in a more positive light. You are giving yourself a positive experience in your body. There is a definite link between trauma and poor body image and self-esteem. Your session can be a step on the journey to rebuilding your self-love.

Trauma lies. It tells you that you are helpless. That you are unworthy. That you are weak. You are NONE of those things. You are tough. You are capable. You are resolute. Doing things that support that narrative changes how you perceive yourself. You are deserving.

Trauma can leave you struggling to look at yourself in the mirror. If trauma left you feeling uncomfortable in your own body, a boudoir shoot can loudly proclaim that it is time for a bold recognition of who you are and that you are inherently valuable. Use your session as a homecoming to yourself.

Welcome home.

Resolve to Love Yourself this New Year

Sun, 17 Dec 2023 03:36:05 GMT

As we approach the end of another year, there is always talk of New Year’s resolutions. Too often, these resolutions are rooted in self-criticism.

In boudoir photography, the goal is always to help you see your best self and embrace and love yourself exactly as you are. With a boudoir session, you are gifting yourself empowerment, and taking steps to make your next year amazing.

It is reflection time. How can you take action in resolving to prioritize and care for yourself? Both inside and outside of a photo studio, a boudoir session can help you to achieve the all-encompassing idea of self compassion and self-care. A few of the ways of boudoir shoot can both challenge and nourish you on this path are:

1. It can improve your relationship with your body. You no longer need harmful body resolutions. Release them. Size is irrelevant. Your session forces you to be present in the glorious, incredible skin you are in.

2. Leave fear behind. When we do things that scare us, we challenge our limiting beliefs. These beliefs may tell us who we are, and what we can do. Push back a bit. Take a step out of your comfort zone. A boudoir session can be just the right amount of scary - the kind that thrills and shows you that you can do things that you didn’t know you were capable of.

3. Follow positive and encouraging social media. Body positivity is more difficult when we are bombarded by messages that we are not good enough. Take care of yourself by paying attention to the ideas that you are surrounded by and curating them carefully. Only allow in messages of love. Body acceptance is a worthy goal. Boudoir is about recognizing the beauty that exists in every body. See it in others. See it in yourself

4. Use beautiful and positive words to describe yourself. How we speak to our ourselves matters. Identify the negative stories you tell yourself about your worth. Would you allow someone to speak to your friend or your child the way you speak to yourself? The people around you hear your messages. Love yourself, be kind and gentle, and embrace self-love. You are deserving.

5. Take stock of the ways you care for yourself. So many of us are caregivers, in our relationships and our careers, and it is important to include caring for yourself on that list. Before we can provide empathy to others, we must have compassion for ourselves. Your well-being matters. You can’t carry on giving when you don’t replenish yourself.

6. Commit to doing things that bring you joy. Welcome joy into your life. You may need to try new things, like a boudoir session, to find all of the amazing things that spark your joy. You are a role model. Model something new and different. Commit to finding and doing the things that bring you joy.

7. Resolve to prioritize and invest in yourself. You are worth it. If you want to gain the energy you need for the rest of the year, it is time to focus on you. Maybe your session will allow you to create space for sensuality. Maybe you want to celebrate your survival. Whatever it is, tell your self-doubt to take a hike, and put your self-love resolution into practice.

8. Dress in things that make you feel good. This is for your session, yes, but also for your life. Wear what makes you feel comfortable and confident. Fashion is not about age or rules. It is about wearing what makes you feel like your best self.

9. Set boundaries. In a boudoir session, you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Boudoir photographers practice consent at all times, so this will give you an opportunity to set boundaries that you know will be respected. Expect this from everyone in your life

10. Go after what you want. When you love yourself, you know what will enhance your life. This is about putting self-doubt aside and working toward recognizing your value to yourself. When you care for your whole self, you can reach for things that improve the world around you.

Acceptance and compassion are your birthright. You are worthy today and every day. Treat yourself and make 2024 the year you love yourself as you are.

Boudoir Is a Gift to Yourself

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 21:59:08 GMT

It is gift giving season. The holidays are fast approaching. You have probably planned what to get for your friends and your family, but when is the last time you gave YOURSELF a gift? It can be easy to forget about yourself during the hustle and bustle of the holidays. We get so caught up in preparing everything for everyone else, tending to give and give to others, that we can forget to gift ourselves here and there.

So often, we are the givers, and we are overlooked on gift-giving occasions. Remind yourself, and everyone else, that you are important. You don’t need permission to love yourself. You are inherently worth it. One of the best gifts you can give yourself is one that celebrates you – a boudoir session.

We are our own worst critics. A boudoir session that you gift to yourself reminds you that you deserve to take up space. There is nothing wrong with taking sexy pictures for your partner, but imagine how liberating it will feel to do this for YOU. Book it for yourself. Be your own hype woman. Slow down and care for yourself.

The most important relationship you will ever have, and the only one that lasts forever, is with yourself. You deserve beautiful pictures of yourself. Life is short. It is okay to prioritize yourself occasionally. A boudoir session may be a splurge, but it is also an exercise in self-love.

As a role model for others, it teaches those who are watching that taking care of yourself, appreciating yourself, and investing in yourself is not only okay, it is necessary. When your children or your friends or any of the young people in your life see you giving yourself a present, recognizing that you are worth thinking about, spending money on, and taking time focused only on you, they will begin to understand that they too can do these things. That they can be a fully fleshed out human being, with their own priorities and interests, no matter whatever other roles that will also have in the future. That is such a powerful message, and it is even more critical for you to give it to yourself if it is not a message that you have previously received.

This gift can benefit you in so many ways. Instead of the inner voice that critiques what we see as our flaws, it encourages us to embrace our bodies exactly as they look, in this moment, rather than hiding them. Give yourself the gift of challenging your perceptions, and pushing your own boundaries. You are granting yourself empowerment and a platform that allows you to discover new things about yourself.

Presents are, at their best, given with the recipient in mind. With a boudoir session, you are the star. It is a day to focus on yourself, and after your session you will have a gorgeous gallery to remind yourself how ridiculously cool you are. This session is dedicated to you and your needs. It gives you a pause during what is a very busy season. Often, especially during the holidays, we become preoccupied with making others happy. Love yourself just as much as you love other people. You deserve something given with love. Your boudoir photos are a meaningful and lasting gift from you to yourself.

The unforgettable experience of trusting a photographer to capture you, stripped down and at your most vulnerable, is powerful. The session leaves you different. You will fall more in love with the skin you are in. It can be life-changing to see your beauty, awaken your confidence, to simply be good to yourself.

Challenging the negative voices, from both outside of you, and inside of you, letting go of anyone else’s ideas of what is beautiful, is the ultimate gift.

When we push ourselves outside of our comfort zones, and do things to improve our self-esteem and body image, we are also building a better relationship with fear and with new experiences. What an incredible gift to give to yourself! Your boudoir session will allow you to have a tangible reminder of a moment of empowerment that you claimed. You recognized your own worth, your own value. Way to go!

Cheers to a holiday of love and appreciation. Here’s to embracing new things, loving who you are at every stage, and making yourself a priority. You are the ultimate gift.

Bridal Boudoir

Sat, 02 Dec 2023 02:42:36 GMT

Wedding photos are such an important reminder of one of the most important days of your life. Bridal boudoir photos are an extension of that. They create a more intimate picture of this special moment, an amazing time that is full of hope for the future. You are embarking upon a new life with your partner, and a bridal boudoir session is a wonderful gift to yourself to celebrate the woman you are as you enter marriage.

One of the best reasons for gifting yourself a boudoir session before your wedding is to get more comfortable with having your photo taken on your wedding day. Every moment will be documented. If you are not used to cameras being focused on you, it can feel awkward, and even a bit uncomfortable. But if you have just rocked a session where you had amazing photos taken of you in lingerie, it is easy to be confident in a gorgeous wedding dress!

Boudoir sessions also boost self-esteem. Everyone deserves to feel their most beautiful on their wedding day. When you see your amazing photos, it will be a huge confidence booster. Yes, it feels vulnerable. But so does love. So does starting a life together with another person. When you commit to marrying someone, you are the most excited and happy that you may have ever been. Let that shine through in this more intimate form of documentation. You are showing off your best self, this radiant being ready to enter a new chapter of companionship.

So much planning goes into a wedding, big or small, and it is over so quickly. But photos are forever. This boudoir shoot can capture the fleeting moments in another, more intimate, way. Your wedding is one of the times in your life when you feel the most special. This will allow you another way to mark this momentous occasion. You will showcase a side of yourself that feels more personal than other parts of your celebration.

Your session can also be a way to pamper yourself. The stress and nerves of wedding planning can be overwhelming. It can be fun to capture the feeling, the reason you are committing yourself to this person, without all the pressure and intensity – just a fun, relaxed time to feel like a beautiful bride .

Your bridal boudoir session can look like whatever you want it to. You can personalize the images. Many sessions incorporate your veil, garter, or shoes. But you don’t have to wear white lingerie or a veil – you can wear whatever makes you feel best. This is a celebration of your beauty, your hope, and your upcoming nuptials. You may not be a traditional bride, and that is totally fine. Wear what makes you feel happy and confident

Often, brides gift boudoir pictures to their significant other as a wedding gift. That is wonderful, and I am sure your sweetheart will be thrilled, but remember that really, this is a gift for you. You will be celebrating yourself and your wedding. That being said, this is a gift that only you can give your partner. You are helping to create a present that you have put yourself into – your heart, your soul, your time, your energy, your vulnerability. It will be even more meaningful because of that. Take this opportunity to give an incredible, personal gift that you will both treasure forever.

Quick tip – you are probably already planning on purchasing some new lingerie for your wedding night and honeymoon. This is a chance to show it off. And we all know that stuff won’t stay on for long, so take a picture. It will last longer.

One brief idea. Maybe your wedding is over. Or maybe it isn’t, but you cannot deal with one more to do before the big day. There are no rules that say your bridal boudoir session needs to take place BEFORE your wedding. You make the rules. Schedule it soon after the wedding to keep that post-wedding letdown at bay. You are done with the checklist, and you are married! Celebrate after the stress. Heck, the traditional gift for a first anniversary is paper. Take out your veil again, reminisce, and gift your love a bridal boudoir album to commemorate your first year of marriage.

Make one of the most important days of your life even more notable. You are a beautiful bride. Prove it with pictures.

Maternity Boudoir

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 21:31:13 GMT

What our bodies go through to bring life into this world is truly extraordinary. A maternity boudoir photo shoot is a fun and creative way to document this milestone. It can capture memories of pregnancy in a non-traditional way.

Everyone has a different experience with pregnancy. Whatever your complicated emotions are, this is a time to recognize the incredible work your body is doing. As difficult as it can be, motherhood is beautiful and worthy of celebrating. You may not be feeling your best. Perhaps your feelings around this unique period of life, your changing body, and everything that will change about your world, are complex. Take the pictures. Take the pictures for future you.

Your body has an awesome capability to adapt and grow - physically, mentally, and emotionally. You are entering a new stage, one full of life and power. You may need a little help falling in love with these changes. Or you may feel fierce and empowered by growing a baby. Whatever the case, pregnancy is a uniquely transformative experience. It challenges every part of you, and how you see yourself is important.

While pregnancy can transform how you view your body, so can a boudoir session. A maternity session in particular can celebrate your body’s ability to do amazing things. A mother-to-be deserves to feel incredible about herself. Having a record of such a significant moment in life is priceless. You are working hard every single day, making an entire human being. It is important to take a small pause to revel in the glow of pregnancy (and if you aren’t feeling glowy, we can help with that!), mark an important milestone, and help to create a deep appreciation for your body and understanding of your beauty.

Our bodies can feel foreign as they change and shift. Not only can you use your boudoir session to boost your confidence and embrace your growing belly, it can also help to be able to see what hasn’t changed – to see that you still have so many things that are the same, even during this momentous life change. Your body is accomplishing an incredible thing that is amazing and natural and beautiful, and it can also be overwhelming and strange to not recognize the person you see in the mirror. Boudoir can allow you to become more comfortable with her, this new mother person you are becoming. You can learn to accept your glorious curves, and see the feminine, sensual, nurturing bloom of this new, powerful, vibrant woman. It can help you to honor your own personal journey into motherhood.

This is a precious phase of life that slips by quickly. Taking the time to feel confident, to be pampered, to pause and appreciate this unique time, where you are sharing a body with your baby, all while you look exquisite, is meaningful.

Pregnancy is intimate, and this is another way to help develop a connection with your baby before you even get to meet them. Boudoir maternity shoots are stunning, yes. But they can also be soft, tender, and loving, capturing luminous moments between mother and child. You have a natural radiance during pregnancy, and the anticipation of new life, in every way, is miraculous. And what better way to teach your coming child self-love and body positivity than to show them just how excited you were to be pregnant??

It is so much easier to see how breathtaking other women look when they are pregnant. We see them bloom with roundness and blossom with an ethereal wholeness and wonder why they look like they embody everything wonderful about motherhood when you only feel tired and bloated and bulky. The reality is, you are just as gorgeous as all of them. You are taking on a new identity, a new role, and that change can be a difficult process. Your boudoir session can help you to see your photos as a portrait of life, inspired by love.

You are doing a staggering, astounding job. Take a moment to celebrate it, and you. And document it in photographs where you can see just how stunning your pregnant body is. You are worth it. This new life is worth it. You are a part of an ordinary miracle, and that is worth recording.

See more Maternity photoshoots here: https://www.silkandsaltphoto.com/maternity-boudoir-sessions

A Thank You Letter to Your Body

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 22:57:47 GMT

Give thanks to the body that carries you through the world...

In this season of gratitude and thanksgiving, it is time to start seeing yourself with gratitude. It is time to focus on the positive things about yourself and to see yourself through eyes of thankfulness and appreciation. Boudoir photography can help you in that process. It can be a thank you letter to your body for what it is capable of, what it is able to do, and what it allows you to experience.

We all have different abilities, strengths, and weaknesses. Your body has carried you through thick and thin, through trials and tribulations. It deserves kindness. A boudoir session can allow you to step into a space of gratitude, celebrating the journey you have been on, what it taught you, and where it brought you. A lens rooted in gratitude can help you use your boudoir photos as a way to give thanks for your freckles, your scars, your curves. Sometimes the step from insecurity to confidence is about acknowledgment and respect.

It is a shame that we sometimes focus on what our bodies aren’t, rather than all the amazing things they are. The boudoir session can softly and kindly remind you that your value isn’t tied to your appearance, but to everything that makes you who you are. In that spirit, this thank you letter is to writing what boudoir is to photography - a message of love and appreciation, of gratitude for the body you are in right now.

Dear Body,

Thank you for being my home. Thank you for being the vehicle through which I move through life. You allow me wondrous experiences. I can feel the sun on my face. I can give and receive hugs. I can smile. I can enjoy delicious food. I can cry. I can get goosebumps. I can take up space. Thank you for connecting me to the world and to other people. You are constantly adapting and evolving. You let me love others.

Thank you for expressing my emotions and allowing me to feel joy. You have grown and nurtured me through every interaction and exploration. Thank you for telling my story. My scars show that I have healed. Every mark is a mending, a place where my body has knit itself back together. It has endured. It has recovered. My heart has been broken, and you kept it beating.

I come to this moment with my body rejoicing in everything it can do and accepting with love everything it cannot do. I celebrate everything it has the potential to accomplish, and everything it is in this current moment. I promise to nurture it, to embrace the roundness, the softness, the flaws, the imperfections. I come to it in acknowledgement and apology, in gratitude and celebration, and I make a promise to myself that I will treat it with kindness, harmony, and love.

Love,

Writing a letter like this, along with a boudoir session, is a way to give thanks for what you bring to the table. What you focus on expands. Pay attention to the little things, and life’s abundance begins to reveal itself.

Your session will unabashedly let your light shine. It can fuel your vision for the future. It can help you see the genuine value within yourself and move forward with strength, hope, power, and belief in the worth of your body, giving you gratitude for the new light in which you see yourself.

Your body, as it is, should be honored. It works hard and needs gentleness. You are your own body standard. This is what it is to be alive, to be human. Hard things happen, and our bodies are with us through it. As with any important thing, we must give it the care and maintenance it needs. Invite compassion and recognize the value inherent in your physical being.

The body talks. Treating it with profound gratitude, grateful for what it has allowed you to bear, what it has withstood, and how it moves through the world, is not naive. When your ruminations are of thanksgiving, you change the story. Our lives can be difficult, traumatic, and painful. Our bodies can feel all those things deeply. But that is never the whole story. When we pay attention to our body, rather than attempting to silence it, we are showing our appreciation. Our bodies deserve our compassion and our voice.

Let your body be bold.

Let your beauty be bright.

All the best love is thanksgiving.

Boudoir after a Breakup

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 03:03:45 GMT

Break-ups can be earth-shattering. They are, at the very least, transitional. But endings are not failures. They are a new chapter, one where you have the chance to rediscover yourself. When you go through a life-changing breakup, you begin to search. You are more open to possibilities.

Boudoir can be a part of that new journey. Losing something that partially defined you for a period of time can feel like losing a part of yourself. Your identity can be entangled with that of your former partner. If you were the one who was broken up with, you may be feeling the pain of rejection or mourning for a lost love. If you are the one who chose to end the relationship, you may feel guilt. But in either situation, you now have to reconstruct the future without them. The future you once envisioned is no more. Boudoir can help you to look forward and to take charge of your own plans and goals.

Boudoir is about YOU. About who you are outside of a relationship. You are the number one person in your own life. Your session can act as a way to reconnect with yourself, boost your confidence, and reclaim your power. Maybe you have been left unsure or fearful about what comes next. A boudoir shoot can remind you that breakups are a time of growth, a time to fall back in love with yourself. It can be a positive step forward to aid in recovery and healing and solidifying your new identity.

No matter how needed a disconnection is, it can be a time of stress, pressure, and change. Your self-esteem can take a hit. Now is the time to focus on yourself, to remind yourself of your worth. Ending a relationship may leave you wondering how you got to this point and questioning some of your past decisions. You could be asking how you are supposed to rebuild. That pain, that disappointment, those doubts about your future - they have also gotten you to the realization that life is short. That it is time to start doing bold things, things that you have never done before. You are a new person, one who is free and strong and capable.

When you have been shaken to your core, it can be disorienting. You may question yourself. You may not feel attractive. The breakup may have put a damper on your sensuality. Boudoir can help you cope, or even celebrate the beginning of a new version of you. It is a chance to check in with your body, to take care of yourself. This is not only a breakup; it is a breakthrough. You are not damaged. A relationship may have ended, but your relationship with yourself is forever.

A boudoir breakshoot isn’t about revenge. This is a commemoration. You are celebrating taking your life back. You are a survivor. It can be a catharsis, a way to embrace the pain and who it made you. We normalize recognizing the beginnings of unions with ceremonies. This can normalize marking a turning point in your life, the end of a union. It is a way to honor yourself during what is a life-changing milestone.

Starting your new life with a reminder of just how amazing and beautiful you are is important. There is no shame in being knocked down. It is, however, much easier to get back up when you have tangible evidence of yourself looking absolutely incredible. Being able to see yourself at your absolute best, gorgeous and glowing, is a way to remember who you are. You matter.

This life may not be what you imagined for yourself. This path may not be the one you want to be on. Perhaps you are still trying to figure out where this road is leading. But you have yourself for company, and you are enough. You can handle whatever comes your way.

This is your independent era. Replace those couples photos with new ones from your session. Those stunningly gorgeous pictures of yourself, looking confident, powerful, and sexy, will boost your self-esteem long after the shoot ends. Your breakup will not leave you broken. You deserve love and appreciation, and you boudoir session will be a chance to recapture that love for yourself.

Couples Boudoir: A Love Story

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 19:27:49 GMT

An Experience to Remember

Your love story is a work of art. A boudoir shoot can allow you to submerge yourself in the love you feel for your partner. It can be intimate, romantic, and sensual. It can be empowering, fun, and exciting.

Not only can a couples session capture your connection; it can enhance it. Life demands can be overwhelming. We can yearn for something deeper than what we experience on the daily. Take some time to do something for your relationship that will remind you of the bond and attraction you share. A boudoir shoot provides an intimate space where you can rediscover your love story.

A sensual session is a new experience to explore together. It is a way to feel more connected and create images that last a lifetime. It is a special, shared memory that can be only between the two of you - a private treasure. Or you can hang this work of art in your bedroom, your refuge, your oasis, to remind you of this celebration of your love. It can be as personal or as public as you are comfortable with.

Your love story is your masterpiece, and it deserves to be treated as such. An investment in a boudoir session acknowledges that your love story is important. It can even reshape your narrative from something ordinary to something extraordinary.

Boudoir photography can feel vulnerable. Being open with your body in front of a stranger can be difficult. In a couples session, you have your person, your partner, there for support. This literal and figurative stripping down can be liberating, particularly when it is done together. Your boudoir photographer can help you find a comfortable way to push your limits, capturing raw and authentic emotions that occur between two people when you are both physically and emotionally exposed. There are few things more intimate, and that can empower you to embrace that unguardedness, break down barriers, and reignite passion.

Just as a traditional boudoir session can increase your body confidence, a couples boudoir session can increase your relationship confidence. When is the last time you were able to find a period of time to slow down and truly appreciate each other? To notice the small details of your partner’s face and body, of their expressions? You will see your partner and yourself through a new lens. It is easy to overlook some of the things that attracted you to your person in the beginning, and when you have something that takes you out of the daily routine, it can highlight those things again and bring a fresh perspective.

Boudoir creates strong feelings of confidence and empowerment, and the more self-love you have, the more love you are capable of sharing with each other. When you feel good, you love more deeply. Capturing that love in a couples session is even more amazing.

The session also celebrates what makes you each unique as individuals, and how the two of you come together to create something entirely new. The unity that exists between you is an entity that deserves to be seen, and you will discover new things about yourself and each other.

New adventures together are binding. Do something bold that fosters not only physical, but emotional, intimacy. You will see your love stripped down to its essence when you embrace your sensuality together. It can elevate your love, confidence, and trust. There are few things that can promote communication and thus augment your relationship like laying your souls and bodies bare as a couple.

Boudoir sessions for couples can be transformative. They can light a spark of confidence, a sense of liberation, that can reverberate long after the shoot ends. And you will be able to look at photographs of you and your love that capture genuine emotion, laughter, passion, desire, and love.

You may need to remember who you are as a couple. You may want to see how your passion looks from the outside. You may want a healthy reminder of your love to look back on when you experience difficulties. Whether the photos are tender and cozy, fun and playful, or sexy and steamy, or maybe all of the above, they will be uniquely yours. You will have a permanent keepsake that is a peek behind the scenes of your beautiful relationship.

Boudoir Without Lingerie

Sat, 28 Oct 2023 19:42:49 GMT

Sexy things you have in your closet right now for a boudoir shoot

1. Focus on the accessories. An amazingly sexy pair of boots, those incredible heels, that necklace that says enough on its own. Just a tie, perhaps? A pair of thigh-highs can be scorching with anything else you want to wear. Sometimes less is more.

2. A button-down shirt. White is classic, or you may want to borrow your partner’s favorite blue or gray one to wear. Open or buttoned. Flowy and sheer, or starched and structured. Which look captures the kind of feel you want for your session?

3. Your favorite little black dress. It's timeless. It's sexy. It says, 'I'm classy and confident' without trying too hard. You can't go wrong with this choice.

4. A draped sheet or piece of fabric. That’s right. A sheet, placed in exactly the right place, will give a Marilyn vibe and put the boudoir into your boudoir shoot.

5. A robe. Lacy and sheer, silky and short, whatever makes you feel exposed in all the right ways will be a flirty and fun choice. A swimsuit coverup could be perfect here.

6. An oversized sweater. Make it the cute and comfy kind of sexy by wearing just a thick sweater and cozy socks, or go for the more obvious sex appeal with an off-the-shoulder sweater and heels.

7. A tank top or t-shirt. This can be as basic as a plain white tank, or you can wear a t-shirt from your favorite band or tv show. This will bring your personality into your session, too! Wear a Star Wars t-shirt for a geek sexy look, or choose one with your favorite character.

8. A leather jacket. I mean, really - is there a sexier piece of clothing?!

9. A pair of jeans. Calvin Klein taught us that jeans can be sexy and we will forever be grateful. Wear them with a form-fitting top, that leather jacket, or nothing at all.

10. The skin you are in. Light and shadow and posing can make this as revealing or as discreet as you’d like. And truly, nothing is more beautiful than you. You don’t need anything else.

15 Out-of-the-box Reasons to Do a Boudoir Shoot

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 20 Oct 2023 22:30:49 GMT

Ms. S | Boudoir Photography, Salt Lake City

There are so many incredible reasons to book a boudoir shoot. You’re getting married. You just celebrated a milestone birthday. You want an excuse to buy sexy lingerie. You want to give your significant other a romantic gift. You want to feel beautiful. These are wonderful reasons. Here are a few you may not have thought of:

You have done some much for others. It is time to do something for yourself.

2. Just got divorced? Replace that framed wedding photo with an amazingly sexy solo photo.

3. Because the masculine and the feminine are just social constructs, and everyone deserves to feel beautiful. Smash the patriarchy with style.

4. Things are changing. Things are always changing. Transitions happen. Center yourself in the midst of chaos with a photo shoot that makes you look and feel your best.

5. No one thinks you would. PROVE THEM WRONG. Surprise them. Surprise yourself. Comfort zones are meant to be challenged. Get out of yours. Astonish yourself with what you are able to do. Dive into uncharted waters. Shock everyone, even yourself.

6. Each day, you are seen in certain roles. Parent. Spouse. Employee. Those roles are only a part of who you are. Reconnect with the part of you that is sensual. Playful. Alluring. Desirable.

7. Skydiving? Bungee jumping? You can get your thrills much more safely by posing on a bed in your underwear, rather than falling, and flailing, through the air. It feels just as risky, gets the adrenaline going, and practically no chance of plummeting to your death.

8. Sometimes, you just need to try on a new persona. Maybe you are an office administrator, but damn, do you pull off that leather corset! Who would suspect that underneath the power suit of the corporate bigwig is a person who has always wanted to wear sheer thigh-highs and a vintage-style push-up bra?! Why be one thing when you can be anything?

9. There are only six pictures of you in existance from the last 20 years that are not selfies. You are the memory maker. You are the picture-taker. But as the coordinator of everything, you are never in the pictures. You deserve to see yourself through an artist's eyes. You deserve to have a record of your awesomeness.

10. You got a new tattoo. No more explanation necessary.

11. Societal beauty standards? No thanks! Be your own beauty standard. Take the sexiest, hottest, most sensual photos of your kind of beauty. Blue hair? Fabulous. 72 years old? Slay. Lovely soft belly rolls and bulges? Goddess. Embrace it all.

12. Life is fast. As Moira Rose from Schitt’s Creek advises: Take a thousand naked pictures of yourself now. You may currently think, “Oh, I’m too spooky. Or, “Nobody wants to see these tiny boobies.” But, believe me, one day you will look at those photos with much kinder eyes and say, “Dear God. I was a beautiful thing.”

13. It’s an opportunity to have the you that you are when no one else is around photographed. That best version of you, when you are in your element and enjoying something you love. The fun and daring side. The sultry and pensive side. The carefree and liberated side. The comfortable and excited side.

14. You’ll get to see Matt show you how to arch your back and lick your lips. Worth. Every. Penny.

15. Taylor Swift would want you to. And we all know that this is Taylor’s world and we just live in it, so you should probably listen.

Ms. M | Salt Lake Boudoir

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 17 Oct 2023 18:35:34 GMT

There’s no such thing as a guilty pleasure.

No pleasure is wrong unless it does harm. Instead, pleasures are things that reduce our stress, help us to relax, and bring joy into our lives.

Many people, women in particular, see their failure to prioritize their desires as selfless. I would argue that instead of selflessness, it is self-sabotage. Neglect of your own enjoyment sets an example of ignoring or diminishing your own needs. Putting yourself last does not value your worth. Instead, model joy.

Pleasures allow us to engage more positively with others. It is so much easier to be kind to others when you have taken care of your wants and needs. Why feel embarrassment or guilt? Pleasure makes us more alive. Feeling guilty over your love of reality tv or Cheetos or romance novels or N Sync’s back catalog is fruitless. There is no such thing as an indulgence with no value. These things heighten our senses, extracting fun and delight from the everyday. If something like a piece of chocolate or sleeping late bring us juicy joy, why should we say no?

In boudoir photography, knowing yourself and being honest about what pleases you promotes a freedom in your session to celebrate the person that you unabashedly, unashamedly are. You can embrace the pleasure of the moment and of your own unique beauty.

When it comes down to it, guilty pleasures are about judgment. What will others think about what you enjoy? Are the things you enjoy “good enough”? It is all a pretense. Who gets to decide? You do. You get to decide that non-productive time is not a waste. You get to decide that you will give your brain a break.

Feeling guilt over what brings you joy, rather than appreciating it, is self-criticism. But the world can be hard enough as it is. Give yourself some gentle pleasures. Welcome happiness. Small joys can make up a fulfilling life, even if it is dancing to an 80s hair band in the kitchen while you heat up a can of Spaghettios.

Pleasure does not need a purpose, and it does not need guilt. You are valuable, and therefore, what brings you joy has worth. The world can be dark. Something that brings you warmth and light should be celebrated.

If you like something, like it. Enjoy your life. Embrace your weird. You are gorgeous in every way. Treat yourself well because you are incredible. Your body deserves all the pleasures - of good food, of laughter, of movement - not so that you will be beautiful, but because you already are.

The Essence of Silk + Salt

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 03:35:31 GMT

Hello, friend! You probably don’t know me yet, but I’m guessing you are starting to search for a boudoir photography studio . Maybe this is a new idea for you, or maybe you have been looking for a while and are determined to find that perfect fit. You want someone who sees the things about you that are beautiful and can capture that in a way that sees you as you naturally are, at your best.

Welcome to Silk + Salt Photography! I’m Matt, and along with my business partner, Pamela, we offer a different kind of boudoir experience. We have created what can only be described as a passion project. This is not simply a photoshoot. It is designed to be one of the best days of your life. We make you feel like the queen we see in you. Hors d'oeuvres, pampering, music, professional hair and makeup, and most importantly, a safe and comfortable environment. We do not rush anything. In fact, we ask you to come back to see your photos a week after your session because we don’t want you to have to think about products or making choices – this day is for you, to relax and have your beauty captured.

While I focus on the photography, Pamela is there to assist you. She understands the power of boudoir. With her help, you will begin to see why and how this sensual genre of photography elevates people's self-esteem, boosts their confidence, and helps them love themselves more. Having a small team means we can bring much more care to your experience. We divide our tasks so that we can always focus on our strengths and on your experience. It begins to feel less intimidating, and more like a fun day with friends.

My photography style is unique. Boudoir is art, and I treat it as such. I have been training in the arts since childhood. Because I was born in Europe, I attended music schools throughout my education. I was surrounded by art, and because of that, I always looked at the world around me a little differently – more deeply, from different angles, with more feeling. Poses and angles are individual. Everybody is different. You are art by being just who you are, and I attempt to capture that. My working style with each client is based on this mindset. Throughout the whole experience, I will direct you, but you are the star. I will create a light environment and work with multiple lenses and cameras like a painter would work with multiple brushes and paints. I will direct your facial expressions and poses, with your input. This way, we get to capture YOU and a part of your story.

When choosing who to trust to take your photographs, whether they are portraits, boudoir, or even sexier photos of yourself, it is impossible to know who to work with immediately. I always advise that you look at the galleries on our website. See how we capture people. Notice our focus on them as people, not only as poses or lighting techniques. I often feature clients' eyes in my photos, jokingly calling my style “boudoir portraiture”. I'm most interested in immortalizing you - a team effort where we create something TOGETHER. My goal is to celebrate your personality and individuality. Ideally, we will create a piece of art that could not exist without both of our input.

We take our art seriously. We are an award-winning studio, constantly challenging ourselves and creating gallery-worthy photographs. We have been recognized by the biggest and most prestigious international competitions. Top-notch judges and amazing professional photographers who push the boundaries of photography have acknowledged us as peers. We have proudly displayed photos of our clients among their photos of celebrities, presidents, and history-changing events, and this is a source of pride and joy.

We at Silk + Salt have a passion for what we do. We care about the the power art can have on your life. We want you to have an incredible experience and be a part of creating an artistic vision. We are your cheerleaders, and we want you to have one of your best days ever, celebrating your beauty with us.

Boudoir is art. Your story is art. You are art.

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 17:35:12 GMT

Ms. K | Salt Lake Boudoir

Your body is a beautiful story.

Repeat this as your new mantra.

It does not mean you have to love every part of yourself, all the time.

It does not mean you can’t be hurt by pieces of the story that creates you.

It does mean that you are a unique work of art, wholly imperfect, a vessel for your memories and secrets and experiences.

Boudoir can be a part of that story, one that tells you that you are not something to be fixed, but something to be embraced.

Your worth is intrinsic. Your body has carried you to where you are. Every scar a tale of pain and adventure. Every bump a biography of bravery. Each attempt at coping, at endurance, at survival, is written in the lines of your skin.

Your joy is there. Your deepest sorrows. Your triumphs and disappointments. Your natural wonder is simply a fact, an awesome, ordinary miracle.

Approach your body with curiosity and reverence. Approach all stories the same way. Diversity of bodies and diversity of stories are incredible in every way. We, humanity, are a walking gallery of every kind of art. The best photography can catch the essence of that. Your boudoir experience may capture soft and sensual in one moment, strong and self-assured in another. And they are each a part of that story that makes you.

Boudoir can act as memoir. It is a tangible embodiment of your embrace of your self-worth.

We are our own mythos. The lore we share matters. The stories we show make a difference. We are each unique, and yet universal. When we capture the things we love in our bodies and our stories, or capture the things we are trying to accept, we make others feel less alone. Yes, it is personal. But it also communal.

When we tell our stories, through boudoir or any other form of narrative, we have the unique experience of having something that is intimate, yet collective. It is a shared experience, private, but exhibited. There are few things as vulnerable as your body. Exposing it can feel like you are being made bare in every sense of the word.

But that uncovered, unconcealed disclosure of self is also your story laid bare. Shame and silence have a hard time surviving in the sunlight. Security comes from knowing you are not alone. It comes from exiting your comfort zone and unapologetically getting comfortable with the discomfort.

Boudoir is art. Your story is art. You are art.

You were made to be visible. You have nothing to hide. You are truth made manifest, value on view.

You deserve to be seen in the fullness of who you are. You deserve to tell your story.

You are worthy.

You are worth.

Boudoir Photography for EVERY BODY

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 19:59:51 GMT

Embracing Diversity and Inclusivity at Silk + Salt Photography in northern Utah

At Silk + Salt , we take pride in celebrating the beauty of every body, regardless of shape, size, ethnicity, gender, age or orientation. In this blog post, we'll explore the importance of diversity and inclusivity in boudoir photography . We believe that every individual deserves to feel confident, empowered, and represented. Join us as we delve into the importance of inclusive boudoir photography and discover how we embrace and celebrate the uniqueness of each person who walks through our doors.

Our boudoir sessions are designed to be a transformative and uplifting experience. We encourage our clients to let go of self-doubt and embrace their individuality. Our portfolio reflects the diversity and uniqueness of our clients, showcasing a wide range of body types, ethnicities, ages, genders, and orientations. By celebrating the curves, the lines, the scars, and the stretch marks that make each person's body a testament to their journey, we hope to challenge societal norms and promote a more inclusive and accepting definition of beauty. In an industry that has traditionally showcased a narrow standard of beauty, we are committed to breaking stereotypes and redefining what it means to be beautiful.

Boudoir photography is a powerful tool for promoting self-love and empowerment. It allows individuals to embrace their bodies, express their sensuality, and celebrate their unique beauty. At Silk + Salt, we believe that every person deserves to feel confident and empowered in their own skin.

The Empowering Journey

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 04:44:08 GMT

How Boudoir Photography Celebrates Self-Love and Body Acceptance with Silk + Salt Photography in Northern Utah

We are Silk + Salt, your trusted boudoir photography studio in Northern Utah . We specialize in capturing the beauty, confidence, and self-expression of individuals through empowering boudoir photography. In this blog post, we will delve into the transformative power of boudoir photography, exploring how it celebrates self-love and promotes body acceptance.

We believe that every person deserves to feel confident and beautiful, and our mission is to create an environment where you can embrace your unique self and create stunning images that reflect your inner strength. We celebrate individuals of all shapes, sizes, ages, and backgrounds. We believe that beauty knows no boundaries and that every body is unique and deserving of documentation.

Boudoir photography is about so much more than capturing beautiful images; it is a celebration of self-love and a journey towards embracing your own unique beauty. At Silk + Salt, we understand that everyone has their own challenges and insecurities. Our mission is to create a safe space where you can shed your inhibitions, step out of your comfort zone, and truly appreciate and love yourself.

During a boudoir session, you have the opportunity to see yourself through an artist’s lens – one that focuses on your strengths, your power, and your individuality. It's a chance to celebrate your body: every curve, every roll, every stretch mark, every line, and every wrinkle. It's a chance to challenge societal norms and redefine your relationship with your body. Mateusz will guide you through the whole process, including each pose, while helping you to discover the beauty in every part of yourself, providing gentle direction and creating a supportive atmosphere.

Our studio is committed to showcasing the diversity of women’s beauty and challenging our cultural standards of perfection. We aim to create a space where everyone feels represented and included. We want you to see yourself reflected in the images we create, knowing that your story and your journey are just as valuable and inspiring as anyone else's.

The Art of Couples Boudoir Photography with Silk + Salt in Ogden, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sat, 15 Jul 2023 00:29:00 GMT

Your love story becomes art...

Welcome to Silk + Salt Photography, your go-to boudoir photography studio in Ogden, Utah , where we specialize in capturing intimate moments between couples. In this blog post, we will explore the enchanting world of couples boudoir photography , learn about the unique artistry behind it and the wonderful experiences it can create for you and your partner. Whether you're celebrating a milestone like an anniversary, reigniting the spark, or simply wanting to capture your love story in a beautifully intimate way, Silk + Salt Photography is here to help you create lasting memories.

Our talented team is experienced in capturing the essence of relationships, ensuring that each image reflects the love, trust, and intimacy you share. We believe that couples boudoir photography is not just about creating beautiful images; it's about curating an experience that brings you and your partner closer together and celebrates your unique bond.

Preparing for Your Couples Boudoir Session:

We know how nerve-wracking your first boudoir photography experience can be. We do everything in our power to help calm your anxiety and prepare you for your photo shoot. After you reserve your date in the studio, we provide a comprehensive guide to help you make the most of your experience. We also offer a pre-shoot planning session over Zoom to ensure you feel prepared, safe, and comfortable with us. In the meantime, here are a few essential tips to get you started:

Communication is Key: Before the session, have open and honest conversations with your partner about your expectations, boundaries, and desires. This will help ensure that both of you are comfortable and on the same page.

Wardrobe Selection: Choose outfits that reflect your personalities and make you feel confident and sexy. Whether it's romantic lingerie, cozy sweaters, or what you’d wear on a date night together, the key is to choose something that makes you both feel comfortable and expresses your unique connection. We proudly offer a wide range of styles and sizes in our client closet just for women. Please feel free to borrow everything from us, bring your own things, or a combination of the two.

Professional Hair and Makeup: Enjoy some pampering by one of our world-class stylists! It’s included in your session fee!! We’ll help you achieve whatever look you prefer, from natural to glamorous, or somewhere in between. And while you’re getting all dolled up, we’ll have a personalized music playlist playing for you and some hors d’oeuvres and wine to pamper all your senses!

The Photoshoot Experience:

At Silk + Salt Photography, we strive to create an empowering atmosphere of safety and comfort. Throughout your couples boudoir session, Mateusz will guide you through all the poses and facial expressions that feel natural and authentic to capture genuine moments of intimacy between you two. You do not need to come into the studio knowing how to model! It’s our job to make you look good. It’s your job to show up, have fun, and reconnect with your partner. We encourage couples to express their love in their own way, whether it's through tender embraces, playful interactions, or stolen glances. Our goal is to create images that tell your unique love story, preserving the special connection and chemistry you share.

Displaying Your Love Story:

Once your couples boudoir session is complete, we will schedule your image reveal and ordering session. At your reveal, you’ll see a slideshow of at least 50 edited images along with samples of all of our products. We offer a range of luxury options for displaying your stunning images, including customizable albums, gallery-quality, ready to hang wall art, and web-resolution digitals. Pamela will guide you through the selection process, ensuring that your cherished memories are beautifully showcased.

Want to learn more?

You can see more examples of couples sessions here: https://www.silkandsaltphoto.com/couples-boudoir-sessions

And you can learn all about the experience here: https://www.silkandsaltphoto.com/info/the-experience

Guilty Pleasures

Wed, 05 Jul 2023 01:18:17 GMT

Why pleasure should never lead to guilt...

“I feel guilty,” she said to me, clutching a bag filled with new lingerie as we walked out from the adult store and into the parking lot.

“What on earth for?” I asked. Moments ago my friend was so excited to find the perfect lingerie set in her size and was eager to take it home with her, but the moment we crossed the threshold of the store into the parking lot, her eagerness evaporated. The point of asking her the question was not for my curiosity, I knew this was buyer’s remorse: the feeling of dread, anxiety, regret, or guilt experienced after buying a consumer item.

“It just cost so much; I always feel guilty when I spend a lot of money on myself.” Words I’ve heard come out of my mouth before, and I would be safe to assume that a large portion of people (especially women) have said the same.

The only response I could think of at the time was, “I guess that’s why they call it a ‘guilty pleasure.’” That was almost three years ago.

Now and then that conversation pops into my head, and the memory of my response to her makes me cringe. The words “guilty” and “pleasure” should never belong in the same sentence, yet for as long as I can remember, women have been subliminally taught that experiencing pleasure must come with a chaser of guilt. “Junk” food, “trashy” TV, buyer’s “remorse”, and “guilty” pleasure are all phrases that pass between our lips without a second thought. Humans have made a habit of associating pleasures outside the standard societal scope (such as binge-watching Jersey Shore) with a feeling of shame. It’s subtle, but the longer you stare at the words, the more you begin to realize the contradictions between them. Guilt is the opposite of pleasure, spending time or money on something that brings you joy and pleasure is worth the time and money. That’s what I wish I had explained to my friend that day instead.

The real issue is that when we are taught to consistently associate our pleasures with the feeling of guilt, the guilt will begin to precede the pleasure. Using the phrase “junk” food as an example: if I’m walking past the Cold Stone Ice Cream shop on 25th Street and I find myself craving a double chocolate scoop with Oreo mix-ins, I can convince myself not to indulge in my pleasures as a proactive way to stem off the guilt that would follow purchasing and eating the ice cream. Without even walking into the store, I’ve already convinced myself that I should feel guilty for fulfilling my desires, therefore I avoid pursuing my desires altogether. This is a phenomenon that happens every day to millions of women, allowing the assumption of guilt with pleasure to fend off any attempts to pursue pleasure altogether. If you are told that you should feel guilty for wanting something enough times, you will eventually give up that pleasure for the sake of avoiding guilt. Reality TV shows and ice cream are such small examples when compared to the laundry list of pleasures that women tend to deny themselves today, which all stems from our introduction to our most basic human form of pleasure: sex.

Like many women I know, the topic of sex growing up was a risque talking point only discussed behind closed doors and in hushed tones. This meant that a majority of discovery in my sexuality and bodily pleasure was done alongside my peers, who were (let’s be honest) just as clueless as I was. I remember most interactions with my friends on the topic of sex and body image almost exactly mirrored a scene straight out of the early 2000s hit movie “Mean Girls.” All of us standing in front of a mirror, tugging at our hair and clothes, taking turns insulting ourselves while simultaneously contradicting each other's hateful critiques. We were all taught by women in our lives, and therefore each other, that when approaching the topic of our bodies, it’s the societal norm to lead with shame. This means that when approaching sex and masturbation, we have already laid the foundation for those topics to be built upon shame as well. All of this taught us that feeling pleasure comes at a cost; that to enjoy our bodies and enjoy sex, we had to earn it.

In the modern Docuseries Planet Sex, Cara Delavine travels the world to meet queer creators and entrepreneurs to explore and understand her sexuality. In her opening interview, Cara explains, “Even though I’m queer, I haven’t been able to live a queer life… (with) the internalized shame, I didn’t really develop my queerness and now I’m coming to it all very late.” Throughout the series Cara immerses herself in the queer community, both local and international, seeking answers to questions that internalized shame prevented her from finding in the past. Unraveling the guilt allowed Cara to feel open to exploring her desires and embracing pleasure in her life, something that society is seriously lacking today. While watching Cara’s Docuseries one thing became very clear to me; pleasure is not something to be earned. Humans are inherently wired to experience pleasure, yet society influences us to feel shame about what gives us pleasure. Stepping outside of society’s influences and exploring ourselves, like Cara, is the way to deconstruct the ‘guilt’ in a guilty pleasure. (To watch Planet Sex on Hulu, click here: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.hulu.com/series/planet-sex-with-cara-delevingne-3463f0a0-142b-4c7a-b274-56b80a751fef&ved=2ahUKEwi30ODPuO7_AhV1kokEHXSDBjYQFnoECDsQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0y2usfPOsxn0uxTMQWE86B )

The Netflix series The Principles of Pleasure puts stubborn myths centered around female pleasure to rest. In the series, narrator Michelle Buteau urges viewers to “Imagine if you could go back in time and learn about your body, and learn about your desires without fear. How would the rest of your life be different?” An interesting question, and when pondering it I began to picture myself as a more confident, open-minded, and overall more joyful individual. But of course, the reality is we can’t go back in time, so how do women unravel the shame that is connected to their pleasures? Michelle goes on to explain that, “Pleasure is not a ‘nice to have,’ it's a ‘need to have.’” In other words, make female pleasure a priority in your life. (To watch The Right to Pleasure on Netflix, click here: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.netflix.com/title/81137265&ved=2ahUKEwiguOyoye7_AhVJjYkEHf1BCC8Qjjh6BAgbEAE&usg=AOvVaw3y5NOrS5rWS6mJQFKop1OH )

Choosing to intentionally include pleasure in your day-to-day life will compound into building confidence and feeling less shame associated with pleasure. Whether it’s a double scoop of chocolate ice cream, a few episodes of your favorite TV show, or bringing your vibrator with you to the shower, taking the time to intentionally incorporate pleasure in your daily routine will shed the inherited shame. If you’ve been looking for a sign to invest in your pleasure through a big purchase or new exploration, this is it; don’t let shame stand between you and your authentic self.

Utah Pride 2023

Fri, 02 Jun 2023 23:21:06 GMT

An Inside Look on Utah's LGBTQI+ Community in 2023

Utah is widely known for the intense presence of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints – and for the ever-growing LGBTQI+ population reaching higher than the national average in this past year alone. Despite arduous pushback and religious agendas, the queer community in Utah has more of a presence today than ever before; sitting at 3.5% of the state’s population as of February of this year. Over the past decade, Salt Lake City has bloomed into a hub of gay-friendly establishments including salons, restaurants, pubs, and several support groups for the LGBTQI+ community. However, SLC has a long way to go before reaching the cultural height of cities such as San Francisco with nearly 9% of the population identifying as queer, gay, trans, or non-binary. Change is here, and in the past year alone the rainbow community has gained incredible momentum in the state of Utah, giving it the potential to double in only a few years. Still, it’s hard to ignore the polarizing demographic of the Mormon Church and its role to play in the societal structure we see today. Diving into the LGBTQI+ presence in Utah will cultivate a deeper understanding of the society we live in, and how we can make our home more welcoming for our queer community.

I had the opportunity to interview members and supporters of the LGBTQI+ community located in different counties in Utah, and they commented on their varied experiences of growing up or living in the Beehive State. LGBTQI+ supporter and 30+ year resident of Davis County, Ric Womble, holds degrees in psychology, sociology, and women's studies, with an emphasis on interpersonal relationships and human sexuality. He offered incredible insight into the “common demographic” of the Church with his time as a Minister turned Polyamorous LGBTQI+ ally. Ric emphasizes that young LGBTQI+ members struggle to find a sense of belonging in Utah because “our developing personalities will expand based on our ability to predict the future of our environment.” He states that because the general public’s view on the LGBTQI+ community is so unpredictable, it’s difficult for us to gauge if we are in a safe space to express ourselves openly. Although Ric notes that there is an overall growing acceptance of the LGBTQI+ community in Utah, there is still more for society to learn to escape dogma. He encourages us to rip a page out of the evangelical playbook and utilize the concept of “each one, reach one,” explaining that it is not our job to convince society to accept queerness, but rather that we should reach out and show our humanity to those who hold fear for what they don’t understand. “You don’t need to convince them you’re right, but make sure they know the human who lives next door,” he explains, “We are all human - why on earth would anyone hate somebody that treats people like they are human?” Ric practices this sentiment in his daily life by connecting with community members and neighbors, and flying a colorful array of LGBTQI+ flags in his front yard all year round.

We see the positive impact of Ric’s advice to the community every day, as a dear friend in the LGBTQI+ community, Bradley, expressed, “I see much more houses flying the pride flag in my neighborhood, and sometimes I get excited when I see them,” he says, “it sometimes surprises me to see that much support.” As a gay man living in Utah, Bradley expressed how he wishes more Utah residents would understand that sexual orientation is just a fraction of his overall identity, stating that, “we are more than the sum of all of our parts.” He explains that on the other side of his sexual orientation, he is at his core a human with varying interests that go deeper than his association with the LGBTQI+ community. The anomaly of seeing a pride flag pinned in the window of a local small business or neighborhood house is becoming less of a rarity with each passing year, but with that comes increased backlash from the polarized demographic of the conservative LDS community. Those of us who nurtured our sexual and gender identities under judgmental eyes feel their hateful presence much more heavily. McKay, a gray ace, pan romantic, trans man, and resident of Weber County, spoke on the inherited fear that follows him through his career. “My biggest struggle would be finding jobs where I know I’ll be safe, and not at the risk of being fired if my trans identity is found out,” he explains. “I think a lot of people here view queerness as a mental illness, a perversion, or a fad. I wish people knew more about queer history and could see that we’ve always been here and that we are just people!” McKay expressed that his beliefs on how to bridge the gap between the LGBTQI+ community and its opposers are inspired by the gender-fluid fashion model icon Rain Dove. In an interview with Teen Vogue Magazine, Rain explains, “You have the ability to create social and political change just by standing behind people and politicians you believe in.” She encourages the queer community to “take to Twitter or Instagram” as this generation's most widely accessed platforms for societal growth and to back those who have the means and political standing to bring about real change in conservative states such as Utah.

In the early morning of June 28th, 1969 in Greenwich Village, NY, the New York City Police raided the Stonewall Inn; a known gay club where employees and members were dragged into the streets and arrested for criminal mischief and disorderly conduct. This led to six consecutive days of protests from the gay community, a monumental tipping point in history. Now every year in June, LGBTQI+ members and supporters take to the streets to memorialize and celebrate two things; Pride in what we are, and what we are becoming. Pride month is historically a 30-day remembrance and appreciation of the trans, queer, and gay persons that risked life and limb to protest against the systemic hatred and unconstitutional laws imposed upon the queer community. For this new generation, the SLC Pride Festival is a space where LGBTQI+ feel the most comfortable expressing their identities free of judgment. McKay shared that attending the Pride Festival opened his eyes to, “just how many of us are out there,” and how he had the opportunity to “feel 100% comfortable in that group. Seeing all those magical souls being free and happy is such a magical feeling.” Bradley commented on the festival stating that he recognizes it as, “being a beacon for those needing love and support; so they know there are people in the world who cherish them for who they are.” Although the festival cultivates a sense of comradery amongst the queer community, most agree that it is important to celebrate our uniqueness not only during June. “It should be celebrated every day. Be proud every month, every day, every year,” Ric Womble explains, “it goes beyond just sexuality, it's about being prideful of ALL that you are.”

Speaking with fellow LGBTQI+ community members and supporters in Utah was eye-opening to the varying degrees of both fear and freedom that lives between the lives of queer people in our home state. When speaking with McKay about how Utah’s queer culture differs from other states, he said, “There is definitely a thriving queer community here, and I think that queer communities in conservative states are even stronger and more inclusive than ones I’ve seen in more liberal areas.” When discussing the impact of the LDS church on the inner workings of the LGBTQI+ community, McKay commented, “We’re used to the constant outside judgment, so we don’t hold a lot of it within our community.” There has never been a better time for LGBTQI+ to live in Utah than there is today; regardless of the current impact of the LDS church on the societal climate, Utahns are shedding the fear of people who are queer. This pride month, and for the rest of 2023, I encourage my readers to embrace the momentum of this past year and to reach out to local community members and support groups to continue cultivating our growth in Utah cities. Vote, petition, protest, and rally; remember how far we have come, and always take pride in who you are.

Social Media and Body Image

Sat, 01 Apr 2023 01:15:34 GMT

by Deanna Smith, LCSW

Social media: some people love it, some despise it. Social media gives us the opportunity to connect with like-minded people and share our greatest achievements and biggest struggles, but it also presents unique challenges. One challenge of social media is the power and influence it can have on an individual’s self-worth as a result of the fear of judgment. In today’s blog, we will examine the effect of these external and internal expectations and their impact on one’s self-esteem.

Social media does have several benefits, such as business promotion, social connection, and information gathering. As a body image therapist, I also see the adverse effects of social media and how it can impact body image. First, it can encourage body comparison and body scrutiny. Secondly, it can create internalized or external pressure for individuals to post only the types of pictures that cast themselves in a positive light. Thirdly, it can promote body disgust. Individuals must be aware of these influences as they can often present subtly; but over time, they can lead to an aversion to photos or excessive fears of judgment or rejection when they post.

First, let’s talk about body comparison. Individuals can make more money, gain popularity, and receive acceptance and notoriety from social media. Because of this, people develop internalized expectations for their social media presence (even if they do not prioritize social media). There is an unspoken pressure to present glamorous images of themselves with the hope of more acceptance. This pressure is in the form of more likes, comments, or shares which communicates a sign of approval. Even individuals who do not prioritize social media still face the pressures of not posting images of themselves.

What do internalized pressures vs. external forces look like regarding body image? Think of internalized pressures as a set of rules someone has for their personal body image. For example: “I can’t get my picture taken without makeup” would be an example of internalized pressure. Maybe society has influenced this internalized expectation/rule, but the rule is primarily internal. External forces are mainly from an outside perspective. For example, someone can feel neutral about their weight but notice many compliments or more external validation when they lose weight. Hence, drawing a natural conclusion that people are paying a large amount of attention to their bodies and that they have more acceptance from others when they lose weight. Both of these expectations (internal and external) can be disordered- and can shape people’s views of themselves and their bodies.

The final and most crucial aspect to consider as we explore some of these points is how someone views images of themselves. When people are habitually looking at pictures of themselves with disgust saying things like: “I look so gross,” or obsessing over different aspects of their bodies, they begin to develop internalized hate and judgment. They cannot just look at an image of themselves without scrutiny, fear, or disgust.

These are just some of the many influencers that can impact how people view images of themselves. Therapists see immense disgust from our clients concerning photos of themselves, which impacts their likelihood of allowing themselves to share in memories. People often see images of themselves more critically, which can affect their body disgust. I meet with clients often who are more critical of how they look in pictures and have more aversion to their bodies after seeing pictures of themselves. I have noticed that people are generally more critical of images of themselves, and I have seen this vastly increase with the pressures of social media. Research and personal experience with clients have pointed mainly toward the pressures of social media.

If these points describe you, I challenge you to start taking pictures of yourself and looking at them from a lens of compassion rather than criticism, recognizing that images can be powerful, and finding ways to speak of these images in a kind or encouraging manner rather than from a judgmental stance. Pamela and Mateusz have told me that their clients are generally anxious before taking their pictures or worried about how they will look afterward, but consistently feel better about themselves after they see their gallery. Do not wait to find outlets that feel safe or help you move towards compassionate views of yourself. Also, review your social media, and make sure the people you follow (or people who follow you) are kind and non-judgmental, and some of your external pressures may decrease. Use social media as an outlet to support your body image, and be careful of the social media you surround yourself with, as it often influences your body image. Do not wait! Use this moment to start healing your fears surrounding pictures, and allow yourself to get your photo taken. Allow yourself to post the pictures and stop your inner critic when you notice critical thoughts when looking at your photos. Remember, if you wouldn’t say it to a friend, you should not say it about yourself!

This blog is not meant as therapeutic advice, rather to provide education. If you or a loved one is struggling with disordered eating, or body image issues know that there are many educated qualified mental health therapists and dieticians who are well-versed in these complicated issues. Please seek therapeutic & nutritional support if disordered eating or body image concerns are impacting your life.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

5 Years of Silk & Salt

Thu, 30 Mar 2023 07:00:23 GMT

Fours Years of Our Boudoir Journey So Far

In February 2023 Silk + Salt celebrated its 4 ^th birthday. Lots of things have changed since Pamela and I decided to create this experience. At the beginning it was supposed to be just a “little” photoshoot experience that would be super fun for clients, but immediately we realized that boudoir has real power to do so much more than that. We decided to create this experience in order to empower you, show you that you are worthy of gallery quality art, and have a total blast while doing it. Today I want to share the artistic journey we have been on for the past 4 years. A lot has changed, but our vision and mission haven’t. I think that my body of work represents that very well. There hasn’t really been a large revolution at any point but rather everything is an evolution of my core beliefs, personality, and values. Lets go back in time a little!

Year 1

After I graduated with my Masters Degree in Music Performance I knew that I wouldn’t be playing anymore. I always felt like I was playing other people’s music and any feeling and expression I wanted to share with people was extinguished very quickly. With all of the money I saved up I decided to buy a camera – something I had wanted to do since my middle school days but always used lots of excuses to keep postponing it. Right after I finally got my first camera I started to take photos of my wife. Thanks to her patience, love, and lots of faith in me, we created some of the very first images that would set me on a journey of photographing and connecting with people. I have tried a lot of things, especially when it comes to light. I was enamored by the art and feeling of creating and shaping light. A lot of experimentation and countless hours of studying light, I was set on mastering it no matter the place, time, or circumstance.

Year 2

This was probably the pivotal year of my journey. I discovered Peter Lindbergh, and it seems like “the rest is history”. Up to this point I took very few black and white photographs. I thought that black and white photos were easy and lazy. Most people who have no idea what they are doing and no direction simply turn their pictures into black and white and call them “art”. Oh how wrong was I. Peter’s book called “A Different Vision on Fashion Photography” changed my life. From the very first pages of this photography book I fell in love with monochrome. I experienced exactly what I have been searching for my whole career as a musician and as a new photographer – EMOTION. These photographs made me feel something. It wasn’t always clear what, but they always touched something in me and pushed me towards searching for what it might be. I felt like I finally understood what black and white photography was. It was a language and I decided to learn it and become so fluent in it that I could “write” visual poems with it.

Year 3

Ever since then my work has transformed into primarily black and white photography. I even started to use a monochrome digital camera that could capture images without color only. This was the year when Covid ravaged our lives and for a long time I was completely engulfed by work. I felt like I had to do something big. Thankfully, the universe responded. One of my photography inspirations, Vincent Peters, announced a photography workshop in Italy. He almost never teaches, so I felt like despite all of the restrictions and difficulties, I had to do everything I could to go and learn from him. The time I spent learning from him was invaluable. It was one of those lessons in which the meaning fully flourishes with time. I still am unpacking and understanding everything we went through during this workshop. One thing I can definitely, confidently say is that I understood much more about myself and what I am creating and what I want to create in the future. My focus on creating organic, authentic, and emotional photography was solidified and I felt like I “matured” with my work.

Year 4

This is the point where we are at right now. I think that all the things I have talked about already are coming together right now. My photography is aligned with my personal vision as an artist and our Silk + Salt mission. I feel like our art and what we do aligns so well that words cannot express it. That is the reason I create images with you and let them speak for themselves. I let them make you feel something. It is a chamber music performance and we both are creating a piece that has different sections, keys, tempos, and textures.

Year 5

This has been a year of big changes, the biggest of which is likely our move from Ogden to Salt Lake City. Our studio is now located in the heart of Utah, right next to Liberty Park. The new space has allowed us to enhance the experience of working with us and has given me the opportunity to expand my repertoire in lighting, composition, and creativity in ways that our previous space could no longer support. I also completed another workshop with one of the world’s best photographers, Szymon Brodziak, who is widely regarded as a master of black-and-white photography. Our style has matured greatly, and we are incredibly proud to bring all of our experience and knowledge to every session we create.

February and March Boudoir Review

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 16:30:00 GMT

Some of our favorite images from February and March...

Ms. K | SLC Boudoir

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Decorative Rope Tying

Sat, 25 Mar 2023 01:55:00 GMT

What is Western Decorative Rope Tying?

When you think of rope bondage, the first term that usually comes to mind is “Shibari,” which is a very specific classification and style of rope tying. Shibari involves a stiff natural fiber rope such as hemp or jute, with the intention of partially or fully suspending the one tied in rope (also termed as a ‘rope bottom’) from a hard point; a metal plate or hook in a ceiling or joist beam. Shibari is a Japanese cultural tradition that derived from Hojo-jitsu, which is a method of restraining captives and a form of torture, before it evolved into the erotic bondage art form known as Kinbaku. “Kinbaku” translates to “the beauty of tight binding.”

Western decorative rope tying differs greatly from Shibari in many ways. In decorative ties, the rope bottom is rarely suspended, being that the style of tying is not designed to hold the rope bottoms’ body weight in most cases. This means all western decorative ties are primarily floor ties; being that the rope bottom is always standing on the floor and not tied in the air. Decorative rope also utilizes a much softer and more flexible nylon rope as opposed to the rough and stiff nature of natural fiber rope that is used in Shibari ties. The material of nylon rope also provides a nice glossy finish which is very visually appealing in photographs, and much more comfortable to wear for longer periods of time while leaving minimal rope marks on the skin.

Decorative rope tying can be used as a form of bondage by restraining the rope bottom at the feet, ankles, hands, and/or wrists, but can also be styled in the form of body harnesses that allow free range of motion of all four limbs. Intricate design work and proper placement of the rope in juxtaposition to the model’s body effectively adds another visual layer of erotica to photo shoots with minimal discomfort.

What to expect

Should you elect to have our rope artist, Vanessa, provide decorative rope work for your photo shoot, here is an overview of what you can expect! She will meet with you on the day of your shoot to discuss what designs you’d be interested in, and provide you with different options depending on your level of comfort. Rope work will be saved until the very end of your photo shoot to ensure ample amount of time to tie. You will have the option of having either a chest harness or hip harness tied for your individual shoot. Light bondage work such as single column or double column ties may be negotiated for individual or couples shoots. Your comfort is a priority, and throughout the tying process our rope artist will consistently be checking the tightness of the rope to ensure proper circulation and placement of the rope to your comfort level.

Decorative Rope FAQs

What should I wear for rope tying?

Your rope work will count as one of the 3-4 outfits incorporated in your shoot, and decorative rope work can be done either in the nude or over lingerie of your choice. However, we ask that if you do choose to wear any type of clothing under the rope design that it be form fitting, and not contain any underwire or boning in the bodice of the bra or teddy to ensure maximum comfort while tied in rope. Placing rope ties over the top of metal underwire or plastic boning may cause the material to place too much pressure on your rib cage, making posing for photos a tad uncomfortable.

How long does it take to tie the rope?

The entire process of tying rope will take approximately 20-30 minutes depending on the intricacies of the tie. Removing the rope after the photos are taken will take approximately 10 minutes. We ask that you be prepared to stand for that period of time to allow proper placement and removal of the rope designs.

Does decorative rope tying hurt?

The short answer is no, not unless you want it to! The beauty of decorative rope tying is that it is virtually painless throughout the entire process. Discomfort levels will vary depending on how tightly the rope is tied around the body, and our rope artist will communicate with you to ensure you are at your comfort level from beginning to end. Those who have been tied in relatively tight chest harnesses say that it feels equivalent to wearing a heavy back pack. However, other rope ties that offer little to no tension give the feeling of wearing a loose shirt made of rope! Those who participate in rope tying regularly will say that having snug but comfortable tension feels like a consistent hug, and even find the rope to be comforting.

Will the ropes leave any marks?

In decorative rope tying, we use soft, flexible nylon rope to ensure no rope burns will occur. When the rope is removed from the skin there is a high possibility of reddish-pink impressions of the rope being left behind on the skin which dissipates after approximately 10-20 minutes after removal. This is completely normal, and is less likely to occur in looser harness ties. Double column or single column ties are more likely to leave rope marks. These rope mark indentations are the equivalent of what you would see if you removed a bra and witnessed indentation lines on your ribs and shoulders from the bra straps. If you have a medical condition such as Cushing’s syndrome, Vitamin deficiency, or a blood clotting disorder, you are at a higher risk of potentially bruising from the rope ties. If you have any medical conditions and wish to be tied in rope, please consult our rope artist so proper precautions can be made for the betterment of your health.

How to Cultivate Self-Compassion

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 22:58:34 GMT

Cultivating Self-compassion this Valentine's Day

It’s February, the month of love and showing appreciation for your loved ones. For Valentine’s Day this year, I want to encourage you to focus on showing love and support for your body. So often people get stuck thinking they will have the perfect relationship or love life if they “lose weight” or change an aspect of their appearance. In addition to focusing on romance with others, I want to encourage you to think of how you could show love and appreciation for yourself and your body. This Valentine’s Day, I am challenging all the readers to complete a 10-day self-compassion challenge. This will be for those of you who want to make one intentional step a day towards self-acceptance.

Day 1: Watch a video from Kristen Neff’s self-compassion to learn a little more on the subject. https://self-compassion.org/ After watching this video, write down a few ways you will work on cultivating your own self-compassion this month. Spend some time writing down a few of the areas you struggle with the most, and the barriers preventing you from developing compassion and kindness for yourself.

Day 2: Pick something that is self-care related and spend at least an hour alone doing something you like because you deserve to do something for yourself. Self-care nourishes the soul and body together, pulling the focus toward mindfulness when life becomes too overwhelming. This could look like reading a book for pleasure, taking a relaxing bath, painting/creative space time, or spending time on a hobby. Self-care is a concept that often gets lumped into self-compassion, however self-care is more about taking care of yourself. It is more about making sure your needs are met vs. being compassionate/kind to yourself. These practices go hand in hand. When your basic needs are being met, your brain has the foundation it requires to form kind thoughts and feelings about yourself.

Day 3: Focus on socializing with friends and loved ones. Spend the day chatting about things that bring you closer to the person and further away from diet/body talk. Try making a connection with this person and calling them out or yourself out if you start engaging in any kind of body shame talk. Share with them how this kind of talk doesn’t help your views of yourself long-term. Bonding with loved ones is easily overlooked with the prevalence of the internet. We may believe we are more connected than we are. Plan a day out with a friend or group of friends who give you energy, love, and support.

Day 4: Pick one way you will focus on moving that helps you feel connected to your body and the way it feels rather than exercising for body control or to change the way you look. Notice how different it feels to move your body in ways that feel good. Write down your experience and start to ask yourself how this feels different and how you would like to change your exercise habits in the future. Try to emphasize movement that brings you joy in your new exercise regimen.

Day 5: Dedicate the whole day to catching your self-critical responses. Make a list of the things you say to yourself that are negative or self-shaming and write it down. This is an important activity to help change negative self-talk. It may sound easy, but people are often shocked to find the frequency with which they shame their bodies. This personal shame is typical if they feel like they made a mistake, when they look in mirrors, or when they have an argument with a loved one. Recognizing this self-critiquing is the first step to replacing it with appreciation and love for yourself.

Day 6: Take that list and think about how you would speak to a friend, child, partner, or parent. Would you feel differently if they were saying these things to themselves? Would you ever speak to someone else this way? How do you think it impacts your self-esteem if you are consistently talking about yourself in this way? Research has shown that over time, self-critical thoughts heavily impact self-confidence. It shows that people who criticize themselves often isolate themselves more and engage in more damaging behaviors for their mental health. This may sound like a small step, but it has an incredibly positive impact over time.

Day 7: Try a body image exposure! Try wearing something you have always wanted to but maybe you were too anxious, or worried about what people would think of your body. This could be getting a new outfit or trying an entirely new style. Even though this is scary, people often feel empowered after engaging in this activity. Jes Baker, the founder of the Annual Body Confidence Conference, said the first time she wore a crop top she felt vulnerable and unnatural. At the end of the day, she was surprised by how great she felt. She says you don’t have to wear a crop top, but breaking conventional rules and wearing something you would never try before can provide you with confidence.

Day 8: Write an appreciation letter of the things your body allows you to do. Express your gratitude in this body appreciation letter. Some possible prompts could be “What does my body allow me to do that helps me be closer to my loved ones?” “What about my body am I most appreciative of?” “What is an activity I like to do that my body helps me enjoy? (i.e., a sport, a date, time with family, etc.)” Keep this letter in an accessible place and continue to add to it as you are reminded of things you are appreciative of. Be sure to pull this letter out when you are struggling with your body image!

Day 9: Share with a loved one the things you have learned about your experience while trying to bring in more self-compassion. Tell them some of the things you have been working on from day one and some of the aspects of the self-compassion video that you are incorporating into your life. Express which aspects of this challenge helped the most.

Day 10: Try giving a gift to yourself! Book a photoshoot, a spa day, or some kind of gift to yourself to celebrate YOU. Too often people struggle to feel like they “deserve” any kind of gift to themselves. This is a challenge to those out there to book something and spend some of their time, money and energy focused completely on themselves.

The typical focus on love for others is the biggest reason I want to challenge readers this Valentine’s Day. Let’s draw the focus inwards. I want to encourage you to ask yourself what you can do to show love, care, and compassion towards yourself. Love and appreciation of yourself and your body is the most important foundational step for you when building your self-worth and confidence. Take this holiday and spend the time celebrating love for yourself and working towards showing yourself the same love and compassion you show to others.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

January Boudoir Review

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 00:01:35 GMT

Our favorite Boudoir Images from January

Our FAVE Lingerie Brands

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 26 Jan 2023 01:45:42 GMT

The best lingerie brands for boudoir...

Your makeup is perfect, your hair is immaculate, and Mateusz is ready to turn you into a goddess on camera. What did we miss? Lingerie! Of course, you don’t HAVE to wear lingerie at your photo session. There are plenty of great alternatives. But if you love lingerie as much as we do here at Silk + Salt, we’ve got some recommendations for you.

Before we talk about what to buy, please remember that we have a client closet that you can borrow from in sizes XS-6X. DO NOT SPEND MONEY ON SOMETHING YOU’RE ONLY GOING TO WEAR ONCE! But if you love lingerie shopping or you’re looking for something really specific, we’re here for you, girl.

Unfortunately, not all lingerie is created equal. Some lingerie chafes, is too big or waaaayyy too small, or falls apart the second you try to put it on. We at S+S take lingerie very seriously, and so we took it upon ourselves to test these brands so you don't have to. We have pieces in our closet from every one of these brands. Now you can purchase with confidence! Ok, let’s mention these unmentionables!

Shein

Why We Adore It:

The prices seem too good to be true, and sizes are inclusive. Shein has some of the cutest styles, sticking to the classics, but also has some uniquely spicy picks. We turn to Shein for our more affordable but adorable pieces. They also have super cute and sultry sleepwear if that's more your speed, as well as some great sweaters for that ‘girl next door’ look. The only downside is their 4XL is only a size 20.

Price Point: $

Size Range: S-4X

Adore Me

Why We Adore It:

Clients recommend Adore Me to Silk + Salt again and again, and we see why. Their floral and lace sets are too cute, and every piece is affordable and beautiful. They also have a fun style quiz on their site. Simply enter your sizes, favorite styles, and colors, and boom! Personalized lingerie box sent right to your door. You can keep the pieces you love and return the ones you don't. No wonder our clients adore Adore Me.

Price Point: $$

Size Range: XS-4X

Torrid

Why We Adore It:

Torrid is a Silk + Salt favorite made exclusively for our gorgeous plus-sized queens! Their lace slips are to DIE for, and the quality of their lingerie is impeccable. Their prices aren't bank-breaking, either, but if you can catch one, they have amazing sales and promotions. Based online and locally, you can try stuff on in-store and return it online, or vice-versa. So convenient!

Price Point: $$

Size Range: L-6X (10-30)

Playful Promises

Why We Adore It:

Playful Promises has classic or whimsical styles, fantastic durability, all at amazing prices. Their site is fun to browse and they carry a variety of brands outside their own. A wide range of their lingerie is frequently on sale, and they frequently launch new lines. Their size range is fairly diverse, so if you're looking to add a touch of whimsy to your collection, Playful Promises is the way to go!

Price Point: $$

Size Range: 2-24 (look under their ‘Curve’ section for plus sizes)

Thistle and Spire

Why We Adore It:

Thistle and Spire is women-owned, and we are here for it! Their extraordinary lingerie fits wonderfully and is expertly crafted. We highly recommend their new Menagerie and Monarch collections: so stunning and colorful that it was love at first sight. Thistle and Spire is an artful and unique brand, perfect for anyone who wants to support women-owned businesses.

Price Point: $$$

Size Range: XS-3X

Honey Birdette

Why We Adore It:

Talk about bougie! Honey Birdette is a high-end brand that delivers. Their wide range of classic styles is giving us chills, babe. Incredible quality makes up for the higher price point, especially if you catch their frequent sales! Their fun accessories are unique to their site, and we absolutely recommend their bondage set if you like to add extra spice to your shoot.

Price Point: $$$$

Size Range: XXS-2X

So, your makeup is fierce, your hair is amah-zing, and your lingerie is jaw-dropping. Did we forget anything? Oh, yeah. Even with all these recommendations, remember that your radiance brings those boudoir photos to life. Your vibrant smile and true-to-you laugh are what make you genuinely magnetic. What you bring to the boudoir experience is unique and beautiful.

The Problem with Perfection

Fri, 20 Jan 2023 21:01:09 GMT

Letting Go of “Perfection”

Recently I have been thinking a lot about the word “perfection” and its broader meaning. I think more than half of the people I know would call themselves at least in some part perfectionists. My wife certainly does and in a lot of way that is how I would describe myself as well. This word “plagues” the Art World and in the recent months I have realized that this is perhaps one of the very few words in existence that I am beginning to hate. Let me explain.

I used to think that being a perfectionist was a good thing. When you look at it from a technical point of view there is nothing negative in it. It makes you strive for the best, be disciplined, value high quality, have some sort of standard, and it keeps you working. But does being a perfectionist actually contribute to these things? I have noticed that more often than not, striving for perfection was the source of frustration, anger, laziness, excuses, and depression. In almost no instances when someone was describing themselves to me as a perfectionist, were they actually describing it as their strength – it was always easy to feel like it is said without confidence and that people treated it more like baggage.

Analysis paralysis is a thing every artist knows and perfectionism definitely is a major contributor to this phenomenon. The more I’ve worked with people who struggle with their own image and confidence, the more I’ve noticed the same effects that some sort of indescribable and unachievable “perfect” version of ourselves has on our lifestyle. Chasing perfection not only works with our actions and craft but it almost always extends into how we think we should look, or wish we looked. Just like with our habits, however, achieving that “perfection” is impossible.

I write that word in quotation marks because perfection does not exist. There is no such thing as mathematically perfect things. If the whole universe is not really like that, why do we feel like we can and should be? I have been opening my eyes to art more and more, especially since I started photography. The uniqueness and authenticity is what truly makes us “perfect” in my opinion. This is what breaks the mold. This is what makes everything more interesting and special. In a world obsessed with perfection, I started to chase imperfection.

I want my photography to reflect that. It is not about an ideal body, makeup, hairstyle, outfit etc. It is about something much deeper than that. I want to see what else is out there and within us and my camera is my instrument in this quest. You, my clients, are not only my companions but you are my “stars” and my “compass”, without which I would not see the path ahead.

December Boudoir Review

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 05 Jan 2023 05:10:52 GMT

Our favorite Boudoir Images from December

The Dangers of New Year’s Resolution Diets

Wed, 04 Jan 2023 00:35:43 GMT

New Year, New Me?

Our culture is obsessed with the idea of a transformation story. We are focused on the weight loss journey that paints a picture of a happy and successful life once someone changes their appearance. This toxic concept is alluring to many. Have you ever fallen into the common trap of “transformation obsession?”. The “New Year, New Me” mantra feeds into this obsession. Diet culture gives people the false hope that their lives will drastically improve when they begin these new programs, sustaining the belief that they are more worthy when their body looks a certain way. These improvements look like false promises of new love, happiness, success, and overall joy after a certain amount of weight loss. This brilliant marketing technique traps you into believing all your problems will be solved once you start a diet. Let’s peek into how fad diets can damage your body image and your relationship with food long-term and some of the reasons people ACTUALLY feel better when they begin a new diet.

The Real Reasons We See Mental Health SOMETIMES Improve When Starting A New Diet & The Dangers That Come with It:

1) Community Aspect of Dieting: Diets (like weight watchers, keto, and other health and fitness trends) utilize our social drive. This method introduces you to a new social circle on your “fitness journey”. Studies show that when you join a new community, you often feel more satisfaction and happiness due to your increase in socialization. The common goal of weight loss helps you to connect quickly and easily. Unfortunately, this can cause superficial friendships, and there are several other downsides to making connections in this context. People are often anxious to continue these relationships if they regain weight or want to separate themselves from dieting. It can also create a toxic culture of comparison, illuminating the contrast of what they eat, or their achieved weight loss. This often promotes competition rather than a vulnerable and deep connection.

2) Routine Change: Diets often provide routine and help people to feel more connected and mindful in their everyday lives. Things like going to a gym at certain times, meal prep, and making short-term and long-term goals often help you feel more present and move you in the direction you want. However, making goals with weight loss as the focus can reinforce the ideas that your worth is tied to what you eat, weigh, and how much you exercise. Another issue is that individuals start to tie how much happier they are with dieting when it is really achieving their goals and maintaining their established routine, contributing to their increased happiness.

3) Making Meals at Home: Fad diets stress that their way is the only way. If this were true, any diet would work for any individual. Simply making meals at home is a great way to ensure that your body gets what it needs. Additionally, research shows that when people make meals at home, they feel accomplished and experience less financial strain. There is NO SHAME in eating out, and it is important to iterate that going out to eat is a normal part of life. Unfortunately, people frequently feel guilt when they eat out, because most diets demonize eating outside the home.

4) Body Changes/ Weight Loss with Dieting: People often idealize weight loss and associate it with their worth due to our weight-obsessed society. If someone has struggled with self-esteem or body image issues for most of their life, they experience fulfillment from these physical changes. One of the problems with this is the compliments or reassurance received after losing weight. We internalize that “I did not look good before I lost weight,” which strengthens weight stigma and obsessions with “thinness”. This then causes the individual to feel defeated when they regain weight (because 95 % of diets result in weight regain within the 1st year).

What is damaging about the diet mindset long-term? One of the biggest issues we see in therapy is that people overly romanticize their lives changing for the better if they change their bodies. So, if this does happen, then they learn that they were not as: worthy, attractive, or disciplined before their body changed. They then fear returning to that body size and associate their worth with their body. They also learn that people congratulate them or give a large amount of reassurance or praise when they lose weight or have a body change, increasing hypervigilance with what the person eats. If a diet doesn’t work for the person, they tell the individual that they “didn’t do it right” and that they need to start a new diet or workout routine to make themselves feel more confident. Thus, increasing the likelihood of feeling undisciplined or like a failure. They will also solidify their belief that their worth and worthiness are tied to body changes. And it can reinforce avoidance because individuals may avoid things they want to do until they “have a better body”.

This year, instead of a new year’s resolution focused on how your body looks, try making goals related to how you talk about your body. This will help give you long-term results of loving your body and helping your body image, no matter what you weigh, how you eat, or how you exercise.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

November Boudoir Review

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 16 Dec 2022 01:58:36 GMT

Some of our favorite boudoir images from November...

About Our Editing Process

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 20:08:16 GMT

Few words about my process of editing by hand

Nowadays we live in an age where conversation around AI and its impact on the creative community and art is something that’s not considered science fiction anymore. Algorithms are here and they are already performing a lot of functions that up until now were deeply human. In the photography world AI helps people mainly save time. There is plenty of software out there that not only edits photos for the photographer but even culls through all of the photos from a session and picks which photos to edit and which ones to not. On top of that, the first camera with a deep learning AI processor was just released by Sony. The decision-making process of humans will be diminished even more in a lot of cases.

I have attended music schools since kindergarten. Even though I do not perform any more, there are some things that shaped me as a person and human being. Craftsmanship, mastery, and apprenticeship are some of the things that are so engrained in me that I translate them into everything I am doing. For me photography doesn’t exist without art and a lot of analogies I bring up when I talk about it come from other forms of the arts.

All of that extends to my editing process. Everything to me is “hands on” and it’s a skill that needs to be practiced and sharpened daily. Even though I am a child of early 90s and I love technology, when it comes to art I rebel against it. I am excited about the possibilities that technology and AI bring, but all of the things I create need to come from me. This is the only way for me. That is why I edit everything by hand. Our reveals usually happen 1-2 weeks after the session because I look at each image from the session individually. I edit each of them separately. I do not click on a preset and then apply it to all of the images. Every person is different, every day is different, each session is unique. How could I treat them all the same?

If you have seen my work I am sure you have noticed I specialize in black and white photography specifically. This is very important to know because like I already said, I do not edit photos and then just click a “BW” button and “call it a day”. My process for editing black and white photos is from the ground up, designed for photographs that end up being monochromatic. On top of it I use a few completely different cameras and one of them is a monochrome camera – it does not capture color at all, therefore images taken with it cannot even be turned back into color at all.

My philosophy in photography and in what I do is to be more human, organic, real, emotional. That is why when you see your photographs I do not ever want you to be thinking of “photoshop”. I see humans individually, as beautiful pieces of art, and this is what I want to share with you. That’s why I do not transform bodies, make the skin look plastic, or change your features in any way. Before your session I will ask you if you would like to see yourself without some more permanent things like scars or stretch marks, or if it is ok to leave them in the photos. Things that are temporary like acne or bruises I naturally remove so don’t worry if that’s something on your mind.

All of the images you see on the website and social media are completely representative of how the final photos look. They are real work from real sessions – not fabricated images from “portfolio building” sessions or staged meetups. These are our normal clients, people who never posed in front of the camera before and they were gracious enough to allow us to share their images with everyone.

To summarize, here are some things you can expect from my editing techniques in a nutshell:

1. Each photo is edited by hand without usage of presets or AI

2. Black and white photographs (around 80% of all photos) are edited from the ground-up as B&W images. They are not color photos just desaturated.

3. When you see your photo I want you to see yourself, not some fake version of yourself.

4. I do not transform or liquify the body and its features.

5. The only skin editing I do is called dodge and burn – it basically smooths out transitions between shadows and highlights but doesn’t change texture of your skin.

6. It takes about a week to narrow down photos and edit them in preparation for your reveal.

Stef's Boudoir Experience

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 15:32:06 GMT

Stef's Boudoir Experience at Silk and Salt

I scheduled my shoot and was like, “hell yeah!” and then the nerves started kicking in, along with the doubt; the self-doubt that we all have in the back of our minds that says, “oh you’re a little chunky, you’re not ready for that, you better push it out further so that way you can get in better shape, grow your hair out longer” all the bullshit that we tell ourselves. I told Pamela, “I’m kind of nervous now, it’s like as soon as I said that I wanted to do this those negative thoughts started coming in.” To which Pamela replied, “everyone’s nervous before their photo session! Don’t you worry, we’ll get you taken care of!”

The follow up emails were so informative and helped ease my nerves. They have really thought of everything! About 2 weeks before my shoot I was deciding on the outfits I wanted to wear. I remembered Pamela said that they have a huge client closet, and I had a feeling it would be way better than what I could come up with so I planned on checking that out. Plus those angel wings gawwww sooo pretty!

About five days out from the photo shoot I was getting super excited! I was trying hard not to overthink it: “just relax it’s going to be fun!”

The day before my photo shoot I wrote Pamela to let her know how excited I was getting!

Photo shoot day! When I arrived my name was on a plaque that said “Welcome Stef” (they really know how to make a gal feel special!) I was greeted and introduced to Austin, who did my hair and make-up, and Mateusz, the photographer. To top it all off there were snacks! What is better than snacks?!!

We started on hair and makeup while I ate snacks ��; the vibe was chill. We were laughing, listening to music and getting comfortable. I was a little nervous to have a male take my pictures, but something about Mateusz’s demeanor is very comforting. Chatting with him before helped me a lot to settle into the environment and be myself.

Time for outfits! OMG when I say they have something for everyone I mean THEY have something for everyone! Whatever you are into they can provide! Murder robes, wings, harnesses; you name it, they have it! It was like playing dress up! I appreciated that I was able to try things on and Pamela was there to give me her opinion. Totally a safe space.

Mateusz said he was not funny… that was a lie. He CRACKED ME up the entire time, the banter between the 3 of us took this experience to a new level for me. I felt like a queen from start to finish, Mateusz is going to let you know what you are doing with every movement and when you are doing something he likes he just says “yes, yes, yes< that’s it!” It is like what you see in the movies!

I left the studio with a giant smile on my face. What an incredible experience. I was able to wear 4 different outfits, changed the scene 7 different times, I never felt rushed and I was treated with the highest level of respect. “Can’t wait to see how these turn out!”

Reveal day!! You know how sometimes if you have someone else do your hair and makeup you get a little concerned that you won’t look like you?! That thought had definitely crossed my mind, so reveal day I was hoping to look like myself in my photos, not too done up but just enough glam to wow them!

Yeaaahh Austin SLAYED my hair and makeup, the smokey eye, the classic hair style… I am a bad bitch in these pictures, and you know what else? I genuinely look like I am having a good time. The vibe at the studio puts you in a space mentally that you can open up and feel safe to be vulnerable in these photos. Not only are you working with an award winning photographer, Pamela has curated a space that is warm, calm and inviting. I would do this again and again a hundred times over. Thank you guys for the experience.

Body Image Support for the Holidays

Mon, 12 Dec 2022 21:37:23 GMT

How to Support Yourself During the Holidays

Holidays come with fun traditions, favorite cooking traditions, and quality time with friends and family. The holiday season can also bring a large number of stressful situations. The number one issue my clients have this time of year, even when they are in recovery from disordered eating or body image issues, is being triggered by family or childhood friends. Often close family and friends will make vulnerable or inappropriate comments (intentional or unintentional) that can cause intrusive thoughts about your body, food, and overall worth.

Although I typically see that families and friends are not intending to trigger you, they often do make small comments, give compliments, or have critical responses which can trigger feelings of doubt, unworthiness or comparison. Here are some tips and tricks to help you navigate the difficulty that comes with spending more time than usual with your support system this holiday season. These tips will teach you to set boundaries, step by step, to help support you during this stressful time. Often people feel more pressure to give their time, money, and resources (especially when it is related to family) this time of year. Here are some basic tips for setting boundaries, along with some simple instructions on how to support yourself during the holidays.

1) Remember- it is OKAY to say NO: It is always okay to say no, even past the holiday season, but ESPECIALLY during the holidays and with friends and family. People have a harder time saying no when they have a pattern developed with people who are not used to respecting their boundaries. Family members often are the number one culprit of this, and often act entitled to your time, energy or resources. Although it is important to many individuals to be available to their family- it is still important to value and honor your own mental and physical boundaries.

2) Plan Ahead of Time: If your family/friends are often engaging in diet culture talk, body shame, or obsessions with exercise- you may be someone who struggles with knowing how to set boundaries. One of the first things I suggest is that you have some phrases ready you can use at family events that work the best for you. Here are a couple of suggestions. I often suggest that people connect with family from an emotional level instead of logic, as people often have a defensive response because diet culture society is so engrained in our society.

a. Food Comment Responses: “I am working on healing my relationship with food, and comments directed about food are hard for me to hear. Can we stay away from that kind of talk going forward?” “Let’s focus on the joy that food brings us instead of what the food is made of.” “I have struggled with my own relationship with food and body, and I found a way that I can often find peace it would help if, going forward, we stayed away from this kind of talk.”

b. Body Comments/ Weight Comments: “I personally feel worse about myself when I focus on talking about weight with myself or others; in the future can we focus on other things?” “I notice we sometimes talk about people and their bodies, and I have realized on my journey this increases my critical self-talk and I want to stay away from this.” “I realize that talking about food and weight is normal in our society, but I realized it actually does not serve me anymore, can we connect about other things?”

c. Diversion: Try changing subject, directing attention away from food/ weight/ bodies. Typically, this works the best if you pick subjects the person is passionate about or excited to talk about. This is one of the biggest reasons why people often report they cannot get others to stop talking about diets- it’s because the person is excited to share! This is one of the most disordered parts of our society, that diet culture creates what I like to call “diet missionaries” for which people are excited to share their new diets or weight obsessions with people due to how much emphasis our society puts on diets, weight loss, and appearance. Remember, everyone is on their own journey, and even though this obsession with diet/ bodies is not healthy, some people are unwilling to explore this damaging relationship. Sometimes people will get defensive or see these conversations as “healthy” or as a good thing to talk about and trying to set a boundary with them about food and body can cause an argument. And sometimes this conversation may not feel safe for your healing, and distracting or changing the subject with the person can be a great way to set a boundary for yourself to help limit your exposure with triggering diet talk. Remember, you can always leave the conversation if diversion with the conversation does not work.

3) Self-Compassion: Instead of being critical, or engaging in shaming self-talk, something I recommend is that when you feel guilty about setting boundaries, you remind yourself it is normal to feel emotions. It is also normal to be upset by situations that increase self-doubt or body shame, but this does not mean that you have to engage in self-deprecatory talk. Remember that it is easy to become critical towards yourself in situations that feel out of your control- however research proves that this kind of talk overtime can largely impact how you view yourself and your overall self-confidence.

4) Reach Out for Support: Ask a friend or support system to be there to assist you. Sometimes it does not feel safe to set these boundaries within social gatherings, and if this is the case be sure to reach out to people who feel safe and supportive and ask if you can text or call them to get extra help. People often forget to reach out to friends to get support with this because they tend to be used to their family and forget that sometimes being around family can be triggering to their relationship with body, food and family.

Our society overly romanticizes holidays. Although they can be exciting, they can also deeply impact people’s expectations of themselves or others. It is important to remember that you have a voice and a choice. It is easy for people to put the needs of others first, and your mental health is more important than holiday traditions or the expectations from loved ones. Find the support that works for you. Maybe you have goals to shut down diet talk or set stricter boundaries in the future, but this feels unattainable this season. That is OKAY and it is more important that you find the route that works the best for your mental health before practicing some of these skills.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

September Boudoir Review

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 06 Oct 2022 02:54:08 GMT

September Boudoir Review

What is Intuitive Eating?

Wed, 05 Oct 2022 02:43:32 GMT

Why dieting is dangerous...

First, let’s talk about diets. Diet companies bank on most people failing on their diet, otherwise they wouldn’t make any money! But it’s not the people who are failing, it’s the diet. These diets are impossible to follow because they’re deeply flawed, not us. Diets aren’t designed to work long term. And the more you diet, the slower your metabolism gets. We often see the message that diets help you to develop confidence and self-esteem. In reality, individuals who diet often develop: obsessions with thinness, body image issues, depression, anxiety around food, body comparison and so many other complications. Intuitive eating has proven to decrease disordered eating and increase body peace over time.

Every time I bring up intuitive eating with my clients who have body image challenges, I hear the same things: “If I were to intuitively eat, I would never stop eating!” Or “I would only eat food that would make me sick!” These are common misconceptions that actually perpetuate the stigma of intuitive eating being “unhealthy” or a “free for all”. To understand intuitive eating, let’s take a look at the 10 different principles:

Principles of Intuitive Eating

1) Rejecting the Diet Mentality: One of the most important principles of intuitive eating is working to rid yourself of diet influences such as books, social media, magazines, or anything that gives ideas or hope of losing weight. Diet culture paints a picture of “weight loss equals happiness or confidence” and perpetuates issues of assigning worth and value with thinness.

2) Honoring Your Hunger: Often people physically or mentally restrict food by putting labels on food or making them off limits. This often makes it difficult for people to honor their actual hunger cues.

3) Peace with Food: One of the most important factors for people to consider is the mental drain and impact it can have on your relationship with food. Labeling foods as “healthy, unhealthy, good, or bad” can often assign worth with food and create disordered beliefs around food and your morality when you eat those things. Hence, creating a continued problem for individuals of feeling guilty and shameful when eating foods that feel off limits.

4) Challenge the Food Police: Scream no to the thoughts in your head which declare you are good or bad for the ways you eat! The food police make rules and assign titles such as hopeless feelings of guilt and shame based off of food.

5) Discover the Satisfaction Factor: Food is not meant to be fuel. It is actually one of the most important experiences to have with food for you to feel satisfied and excited surrounding meals, along with fueling your body. You should enjoy the experience of eating and invest in food that gives you satisfaction and content.

6) Feel Your Fullness: Individuals are often so blunted due to their fullness and hunger cues and history of chronic dieting that they do not know how to recognize their physical hunger cues. There are many physical signs of hunger and fullness, but so many people do not recognize them due to history of prolonged restriction. This can intensify feelings of “out of control eating” because they often struggle to know when they are hungry due to the chronic restriction.

7) Cope with Your Emotions with Kindness: Food restriction (physically & mentally) can largely trigger feelings of discomfort with body, anxiety, loneliness, or other difficult to process emotions. This principle is needed to remind people of the difficult emotions which can often trigger issues they have with food or with their bodies. Remembering to be kind to yourself during these difficult moments is crucial in healing your relationship with food and body.

8) Respect your Body: Respecting your body is genetically different from others. People often believe that their weight or the way their body shape is can be altered if they eat a certain way or exercise a certain way. Truthfully, most people have to go to extreme measures in order to get the body changes they want, and often they do not last after those behaviors discontinue. I challenge those of you out there who can relate to ask yourself WHY this particular ideal is important for you to achieve rather than HOW you can achieve it. Know that most people (95% from recent studies) regain all if not more of the weight they lose within diets. This number suggests that if you are working to change your genetic blueprint with altered ways of eating and exercise then it is not a sustainable.

9) Movement- Feel the Difference: Individuals struggle often with exercising in a manner that is related to joyful movement. This often creates an association with the individual of exercise being primarily for appearance of body changes, which can rob someone the enjoyment of movement.

10) Honor your Health-Gentle Nutrition: People often become “all or nothing” about food and nutrition. They believe if they do not eat perfectly or in a certain way, then they will have negative family effects. This gives a large perception that bodies are more rigid and that they cannot eat in a flexible manner. This actually largely intensifies perfectionism beliefs and continues a cycle for many individuals of self-blame and critical responses in relation to productivity.

There is an enormous amount of pressure for people to eat a certain way for health, thinness, beauty, and fitness. Our culture has promoted the idea that individuals cannot trust their intuition when it comes to food, creating emotions such as disgust, fear, or anxiety surrounding trusting their bodies with food. Body image and food is largely connected in our society, and makes it difficult for individuals to not put a considerable number of pressures on themselves to look and eat a certain way. As a body image specialist, I have to talk about people’s relationship with food because our society has created so much of a connection from the way people eat to how they look.

Body image is typically deeply connected with a relationship with food, which means that I often find when people are feeling self-conscious, they immediately jump to the thoughts of doing a new diet, or changing the way they eat or exercise. Be mindful of how your relationship with food is impacting your perceptions of your body before starting any kind of focus on food. Focusing too much on what you eat can harbor rigid thinking and impact your long-term happiness and well-being. Next time you are tempted to start a new diet or workout regimen, ask yourself questions such as: will this actually change the way I feel about myself? Why am I doing these things?

Intuitive eating is far more complex than mindless eating. If individuals have tried intuitive eating before and notice “out of control” feelings with food- it is likely they have mentally or physically restricted for long enough that they are unable to pay attention to their body and their body’s cues of hunger, fullness and satiety. Generally, with the help of a HAES dietician and a mental health therapist someone can heal their relationship with food and body. Remember, if you have tried intuitive eating before and have struggled, be kind to yourself! Our society is built off of companies that make a large profit off of convincing you to dislike your body.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

Resources

https://www.intuitiveeating.org/10-principles-of-intuitive-eating/

Few Words About Awards

Sun, 25 Sep 2022 02:15:00 GMT

Why I Participate in Photography Competitions

My roots come from classical music training: practicing your instrument for many hours a day, every single day; putting other things aside to be better; after a new piece of music is mastered (or even when not so much), playing it for fellow students, mock auditions, juries, competitions, and job auditions. When I fell in love with photography I took the same mindset with me into the visual arts. I not only “practice” with my cameras all the time but I also constantly challenge myself through participation in competitions.

Does a photographer need to have awards in order to be considered professional? No, of course not. It is art and in the end the most important thing is whether you love and connect with what they create.

I am very competitive by nature. Maybe I always was, or perhaps I developed it through my musical training. This is how I am, though, and I absolutely love to improve through getting feedback on my work. That is why I try to take part in the best and most prestigious competitions in the world – I want to hear the reactions to my work from the masters of photography so that I can achieve that same level of prestige and mastery.

My journey with competitions started about a year after I started taking photos. During one of the sessions I had to improvise and I created my first image that I truly felt synthesized the essence of what I was trying to do with my art. I submitted it to one of the biggest competitions called WPPI (Wedding and Portrait Photography International) held in Vegas. It is one of the most prestigious international competitions and one of the very few that still judges physical prints, rather than just digital photographs. When I received a message that I was awarded 2 ^nd place in the boudoir category I felt million feelings and it was some sort of relief at the same time, relief that I am on a correct path and other people see it too.

WPPI was the place I went to admire great photographers. It’s where I got inspired at the beginning of my journey and I dreamed that perhaps one day I would be able to see my work among such an amazing collection of photographers. Having this dream fulfilled gave me an incredible amount of motivation to only do my very best with every single image I create.

Since then, I have participated in numerous competitions. I try to diversify places where I submit my work as much as possible. I am proudest of the fact that images that I submit to competitions are very often images made during normal client sessions. As a boudoir photographer this is extremely important to me to show every person that they are a work of art and I am inspired by them.

As of writing of this post, I was recognized more than 30 times at a variety of large and prestigious competitions. One of the things I am always trying to maintain is my authenticity. The work I submit is barely edited – I want to keep it organic, authentic, and emotional, just like the sessions I create for you.

And what’s in the future? Trying to fall asleep better than I woke up that morning and being inspired by you every single day.

One of our most recent recognitions came from the world’s largest boudoir magazine, Boudoir Inspiration Magazine. I was honored with the titles of Best Black-and-White Photographer of the Year and Best Male Boudoir Photographer of the Year. Additionally, a photograph created in our new Salt Lake City studio received a Top 5 title at the highly prestigious International Photography Awards.

CHECK OUT MORE OF MY AWARD WINNING IMAGES HERE: https://www.silkandsaltphoto.com/awards

Ms. K | Boudoir Photography, Salt Lake City

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 13 Sep 2022 18:30:00 GMT

Why Imperfection is Beautiful, too

I've been thinking about perfectionism quite a bit since our body image workshop. One of the participants described the way she puts up a strong front and a smile because it feels like everyone is counting on her and she can't let them down. (Fuck, that sounds familiar.) I've struggled with perfectionism for most of my life, but I've also heard similar tales from a lot of our clients. I especially see this in clients who are in a body that fits our culture's beauty ideal. No one is more self-critical and no one judges these humans harder than they judge themselves.

We talk a lot about the challenges of being in a bigger body in this thinness-obsessed culture (and they are significant!), but everyone struggles with their body image and I don't want to overlook the challenge that comes with being told everyday, for years, how pretty you are. If this wasn't you, you may have longed for this experience. Life would be so much easier if I was thin and pretty, wouldn't it? Yes and no.

Thin privilege is real and I'm not discounting it. But ultimately, people who grow up being told they are beautiful because they fit the culture's ideal feel an enormous amount of pressure to maintain that ideal because it is tied into their self-worth. "If I'm not beautiful, I will not be worthy of love." "If I'm not beautiful, what value do I have?" They struggle to see the MANY gorgeous things that have nothing to do with their bodies because their beauty has overshadowed it all. Often, they miss out on developing other parts of themselves and in the end, all bodies change and age so it is a futile effort.

What's more, it's assumed that people in these types of bodies have perfect lives, because that's the bullshit message we're being fed every single day in the media. They're not allowed to express dissatisfaction, feel depressed or anxious, or have relationship or body image issues because they'll be told they're ungrateful or they're exaggerating or they don't know what it's like to have real problems. They don't always get the emotional support they need because of this assumption that they have a perfect, carefree life and so they couldn't be in need of help.

If this sounds a lot like you, I recommend Brene Brown's books on imperfection, Kristin Neff's books on self-compassion, and our body image workshops as good places to start to explore the way you think about your worth. This is your gentle reminder to look up and take the hand that is being extended to you. If you have a friend who fits this description, try reaching out to them with a huge dose of compassion and let them know they are allowed to have bad days too and you're there to listen.

August Boudoir Review

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Mon, 05 Sep 2022 00:02:26 GMT

Our favorite boudoir images from last month...

Why Is It So Hard to Like My Body?

Sun, 04 Sep 2022 22:26:05 GMT

Why Is It So Hard for Me to Like My Body? & What Can I Do?

Body image is one of the most complicated issues that mental health therapists work through with their clients. That means it is likely if you have tried to heal/gain positive body image on your own, you have met a few barriers or possibly even worsened the way you feel about how you look. You may wonder why developing positive body image is such a difficult task, so first let’s explore some of the many factors that have been proven to impact body image.

Cultural Pressures on Beauty

The culture we live in often highlights the idea that if you look a certain way you will have a happy, successful, confident, carefree life. Often, individuals believe that if they are unhappy in their lives that changing the way their body looks will fix these issues. A common issue I see is individuals thinking they can fix how they “feel” by engaging in disordered fixing behaviors that our society tells us are “healthy” or “good for us”. This is damaging for body image because it places your value and the way you see your body heavily on how you eat, the size of clothing you wear, the type of body you have, how you look when you get ready, etc. There are so many cultural pressures that impact someone being able to like their body because of unrealistic standards and demands that are set by our culture.

“Thin Ideal” Pressures

Often individuals do not believe they can be happy or enjoy the way their body looks until they are within a certain weight range. This affects individuals of all different weights and bodies, even individuals who have “thin privilege” can often feel as if they need to lose weight or change the way they eat and exercise due to fears of not fitting in, or being viewed negatively by others.

Mental Health: Traits that Impact Body Image

Some individuals are more prone to developing critical thoughts and behaviors about their body image. Individuals with perfectionistic tendencies are more likely to develop life-long hypercritical responses to their body image. Why perfectionism? Perfectionistic traits are often associated with someone who is an excellent problem solver who has become hypervigilant and overly aware of any kind of perceived flaw, whether it’s behavioral or appearance related. Perfectionists often do not believe they are perfectionistic; however, they do find themselves in a vicious cycle of self-blame or self-criticism. Individuals who struggle with anxiety often are highly at risk for developing chronic and continuous body image issues. Individuals with body image issues often are over thinkers, and often feel perceived judgment for everyday tasks such as: eating in front of others, wearing the “right” thing when going out, worrying about looking a certain way or being overly critiqued from someone else. These are two of the many things that can intensify or impact body image.

Family Pressures

People often worry that family members will judge them or view them poorly if they do not look a certain way. Often individuals with family members who have high expectations of the individual find it difficult to develop mental flexibility in relation to their body image because they worry about disappointing family members or failing family if they do not present in a certain way. Family pressures can largely impact body image issues when loved ones put a large amount of value on the way individuals look. This can intensify the rigid expectations the person has of themselves and the way they look.

How to Work Towards a Better Body Image

Now that we have addressed some of the reasons (there are MANY more) that can influence your views of your body, let’s explore some basics of how you can work to heal your body image. These are some basic concepts which can help you navigate some of the difficult body image issues you may be facing.

Holding Judgement

Acknowledge no matter what kind of body you are in, that you may be judged at some point. Often people are so worried about being judged or criticized that they continue the diets, workout plans, shopping, plastic surgeries and so forth. Know that no matter what you look like, someone may judge you. This is a difficult thing for people to accept, but accepting this fact will actually set you free and ensure you are making decisions based on WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD vs. what you think will make you look good for the approval of others. Learning to accept that you cannot control judgement is a freeing moment that can help you move towards mental flexibility with yourself.

Appreciating Yourself for Your “You-ness”

It is easy to feel as if your body does not look good enough compared to the “ideal” we see in media. Did you know that many of the beauty icons we have idealized over time were told because of their unique attributes they wouldn’t “make it”? For example, Marilyn Monroe and Cindy Crawford were told their beauty marks would be a large barrier for their careers, when in reality many started viewing this as a sign of beauty and replicating it. If you have attributes you often judge yourself harshly for, remember that beauty is subjective. If you view these characteristics in a positive or neutral manner, you may grow to appreciate them rather than judge.

Normalize Bad Body Image Days

Society likes to say that if you have a bad body image day you have to do something to “fix” the way your body looks. Often our culture says that you should diet, start a new exercise routine, go shopping, or get injectables or surgeries to fix these body image issues. Know that it is actually TOTALLY NORMAL for you to have a bad body image day. If you want to engage in these behaviors, wait until you are feeling either neutral or more positive about your body. Often individuals engage in these behaviors to make them “feel better” or more attractive. This can be dangerous for some individuals because it can often communicate to the person that they need to engage in these behaviors to “fix themselves”. It can start as an innocent way to help the person feel more comfortable, but over time it can start to establish a belief for the person that they need something material to heal their body image. Overtime, these behaviors do not work for the person and they feel as if they need something new to feel better and continue a cycle of looking for superficial things to heal their body image. Instead of looking for something external to fix your bad body image day, try looking inward. Asking yourself questions like “what else is going on today that could be affecting the way I view my body?”. Questions of exploring what other influences could be negatively impacting the way you see your body will help your brain to not immediately jump to body criticism.

Compassionate Response vs. Critical

Compassion is NOT someone saying positive affirmations to themselves to fix how they feel. It is more of recognizing and validating emotional responses, and learning how to support yourself in a compassionate way rather than a critical way. Often individuals believe if they are mean enough to themselves it will “motivate” them to be “better or more accomplished”. In reality, self-criticism hinders body image and the development of self-esteem.

Vocabulary:

* Thin privilege is a term used in this blog. It is often described as the privilege someone has by not having discrimination or judgement from their institution or interpersonally due to the size of their bodies. Someone with thin privilege can still see themselves as not thin enough or in need of weight loss, they are just not faced with discrimination from our society or assumptions of their health from the way their body looks.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

When to Give Boudoir Photos to Your Fiancé

Thu, 18 Aug 2022 00:18:23 GMT

When to Give Boudoir Photos to Your Fiancé

If you're giving boudoir photos to your fiancé for your wedding gift, we suggest one of three options:

1) Bring him to your session! If he loves to watch, then this is the one for you! He will love watching you pose, you can enjoy wine and hors d'oeuvres together, and afterward you can go on a sexy date together while you're all dolled up!

2) Bring him to your reveal! The two of you will watch a slideshow of your gorgeous, edited images and he'll get to pick out his favorites! Then you can place an order together that you're sure he will love.

3) Wait until you've got your album and give it to him the night before your wedding. Some people like to gift it the day or night of the wedding, but there is so much going on that day, it's not likely he'll have as much time to appreciate it.

Whatever you choose, a boudoir session is hands down the best gift you could give him. He is going to love seeing you looking sexy and confident and you are going to love how a session makes you feel. ��

How To Talk Your Man Into Doing a Boudoir Shoot With You

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 04 Aug 2022 18:00:00 GMT

Tips for easing your man's mind...

Ok, so you are looking for something new to do with your significant other. You tried a lot of old-school and cliché ways of having fun with your man. Restaurant, movies, trip somewhere together – nothing seems to be working. FINALLY you found us. We might be biased but we believe that a boudoir session combined with a date is the best way to spice up your relationship. So you got all excited and you want to propose it to him. You tell him that not only do you get to go on an amazing date but you will also get photos to get your hearts racing again whenever you look at them.

BUT, it turns out he is very self-conscious and he feels like he won’t “look good enough” or he “won’t know what to do”. We have heard it all and we have shot hundreds of these sessions so let us help you help him to understand that not only will both of you be fabulous but also that he’s going to love every second of it!

1. While you are getting pampered by our professional hair and makeup artist, he will have some solo time in front of the camera. This way even before you are ready to shoot, he will already build a rapport with the photographer and he will understand that taking photos is the easiest thing under the sun. His confidence will be through the roof by the time you will start having fun together!

2. 99% of our clients have 0 experience in front of the camera. We will teach both of you exactly what to do. No awkward moments when you don’t know what to do! We have shot couples of all ages, body sizes, and backgrounds. The photographer will show you what to do and then all you have to do is just mirror!

3. It’s all natural! We won’t ask you to do anything you wouldn’t be able to do. Think of it like you are going to be playing your favorite instrument and all we will do is provide the concert hall and conduct you!

4. Look up any of our previous client testimonials. They all have so much fun that they don’t mind sharing their experience! They all had their doubts before they booked just like he might be having!

5. We guarantee you good results. That’s how confident we are �� Most of our clients come back for a second, or even third shoot because they love it so much. If you don’t love your photos, we will reshoot your session.

6. Wardrobe is not a problem at all. We provide a multitude of outfits for you to borrow, and all your man needs are jeans, shirt, and underwear. Does he have those already? Good! Then he is all set!

7. We will take some photos of each of you separately and together. He will enjoy just watching you pose in front of him! Honestly for him this itself will be worth the admission ��

Does he still have concerns but you know this will be an amazing gift for you two? Give us a call and we will be super happy to talk to you both over zoom or phone! Most of the amazing experiences seem scary but we would hate for you to miss out on this just because of that! Also, check out our couples gallery here: COUPLES GALLERY

Health is NOT Determined by Size

Thu, 04 Aug 2022 00:25:05 GMT

What Diet Culture Does Not Tell You About Health

Did you know that your weight actually does not impact your health in the way our culture tells you? Often our society has a “picture of health” and the media we consume often implies there is a certain “look” to a healthy body. Often, we imagine people in smaller bodies who are muscular and eat/move a certain way as healthy. In reality, health and wellness is too complicated to ever be determined by weight or appearance. One of the biggest questions I get working with people who struggle with their body image along with disordered eating, is the fear of body acceptance impacting their health because of how impactful fat-phobia is in our society. People are often told they need to be within a certain weight range to be considered medically healthy from doctors, family, or community members. Health is actually largely impacted by many factors that are not linked to body size. Here are some of the main factors which impact health more than weight and movement.

Health is ACTUALLY MORE Impacted By:

Mental Health: There is so much evidence and research to support that someone’s mental health has a larger effect on their physical health, longevity of health, and overall life satisfaction compared to diet/exercise. Diet culture often simplifies health into what you eat and how you move your body. Mental health is actually a large factor in someone’s well-being and can largely impact overall physical wellness.

Discrimination/Stigma: Often individuals in bodies of marginalized populations (people of color, larger bodies, trans bodies, etc.) avoid medical care due to fear of discrimination. In particular, people who are in larger bodies often wait approximately 7 years in between medical visits due to the fears of their medical issues not being taken seriously and fear of weight discrimination from medical staff members. Many health ailments are largely preventable/treatable if someone has early access to interventions for these medical issues. Most of the research we see about “higher weight people” having medical issues does not account for this measure within these research studies, which only furthers weight discrimination and biases within the medical community, thus continuing the cycle of individuals having weight related discrimination against them within their medical appointments.

Finances: If people do not have financial needs met, it is difficult for them to go to medical appointments (especially if they do not have health insurance). If individuals are unable to get access to medical care, it largely impacts their physical health. Preventative screenings, proper medication and diagnosis can impact the longevity of individuals along with their overall health and wellness.

Stress: If someone has a large amount of stress and not enough balance within their life, they are likely to have health effects from this (if this is ongoing). Stress has been proven to heighten blood pressure, headaches, irritability, muscle weakness and overall physical health impacts. Stress also has short-term effects on individuals which can grow into long-term problems. People who suffer with long-term stress levels can experience issues with sleeping, appetite abnormalities, and basic care.

Spiritual Health: Spirituality (not to be confused with religious belief!) is defined as someone’s understanding of their sense of purpose and their own meaning of life. Spirituality can largely impact someone’s health by impacting their life choices, and their overall satisfaction of life.
Creative Health: Ensuring someone has a creative outlet, hobbies, and overall intellectual health factors. Individuals tend to feel the most balanced and flexible within their health and wellness if they are feeling creatively fulfilled and do not feel boredom or complacency.

Social Wellness: How many people have felt as if their world is crumbling apart when a romantic relationship doesn’t work? Or when a friendship ends? Social wellness largely impacts someone’s wellness. There is a large amount of research that shows when people are isolated it impacts their mental health, physical health and overall improvement of self-esteem and health factors.
Emotional Wellness: Individuals who are struggling holding difficult emotions often report higher stress, isolation and overall impacts on their basic life needs. Individuals struggling with their emotional health often have a difficult time feeding themselves, getting enough sleep, and enough social interaction. They often also report low satisfaction in life and difficulty managing stressful situations.

Environmental Wellness: Environmental factors can largely impact a person’s life due to things like air pollution, access to water, or access to a safe/clean home. Not having a basic need met such as a safe environment can largely impact someone’s health and happiness.
Occupational Wellness: If someone is unhappy within their work or feels unfulfilled it impacts their overall happiness, mental health, and physical health.

Physical Wellness: So many people believe this has to be a disordered rule of how much they should exercise and how many days they should be moving. In reality, so many individuals have such high expectations of what movement should look like, they become overwhelmed and are unable to allow themselves to move in a flexible manner that is not disordered. Movement is important for health, but not in a disordered, rigid way. Often people have the “all-or-nothing” mentality with exercise, which can create a disordered, excessive relationship with movement, or avoidance all together. Both are disordered and often lead to different physical problems.

Genetics: Genetics play THE LARGEST factor in health and wellness. Health is one of the most complicated areas of study due to the complexities of each person’s unique genetic footprint. As a result, it is difficult to find health solutions that work for all individuals in a population or to predict how any given solution will work for any given individual.

Our society wants to simplify what health actually embodies. The culture suggests the largest influences on health are diet and exercise, but the reality is that health is vastly more complicated, and fundamentally influenced by many aspects of life. It is vital to remember this perspective when you view the wellness of yourself and others, as we cannot as a society judge someone’s health and wellness based by their weight or outward appearance. So many individuals do not believe they are healthy until their weight reaches a certain range or number. Next time you think of wanting to “get healthy” by exploring trendy diets or workout regimens, remember how much of your health and wellness is impacted from areas of life. Also know that diets cannot change things like your genetics and often impact health in the long-run in a negative manner. There is a large amount of research that indicates that chronic dieting can have negative consequences such as: increased risk of heart disease, long-lasting negative impacts on metabolism, reduced energy, and a depletion of important nutrients that could impact bone strength, heart rate, and increase potential risks of developing an eating disorder. Remember that health is more about living a flexible life and prioritizing all the aspects of your health and well-being than it is about diet and exercise.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

June Boudoir Review

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 20 Jul 2022 00:05:24 GMT

Our favorite boudoir images from last month...

Boudoir Photography Utah Prices

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Mon, 18 Jul 2022 01:01:07 GMT

How Much Should You Pay for Boudoir Photography?

Prices for boudoir photography in Utah (and anywhere in the world, really) vary widely. In this post, I’m going to walk you through what you should expect to pay and what you should expect to get in return at different price points.

The Session Fee: Most high-end boudoir photographers charge a session fee. This can range from $100 for a mini session to $750 for a full luxury experience and varies from studio to studio. In our studio, a $500 session fee covers prep guides, a pre-shoot planning session, professional hair and makeup, wine and hors d’oeuvres, a personalized music playlist, access to our client closet, a one and a half hour photo shoot with three wardrobe changes, pose coaching, the client gift, magazine-quality editing, and an image reveal and ordering session. Ask your photographer about the experience they’ll be providing for you. If you’re paying a premium session fee make sure that you’re getting a premium experience.

Digital Only Photographers: Some photographers will bundle the session fee with digitals and they don’t offer any products. These are called shoot and burn photographers because they used to burn the digitals onto a disk and give them to their clients. Today it might be a jump drive or downloadable digital gallery. There’s nothing wrong with using a shoot and burn photographer, as long as you are not paying as much as you would for a full-service photographer and you trust them and their work. For a shoot and burn photographer you should expect to pay hundreds, not thousands, for the experience and the images.

The Products: Generally, more experienced photographers offer an image reveal and ordering session after your photoshoot. This is where you get to see a slideshow of your edited images and choose the ones you’d like to order. It’s also an opportunity to see samples of all the products they offer, like albums, wall art, presentation boxes, and folios. Product pricing ranges wildly depending on quality, but you can expect to pay a minimum of $1200 for an 8x8 album with 20-25 images in a professional studio. Wall art generally starts around $300 for a simple print. If you want your art ready to hang in media like metals and acrylics, you’ll be looking at more like $800 to start.

Collections: Also called packages, collections are usually how to get the best bang for your buck in a boudoir studio. Something like an album, wall art, and digitals are bundled together at a better price point than you can buy them off the a la carte menu. Our collections start at $1100 for a presentation box and wall art. Our most popular collection is $3300.

Payment Plans: Our studio offers no-interest, in-house payment plans that can be scheduled up to eighteen months. Payment plans make collections a lot more affordable, but you will have to wait for your products until your account is paid in full. If you’re wanting to surprise a partner with an album and you want to set up a payment plan, we suggest bringing them to the image reveal and ordering session and letting them pick out the images for the album with you. That way they don’t have to wait for the physical product to arrive to get their surprise.

A little more advice: If you care more about finding the best photographer for you than the cheapest, look for a photographer who specializes in boudoir photography , rather than one who just offers it as one of their many services. The experience might be similar, but the quality of the images they create will not be as good as a photographer who does nothing but boudoir. Also, make sure their portfolio includes examples of people who have a similar body-type to yours, as well as age. If they are not showing it in their work, you can assume they have no experience with it.

Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions about this or anything else having to do with boudoir photography! We are specialists in this field and are always happy to help you find the right fit, even if that’s not us. You can also sign up for our newsletter and get our full payment guide with all of our pricing at the end of this post! Happy hunting and good luck!

Pamela's Wedding

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sun, 17 Jul 2022 22:45:17 GMT

Pamela, Henry, and Amanda's Throuple Wedding

As promised, I'm sharing some images from our wedding shot by my best friend and business partner, the ever talented Mateusz Jagiello! We had the sweetest backyard wedding with our closest friends and family.

Body Positivity or Toxicity?

Thu, 14 Jul 2022 01:57:10 GMT

A Blog Post about Body Image

Our culture loves to talk about body positivity- the concept of body positivity is a notion of being positive about your body regardless of what you look like, regardless of how society feels or cultural pressures. Unfortunately, diet culture has taken this belief and has morphed it into a body obsessed term that is used to sell products and loses the actual meaning of what is actually appropriate. One of the other flaws with this concept is it is unrealistic to have true and continuous body positivity. So instead of making the goal to have body positivity, let’s make the goal body neutrality. It is expected you will have “good body image days” and “bad body image days” and this is normal and expected for everyone to feel at some point throughout their lives. Making the goal of seeing your body as more than its appearance is one of the key fundamentals someone should practice in order to build body neutrality. Too much importance is placed on the appearance of a body which is unrealistic. It is unlikely for any individual to put so much importance on the way they look without engaging in some kind of disordered behaviors to try to fit thin ideals or unrealistic beauty standards.

How Can You Make Steps to Developing Body Neutrality?

1) Focus on the Function of your Body: Appreciating the things that your body allows you to experience regardless of how you look is a key component of seeing your body as more than its outward appearance. Focusing on the things that your body helps you do is one of the main aspects of how your body serves you rather than how it looks. For example, pick the things you are the most grateful for that you are able to engage in (e.g. being in nature, smelling your favorite foods, seeing one of your favorite people, etc.) Welcoming what your body can do for you is one of the most fundamental steps in increasing body neutrality, as we often forget the many things your body as a vessel can provide for you in developing mental flexibility with the way you see your body.

2) Appreciate Others: Start identifying the aspects of your friends, family, and people within your life and the things you appreciate about them that have nothing to do with appearance. E.g., “I am grateful my friend Becky can go with me on hikes so we can enjoy the scenery together.” Often people are able to list many things about others they can value others in a more mentally flexible and neutral way than themselves.

3) Good Body Image Days: Understanding your body and the aspects you do admire about your body and the way it presents. Prompting yourself that a good body image day is not because of your weight or the way you appear, but it is about the way you feel in your body that day. Reminding yourself that body image is more complicated than having a “good hair day” and it is often linked to having positive social interactions, filling your creative needs, feeling inspired or engaged with your values. Often people will assume a good body image day is primarily linked to the way they appear- when in reality it is likely linked to how you FEEL about yourself.

4) Bad Body Image Days: Avoiding self-criticism about your body is largely important for yourself and for others around you. Normalizing that is ok for you and others to not love the way you look every day is important. Just because you have a bad body image day does not mean you need a new diet, new wardrobe, or change in your life, or to fix how you feel about your body. If you are having more bad body image day than neutral or positive feelings about your body, it's important to get support and help!

5) Being Mindful of Social Media You Follow: Stop following social media that makes you feel inadequate! This includes diet pages, or pages that connect the way you look with your worth. We are in a new era where our culture is often trying to sell “self-love” which is largely counter intuitive. True self-love and self-care comes from within, and will not be bought by material things. Unfortunately, our culture can be tricky and can communicate largely the message that you will feel better about yourself or the way you look after engaging with their products, or changing something about yourself.

It is important to recognize how body image is one of the most vulnerable and difficult aspects of people to be neutral or accepting towards. Eliminating small/ larger triggers throughout the day can have large impacts on yourself in the long-run. It is important to remember that if you look at your social media and are emotionally triggered multiple times throughout the day, this can change and shift the way you look at yourself. It can urge self-critical thoughts and responses along with inspire dieting thoughts about yourself or inspire wanting to change your body with different clothing, cosmetic procedures, and diets.

I encourage all that are reading to remember the aspects of themselves they can find neutrality in. To learn to appreciate body, personality traits, and aspects of your overall self in a manner of kindness and compassion rather than critical responses. Try to make a goal to look for all the opportunities to experience your body as an instrument rather than an ornament.

Check out these amazing books to support you on your journey of body neutrality:

The Body is Not an Apology by Sonja Renee Taylor & Ijeoma Oluo

More Than a Body: Your body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament by Lindsay Kite & Lexie Kite

Deanna Smith, LCSW

Ms. S | Salt Lake Boudoir

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 03:26:58 GMT

Maternity Boudoir Shoot

There is nothing more lovely than a maternity shoot. For the briefest moment the life a woman carries is visible to the world while it is still a part of her. Her body changes, usually forever, in a beautiful tribute to the life she carried. It is a time worthy of celebration and documentation.

May Boudoir Review

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 01 Jun 2022 22:44:00 GMT

Our Favorite Images from May

Check out last month's review here: April Boudoir Review

Show Pride & Love for the Queer Community

Wed, 01 Jun 2022 21:31:45 GMT

Happy Pride, Friends!!

June marks for many the start of summer, the days getting longer, vacations, and breaks from school. It is important to note that it is also Pride month! June marks the month that many events, riots and protests started taking place to move towards equal rights and social justice for the LGBTQ+ Community. The queer community needs a large amount of love and support, they often face so many issues which can negatively impact their relationships with their bodies and their body image. There are many impacts our culture has on many marginalized populations and how individuals see their bodies, therefore it is important to understand these different influences in order to support these populations.

Body Image Impacts for the Queer Community

Body image is already difficult for many individuals to develop a positive relationship with. Individuals who are queer often face more issues with developing a healthy relationship with their bodies due to our society and cultural influences. Individuals who are not heterosexual often are more likely to develop body image issues, eating disorders and overall depression with their appearance. Here are a few of the many reasons there is more of an effect:

- Discrimination due to one’s sexuality and/or gender identity

- Under-representation in media (this is getting better but is STILL a large problem)

- Diet culture can sometimes draw a sense of community (aka weight watcher meetings, talking about new diets, body shame connection. etc.)

- Stressful life experiences tend to have negative effects for someone feeling low self-esteem and developing disordered eating

- More likely to experience trauma or body shame

- More likely to experience bullying or family/social rejection

- Discordance between one’s biological sex and gender identity

- Higher levels of internalized shame & stress

What is the Heteronormative Body Ideal?

Western culture has its own concept of beauty ideas which often reflect heteronormativity. There are more intensive and stereotypical pressures put on individuals who are queer. People often label individuals who are queer with hurtful labels which are stereotypes that put individuals in a box and make it so someone can feel more “out of place” or uncomfortable with their bodies due to these harmful stereotypes. In addition, there often is a link with disruptive social support which is a large impact on the individual’s overall body confidence.

Often individuals will feel ostracized by their culture or society if they do not fit the normative ideals, which will lead them down a path of over-securitizing their bodies as an attempt to fit in, or gain social acceptance. These individuals are often also more likely to experience different levels of discrimination which can lead them to obsessions about their bodies, and overall dissatisfaction with their identity, personality and self-confidence.

What Steps Can You Take to Support?

1) Be Mindful of the Way You talk about your Own Body: Remember, shaming your body for the way it looks often can impact the people around you. If someone is struggling with their body image and overhears the way you negatively talk about yourself, it can increase the internalization of negative thoughts and perspectives for others.

2) Show Yourself Self-Compassion along with Compassion to Others: The kinder you are to yourself; the more others can feel comfortable. People who are around others who are compassionate often feel less judgment or social pressure to look/behave a certain way.

3) Post & Follow Social Media Health at Every Size Content, Along with Queer Representative Media.

4) Be Mindful of the Way you Speak, Joke, or Compliment Others: Remember that individuals who have been discriminated against have often had hurtful stereotypes or jokes made against them, which can largely impact self-esteem and body image. Compliments can also be just as impactful. Compliments (especially body centric compliments) can become disordered for ANYONE, but especially populations who often feel a lack of social support.

5) Get Involved! Get involved and support organizations which directly help the queer community. Many organizations care for diverse communities and individuals, so directly offering services, finances, or donations to these organizations can show an active hand in supporting these populations.

As you go into the month of June, take time and reflect on the many impacts our diet culture has on all different communities. You can’t fix someone’s body image, but you can show unconditional love, support, and openly talk about these issues within your social network. The concept of having body image confidence is extremely intimidating to most populations, so showing a loving and accepting environment to all people can not only help show support, but it can also support your own confidence. Individuals who show overall more acceptance and compassion towards others are proven to have more self-compassion and inner peace for themselves.

Remember to go and support your local Pride Center as they are often non-profit and offer many services, safe spaces, clothing and food for our queer community. If you are in Utah, go to the Pride Festival in SLC Saturday and Sunday June 4 ^th and 5 ^th , 2022 @ Washington Square. Also, come stop by Silk + Salt Photography's booth and say hello! It will be located on the East side of the Festival.

SLC Pride Weekend Schedule

March & Rally: Friday, June 3 – 8:30pm

Festival: Saturday, June 4 – 1pm-11pm

Festival: Sunday, June 5 – 11am-7pm

Parade: Sunday, June 5 – 10am

Location:

Washington Square
451 South State Street
Salt Lake City, UT 84 111

https://utahpridecenter.org/pride-and-center/pride-week-2022/festival/

*As a cis-gender heterosexual white female, I have a large amount of privilege. Know that I have not personally experienced discrimination for my sexuality, and that this blog is providing resources and information from research and clinical experience. This blog is not meant as therapeutic advice, rather to provide education. If you or a loved one is struggling with disordered eating, or body image issues know that there are many educated qualified mental health therapists and dieticians who are well-versed in these complicated issues. Please seek therapeutic & nutritional support if disordered eating or body image concerns are impacting your life.

Stretch Marks in Boudoir

Sun, 22 May 2022 21:50:59 GMT

Let's Get Real About Stretch Marks

Let’s talk about common humanity. There are a few things all humans have in common, whether we like them or not: parents, our impending demise, and stretch marks. That’s right, stretch marks. I have seen hundreds of people naked at this point in my career and have yet to meet one with baby-smooth skin who could also walk, talk, and feed themselves. What I mean to say is that stretch marks are a part of growing and therefore a part of adult life. And I don’t just mean adult women. My husband is a 6’2” gym rat with a body type that’s unattainable for most people and he’s got them all over his fine ass because he grew faster than his skin could handle when he was a teen.

If you grew fast, you have ‘em. If you grew boobs, you have ‘em, if you grew a baby, you have ‘em. And if you don’t have them now, just wait! They are an inescapable part of life. Then why, if this is something we ALL experience, like having arms and legs, are we so ashamed of them? The problem with stretch marks is that someone, somewhere, sometime decided they were a problem and started editing them out of pictures. And then we thought perfectly smooth skin was an achievable beauty ideal and that if we failed to achieve it, there must be something wrong with us. Here’s a picture of a banana, because I want you to remember that that’s bananas.

The good news is that all we have to do is not believe the message that stretch marks are bad or make us in some way unworthy. The bad news is that it’s not such an easy thing to do when we are being bombarded by images in the media that are over-edited or have a filter applied. This is where we have to harness the power of radical self-love and acceptance. This is where we have to decide that how we feel about ourselves is far more important than what anyone else thinks.

We recently shot an expectant mother who has mastered this self-love. She saw her stretch marks as a work of art, a tribute to the process of creating a new life. We captured her stretch marks in a maternity boudoir shoot completely unedited. Because she unequivocally believed that her stretch marks were beautiful, everyone else did too.

It’s that simple. We must have conviction that our bodies are good and worthy, because in the end it is all subjective. If you truly believe it to your core, no one will be able to convince you otherwise and that is where the magic of radical self-love happens. That is where we can ignore the media messages, because we know better. It’s how we look at a filtered image of our culture’s beauty ideal and roll our eyes instead of feeling envy. Then we can finally celebrate our authenticity, appreciate what our bodies can do, and live our lives fully without shame.

Sexy pictures vs boudoir – is there a difference?

Wed, 11 May 2022 17:37:18 GMT

BOUDOIR is a relatively new word in the photography industry. People are more familiar with genres like “glamour” or “beauty”. But what if you just want some sexy photos of yourself? Is boudoir the way to go? Is there a difference?

If we really want to boil it down to a simple answer, then NO, there is no difference. Boudoir pretty much is “sexy pictures”. We could leave it at that, but this is what we do and specialize in so lets dive together a little bit deeper into the realm of sensual photography.

Firstly, we need to talk about the main difference, which is the PURPOSE of your session. Boudoir photography has a very clear objective. This session is meant to be only for yourself and other people that YOU decide will get to see it. This session’s main goal is for you to enjoy your experience and photos. You don’t have to worry about pleasing anybody else or fitting their frames of what is beautiful, sexy, sensual, etc.

When it comes to anything else, like glamour for example or a “sexy session”, the purpose of the session gets blurred a little bit. Even though I bet you still are doing it for yourself, the context and meaning of the photos changes a bit. In these types of photos, they technically also should consider the viewer. It means that the vision of your session would be treated almost commercially – in a way that a broader audience could enjoy too. This difference is very blurry and hard to pinpoint. Do you now see why at the beginning I said that technically there isn’t really any difference between the two?

So, let’s say you want to take some sexy photos, but the word “boudoir” sounds a bit grand and scary. Should you contact a boudoir photographer or look for someone else? In our opinion the most important thing is communication. A boudoir photographer can absolutely take exactly the type of sensual images you are looking for, but we strongly suggest to talk with whomever you decide to book with. Tell them about your vision and why you want to do a photo shoot. This will help them immensely in making sure they create the session of your dreams for you.

What about if you want to take photos as, for example, your wedding gift? Let’s be real for a second here and admit that you are still kind of doing it for yourself �� and we are here to tell you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! It is an amazing feeling when you can enjoy something and then share that love with another very important person to you.

If you ever have any questions regarding boudoir, couples’ sessions, bridal, poly, or maternity let us know. We are here to answer any questions you might have and help you get exactly the type of photos and experience you are looking for!

April Boudoir Review

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 05 May 2022 18:00:03 GMT

Our Favorite Images from April

The Throuple

The Writer

The Dad-to-be

The Baker

The Shoes and the Gams!

Those Bedroom Eyes

You Can’t Criticize Yourself into Confidence!

Tue, 03 May 2022 23:26:56 GMT

Using Self-Compassion to Change Your Body Image

Have you ever struggled with your body image? Have you ever tried to fix this issue by engaging in behaviors like: positive affirmations, going on a diet, self-criticism, or seeking reassurance from a loved one?

There are interventions you can start TODAY which will help you to make steps to increase your kindness towards yourself and help you to engage in kindhearted responses to yourself. There are countless research studies which prove how impactful negative self-talk or degrading thoughts can be on your self-esteem and your body image. Instead of positive affirmations- take a look at this skill of self-compassion. First let’s explore what self-compassion is.

What is the Definition of Self-Compassion?

The art of practicing self-compassion is learning how to be compassionate towards yourself the way you would be to a loved one. The definition of self-compassion from one of the most notable professionals in the field, Kristen Neff, is, as stated on her website:

“Self-compassion involves acting the same way towards yourself when you are having a difficult time, fail, or notice something you don’t like about yourself. Instead of just ignoring your pain with a “stiff upper lip” mentality, you stop to tell yourself “This is really difficult right now,” how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?”

One of the biggest misconceptions people often have about self-compassion is that if they practice being compassionate, they will be viewed as “egotistical” or “making excuses for making mistakes”. On the contrary- people who are self-compassionate are often more mentally flexible with themselves and others. They also show higher rates of self-esteem and lower rates of judgment of themselves and others. People often feel uncomfortable acknowledging their own pain or suffering because of the fears of the negative because of the fears they may have. They often feel as if they “should be stronger” or as if their pain “wasn’t a big deal.” If you cannot validate your own pain/ difficulty or emotional pain (no matter how trivial you may see it) it is near impossible to gain self-esteem. Think about a friend- how much would you confide in them or look to them for support if they constantly put you down or disregarded your pain/ suffering? The likelihood you would feel comfortable or continue to confide in this relationship would likely drop or the relationship would possibly discontinue.

Some Simple Steps for Self-Compassion

If you are wanting to take the steps to learn how to be more compassionate to yourself, there are a few simple things to keep in mind. Start by envisioning someone you love unconditionally. This tends to be family members, best friends, partners, or even pets! Think about how you would talk to that individual if they made a mistake? Now compare the response you have to this individual to your personal self-talk/ responses if you were to make the same mistake. Does it feel different? If so, how could you adjust your internal or external dialogue to match a compassionate response you would give to a loved one.

Now, think of body image. This tends to be more difficult for people to be compassionate about because our culture has largely made it acceptable (and almost expected) to body shame ourselves in public settings. It is seen as abnormal to be compassionate towards the way your body looks in our society, and body shaming bonding is a way people often connect. If you are unable to see your looks in a compassionate way- start with appreciating what your body does for you. Are you appreciative for the wind you feel as you walk outside? Or that your body can take you to new places or to experience different things? Identification and appreciation of the things your body can do for you can be compassionate in itself because you are learning how to look at your body as more than an ornament and as a vessel that can help you to experience different activities.

Lastly, it is important to recognize that difficult emotions to hold (e.g., anger, sadness, disappointment) do not dictate our worth/ success or lovability. Although these emotions are often not coveted feelings, they are important to express and validate while also not putting too much meaning into emotions. One of the biggest barriers people struggle with is knowing the difference between feeling a certain way- and the emotion representing something about themselves. For example, you can feel as if you failed a test- and it does not mean you actually failed. You can also “feel like you are a bad person” and it doesn’t mean you are a bad person. Generally, with body image issues people feel unattractive and so they think that they must change the way their body looks to feel attractive. Granted, this is an uncomfortable emotion-but feeling unattractive doesn’t mean that there is anything you need to change about your body. Maybe it’s a bad body image day, maybe diet culture is impacting you, or maybe you just woke up not being excited about your looks (which Is ABSOLUTELY normal).

Learning how to be kind to yourself is an invaluable skill. Times of self-doubt, difficult changes, relationship issues, and overall pain/suffering are unfortunately unavoidable. If you are used to engaging in a large amount of self-criticism, try walking through some of these basic steps to adjust critical thinking. If you are looking to explore this further- check out Kristen Neff’s information (some resources provided below). Body criticism is an extensive and complicated issue- I encourage all to carve out some time every day to practice self-compassionate responses, exploring self-compassion exercises/ techniques, or trying out different workbooks to support you on this journey. Included below are resources you can use to support you to start practicing self-compassion skills to support your views of yourself and your body.

- Deanna Smith, LCSW

Resources

-The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength and Thrive author: Kristin Neff

-The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook by Tim Desmond

Quote Gathered from Website: https://self-compassion.org/the-three-elements-of-self-compassion-2/

Read more of Deanna's posts in this series here: How Beauty Standards Impact Your Life and here: How Our Culture Impacts Your Body Image

Ms. T | Boudoir Photo Shoot, Ogden Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 21 Apr 2022 18:15:03 GMT

What Is Intimate Photography?

Boudoir, or intimate photography, is a genre of photography that captures a person's sensuality. Boudoir can be seductive, strong, or romantic. Our goal is to empower you to see the fierce, independent, sexy, badass human that you are. Boudoir images are purposefully intimate, which is why we are so adamant about protecting your privacy. We use only natural retouching techniques on your images. It is important to us that you look like yourself in the finished product, not like a plastic doll. And we never, ever want our clients to think they look amazing because of Photoshop. Read more of our FAQs HERE .

Ms. Z | Salt Lake City Boudoir

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 22:15:03 GMT

Why You Should Do Boudoir

There are reasons I hear all the time: I want to do a boudoir photoshoot to create a gift for my partner, I want to do a shoot because it's been on my bucket list forever, I recently got divorced and I want to do a boudoir shoot before I get back into the dating pool. All good reasons, but my favorite reason? I want to do a boudoir shoot so I can see myself in the eyes of an artist. Billions of times each day we are inundated with messages from the beauty and diet industries that we are not enough. (Only a slight exaggeration.) The ideal is both unattainable and constantly shifting. Trying to conform is like shooting at a moving target the size of a penny from 50 yards away. We're not meant to hit that target. If we did, we would stop buying their messaging and therefore their products. Celebrating ourselves through artistic expression is one significant way we can fight this messaging. Find an artist you love and honor your body, your being, your life by documenting this moment in your existence. If Mateusz is that artist for you, contact Pamela HERE .

Ms. W | Salt Lake City Boudoir

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 19 Apr 2022 17:00:03 GMT

Blonde Bombshell Boudoir

Do you HAVE to have gorgeous locks that go down to your waist to do boudoir? No, but it certainly doesn't hurt!! Besides being stunning in every way, Ms. W also had the best outfits. I guess god really does have favorites. Want to do your own boudoir shoot? Contact Us! We're happy to talk to you for free about what your experience would look like. We like to make each luxury experience unique.

Ms. M | Boudoir Photography Salt Lake City

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Mon, 18 Apr 2022 18:30:07 GMT

Creative Photoshoots Are More Fun!

Ms. M is a unique person, to say the least. She is adventurous and fun and wanted a boudoir shoot that spoke to her witchy side. Mateusz delivered! Check out her sexy photoshoot below!

Ms. J Returns | Salt Lake Boudoir Photography

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 18:12:42 GMT

The first boudoir shoot is just a warmup...

The first time Ms. J came to us for a photoshoot, she was healing from trauma and needing a transformative experience to help with that process. You can read a first hand account of her experience and see all the images from that shoot here: Rise of the Phoenix . This time she wanted a more traditional boudoir shoot. She had done all the hard work of making peace with her trauma and was learning to love herself and her body. She wanted this experience to reflect that newfound love and confidence.

Ashley | Portrait Photography, Ogden Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 14 Apr 2022 16:00:04 GMT

Ogden's Favorite Realtor Gets New Headshots

Ashley Wolthuis has been voted the best realtor in Ogden at the Indie Ogden Awards year after year. And it's no wonder. Her charming personality and impeccable communication skills give her an edge over the competition. She is smart, reliable, and has that unforgettable red hair! Needless to say, we're fans. When she called us asking for new headshots, we couldn't have been more excited! So here they are: some of our favorite headshots for the best realtor in Ogden. :)

Ms. F | Salt Lake City Boudoir

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 13 Apr 2022 21:37:06 GMT

Boudoir Photography Utah

If you're thinking about booking a boudoir shoot, there are a few things you need to know. One, you get what you pay for! Yes, you can go on KSL and find a photographer to take sexy photos of you, but when you hire a professional, award-winning photographer you know exactly what you're going to get: a phenomenal, luxury experience and a gallery worthy of the best art show. Two, you'll need to think ahead! Most professional photographers are booked a couple months out and then it takes about a month to six weeks after your shoot to get your products. And three, your photographer doesn't legally have to protect your privacy! Make sure you choose one with a good reputation that you can trust not to share your photos unless you give your permission. Want more info? Contact us or sign up for our newsletter below and get our Boudoir Research Guide for free. And check out more of our work here: GALLERY

Ms. A | Boudoir Photo Shoot, Salt Lake City

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 13 Apr 2022 15:07:37 GMT

Ms. A Stuns Us All at Her Boudoir Shoot

I don't actually have the words for this particular shoot. Stunning? Yes. Gorgeous? Uh-huh. Badass? Most definitely. But it's so much more than that. Ms. A is a Hollywood starlet and a badass bombshell rolled into one.

Ms. A | Boudoir Photography, Salt Lake City

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 15:04:03 GMT

A Vegan Photoshoot

Ms. A owns a vegan eatery and wanted to highlight her lifestyle during her photoshoot and use some of her images for her business. But she also wanted some traditional boudoir shots, so we had the best time getting both creative and sexy at her shoot!

Ms. E | Boudoir Photography Ogden, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Mon, 11 Apr 2022 15:00:04 GMT

A Silk + Salt Angel

We adore Ms. E!! You'll be hard pressed to meet a more beautiful human. And the love, apparently, is mutual. She has told everyone she knows about us and has done not one, but two shoots with us already. This was her first and we are super excited to show you her second, boho shoot, very soon! You can see other examples of our boho set here .

Ms. L | Salt Lake Couples Boudoir

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 08 Apr 2022 15:00:05 GMT

Couples Boudoir in Salt Lake City

What is the best wedding gift you could give your fiance? An engagement session, of course! This bride wanted to show her naughty side as well as her nice side, but we have done everything from very vanilla to very spicy boudoir shoots and we adore them all!

Ms. H | Boudoir Photography Ogden, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 15:00:03 GMT

A Stunning Angel

This is the first of two boudoir shoots that Ms. H did with us and she's planning on a third for next year! We call clients like Ms. H serial boudoigomists. No, of course we don't! That would be awful! But we do love our repeat clients. The first shoot is always fun, the second is creative and familiar and exciting, and the third is phenomenal!! We can't wait for her to come back!!

Ms. L | Boudoir Photography Ogden, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 06 Apr 2022 15:00:05 GMT

Bridal Boudoir Photography

We love Couples Boudoir , we adore Maternity Photo Shoots , and of course, we will never tire of our Bridal Boudoir Sessions ! The brides are full of excitement and dreams of their new life. Their optimism is often contagious and their images are always stunning!

How Beauty Standards Impact Your Life

Tue, 05 Apr 2022 20:39:48 GMT

Taking Back Your Power from Beauty Culture: A How-to Guide

Every culture has its own unique standards of beauty, attractiveness, and ideals of what “beauty looks like”. In our culture, it tends to be individuals who are young, fit, thin, white and privileged. Our beauty standard is dangerous because it often contributes largely to body image issues, eating disorders, discrimination, and excessive self-critical behaviors. Unfortunately, this beauty standard largely impacts how we see our own bodies and the bodies of others.

Body image is largely complex, and unfortunately is not unique to our culture alone. However, as a therapist who works predominantly with body image, I often educate my clients on the dangers of beauty ideals. Most of my clients come into office with a large amount of disgust for their bodies ranging from their: weight, height, facial structures, chest, fitness levels, to normal signs of aging. They frequently believe their bodies are the problem- and that they need to change the way they look to fix their body image issues. If you happen to be someone who thinks similarly, the following story may enlighten you on how dangerous beauty trends or standards can be for shaping your personal beauty ideals.

In China, there was a practice that persisted for over a millennium called “foot binding”. Foot Binding is the practice of breaking and tightly binding feet in order to shape feet to be as small as possible. Not only was this practice considered to be for the “most elite”, but it was also a large representation of femininity and beauty. A painful and also damaging tradition for someone’s health was largely idealized within this culture. For those who are not familiar with this beauty trend this may sound outlandish or foreign. Today we see the manifestation of very painful and/or expensive practices to uphold beauty standards such as: various diets, plastic surgeries, cosmetic products, and hair styles/products, and fashion. Beauty cultures are powerful and are largely to blame for unrealistic expectations of beauty and attractiveness.

Activities People Often Avoid Due to Body Image Issues

1) Vacations: People often avoid going on certain vacations (generally vacations where a swimsuit is involved) because of the fear of being judged or the mental comparison they engage in with others.

2) Dating: Individuals avoid dating until they feel they will “look good enough” or avoid dating altogether. They worry about judgement or rejection from a potential significant other, or they worry about intimacy and someone seeing their body.

3) Taking Pictures: People regularly worry so much about what people will think of how they look that they will start to excessively review images of themselves. They also avoid getting pictures taken of themselves altogether due to the fear of what those images will look like.

4) Social Events with Friends or Family: Often individuals will avoid talking to old friends or socializing due to fears of “not looking good enough” or worries about what their friends or family think of their body.

5) Clothing: People will often avoid buying clothing that draws attention to themselves or things they feel comfortable in because of the fears of drawing observations about their body. We often see people who will hold onto clothing for years with the hopes they will fit into these outfits again, which can often be disheartening and disordered.

How would your life be different if beauty was not something that was so idealized? The dangerous parts of having beauty standards dictate or largely influence thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs is that we are being influenced to view ourselves and our bodies by these unrealistic standards. Another issue with beauty standards is that they are always shifting or changing. For example, in history we can see the different beauty trends spanning from the Twiggy era of thin, tall, short hair, flapper style all the way to the Kardashian era of thin waists, large chests, and hips. Even if you are one of the rare people who is fully satisfied with the way their body fits the current beauty standard, the standard will change within a matter of years. People who ascribe to beauty standards and ideals will always be unhappy due to the impossible standards put forth along with the ever-changing ideals and trends. How can you win? How can you be someone who can start to face this uphill battle?

Learn to Take Back Your Power

The Hard Truth. Your Body Image is Rarely (if Ever) About the Way Your Body Looks.

It is about the way you PERCIEVE your body, which can be largely influenced by your culture, family, and environment. Do not let beauty ideals rob you from enjoying your life. Start by recognizing the power beauty culture has on the way you view yourself. You can begin by identifying why you like certain clothing, hair styles, make up trends, and asking yourself if you truly appreciate these styles or if you are heavily influenced by social media, marketing and being bombarded by these trends.

1) Challenge the Rules: If you have created certain rules for yourself of “ I can’t wear a swimsuit until I lose x amount of pounds” Or “ I can’t take this picture until I get my nose fixed”. Allow yourself to challenge the internalized perceptions which have been largely shaped by our disordered culture. Take the vacation, wear the swimsuit, post the picture you have been avoiding because of the fears you have of judgement or internalized critic of your body.

2) Clothing: Look for clothing that is comfortable, and fits the body you have now. Don’t hold onto old clothing as any kind of measure of success or “goals”. Having comfortable clothing you feel good wearing is a vital step for you to fight against beauty ideals.

3) Look for Support: Ask for support from your loved ones. We all have been touched negatively in one way or another from these dangerous beauty trends. Allow yourself to talk more openly about how this culture has robbed your body of peace and autonomy. Be sure to surround yourself with individuals who see and value you more than a body or more than your looks. If friends or family do not feel safe, try checking out a therapist who can support you throughout this journey and offer therapeutic tools and interventions.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

This blog is not meant as therapeutic advice, rather to provide education. If you or a loved one is struggling with disordered eating, or body image issues know that there are many educated, qualified mental health therapists and dieticians who are well-versed in these complicated issues. Please seek therapeutic & nutritional support if disordered eating or body image concerns are impacting your life.

Raad the next post in this series: You Can't Criticise Yourself Into Confidence

Queer History

Thu, 31 Mar 2022 22:21:54 GMT

Queer History

Allow me to begin a new series titled “Queer History” where I, EJ, dive deep into little known yet significant queer people from history! Pretty self explanatory, right? Let’s learn about…. MARY JONES!

Mary Jones was born in 1803 as Peter Sewally. She was a black soldier living in New York from New Orleans and is renowned as one of the first transgendered people in modern American history. Though there is debate as to whether or not she was a cross-dresser or transgender, she spent her days wearing typically masculine clothing while adorning herself in dresses and gowns at night and even being known to have a leather prosthetic vagina! Though it is noted that while she stayed in New Orleans, she was always presenting as a woman.

Mary’s line of work was one of tradition: prostitution. She became quite successful as a sex worker in NYC for a number of years while also stealing wallets and cash from her suitors. In 1836, a white man named Robert Haslem solicited her services in an alleyway, when she was able to steal his wallet with $99 inside and replace it with an empty one - and he didn’t know until he got home! It didn’t take long (the next day in fact), for her to be arrested and searched. Officers found more wallets hidden between her breasts as well as numerous belongings in her apartment from former johns. Due to the nature of her work, she was able to get away with the theft because her suitors were white, male, upper-class members of society who weren’t going to report their own misdoings to the police, despite being robbed.

Once she was arrested she was vilified. “The Man-Monster” she was called by H.R. Robinson. It should be noted that according to author Tavia Nyong’o, “monster” referred to her race, not her gender presentation. Calling her a “man” was rubbing salt in the wound. She was also later referred to as “Beefstake Pete” by the New York Herald, which was in reference to her leather vagina she kept tied around her waist. All of this, and she didn’t back down and didn’t apologize. At trial she would wear wigs and makeup and gowns all while being harassed and abused by on-lookers, some even who would rip off her wigs. Of course, a black transgender woman in the 1830’s didn’t really stand a chance against the courts. During her trial, she testified:

“I have been in the practice of waiting upon girls of ill-fame and made up their beds and received the company at the door and received the money for rooms and they induced me to dress in women’s clothes, saying I looked so much better in them and I have always attended the parties of the people of my own color dressed in this way - and in New Orleans I always dressed this way.”

She was sentenced to 5 years imprisonment in a maximum security prison, Sing Sing. Her fame didn’t end after sentencing. She continued to be torn apart in the press, but not for her crimes or even her prostitution. But because of how she dressed. To the public, her crime was being Mary Jones. In late summer of 1845 she was arrested again, this time not for solicitation but for “playing up his old game and sailing along the street in the full rig of a female.” Layman's terms, she was just out and about as a woman. Sorry, allow me to correct myself, she was just out and about as a BLACK, TRANSGENDER WOMAN in the 1840’s! She was an icon, an inspiration, and has continued to be a valuable point in American Queer History.

This second imprisonment didn’t last for too long. Six months later she was back in New York. We can only assume she continued her life back in New Orleans where she was safer, or got caught in a bad way in New York because records of her after that point just don’t exist. She remains part of something larger than herself, and has been accredited by Nyong’o as someone who “transformed shame and stigma not by transcending them or repressing them but by employing them as resources in the production of new modes of meaning and being.”

Mary Jones laid the ground work, as did many other black queer people in history, to bring us to where we are now. She is honored with a permanent installation at the Museum of Modern Art by way of a short film highlighting her life and accomplishments. Tavia Nyong’o tells her story in his book The Amalgamation Waltz. Arthur Jafa, modern artist, reimagined how Jones would have looked through a self portrait as part of a series entitled A Series of Utterly Improbable, Yet Extraordinary Renditions. Her mark on the world shines on as we celebrate where we are and fight to improve. Jones, you are valued by us and we are grateful for the life you led, and the sacrifices you made.

Thank you for teaching us resilience and how to stand for something.

Ms. W | SLC Boudoir Photo Shoot

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 25 Mar 2022 19:15:03 GMT

Beauty at every age...

Boudoir is for women who are ready to come into their own. They're done letting society dictate their choices and they intuitively know that that little voice inside them is the one they should always listen to, not the raucous clatter of social media or the judgmental opinions of their distant relatives or the scare tactics of commercial media. They are centered. They are whole. They embrace their sensuality and aren't afraid of change or adventure. Want to see more of these badass women? Check out our gallery here: BOUDOIR GALLERY .

What My Wife’s Rock Hard Abs Taught Me about Good Health (and it’s not what you think)

Fri, 25 Mar 2022 15:00:03 GMT

Why thinner is not better

I’ve always thought my wife was stunning. She’s a red-headed goddess who makes me melt at the sight of her. Soon after we started dating, she began going to the gym with me. We climbed together, lifted weights together, went to yoga together. She was making impressive progress, looking stronger every month. I loved how her body looked still, and I also loved what it was capable of!

Then her doctor prescribed her antibiotics for a small infection she had. Suddenly she couldn’t keep anything down. He GI tract was giving out. The antibiotics had ravaged the bacteria in her gut and she couldn’t properly digest her food. It was scary for a moment and then she found a diet that made it possible for her to eat.

She was surviving on this diet, but she was far from thriving. She continued to work out and stay on her special diet for months. She knew rebuilding her gut health would be a lengthy process and she was very dedicated to it. Eating out wasn’t on the agenda anymore. Simple carbohydrates and even many complex ones weren’t on the menu. Everything had to be made from scratch. She started losing weight, but slowly, so that it wasn’t exactly noticeable at first.

And then one day she was getting into bed and I noticed the definition in her stomach. “My love, you have a six pack!” I was kind of stunned. I knew she had been working very hard at the gym but it’s such a rarity that you see abdominal muscles in women. They’re usually tucked away behind a nice layer of body fat.

Looking back now, I know I should have been alarmed right away. But the thing is, I have been so culturally conditioned to think that having rock hard abs and a skinny body are a good thing, it took me weeks to understand what this actually meant. She was starving. The diet wasn’t really working and her body was malnourished. There was nothing healthy about it. But everyone kept telling her how good she looked.

She was literally starving and got nothing but compliments on her looks! It started to affect her relationship with food in a scary way. She craved things she couldn't have and worried the compliments would stop if she gained weight. I realized that the reason we don’t see abs on most women is because we’re not meant to. Seeing every abdominal muscle behind our skin is not an ideal we should be striving for. We are healthier when we are fatter. That may be a controversial assertion. It’s certainly not a popular one. But I don’t care. There is science to back me up. After seeing my beautiful wife become a skeleton of her former self and fearing for her health every day for months, you can’t convince me otherwise.

These days our family uses the principles of intuitive eating to stay in good health. We eat what our bodies are craving when our bodies tell us it's time to eat and we stop when our bodies signal that we're full. We've learned, firsthand, the dangers of dieting and the trappings of diet culture. My wife is near the end of her treatment. She's slowly gaining back the weight she lost and fighting hard against the fallacious messages that have made so many people sick and depressed. I offer these counter messages in an effort to help cure our culture. I hope you'll share them. Your size does not determine your worth. Dieting is dangerous and ineffective. BMI is a meaningless and outdated measure. Skinny does not equal healthy and fat does not equal unhealthy- you can be healthy at any size.

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A Special Birthday Shoot | SLC Couples Boudoir

Wed, 23 Mar 2022 18:31:45 GMT

A couples shoot for the sweetest couple...

The beauty of couples boudoir isn't so much the finished product (which you know is phenomenal if Mateusz is the photographer), it's the experience. It is so magical to see people who have been married not for years, but for decades, light up with fire as they look into each other's eyes. They see themselves and each other in a new way and add just a little more kindling to the fire. It's an honor to witness and we will never get tired of it. You can see more of our gorgeous couples shoots here: Couples Gallery

Instruments of Boudoir: Part 2

Thu, 17 Mar 2022 15:44:15 GMT

The cameras we use to shoot boudoir (PART 2)

It’s time to talk about what do we actually use to create your images. You can see a lot of behind the scenes of our sessions on our social media and on the website so you can clearly see HOW we create our photographs. But I want to tell you a bit more in detail about my “instruments”, because in the end they are the direct extensions of my eye and hand. Before we dive into this world where technology meets art, I just want to ease your concerns – this is not going to be a totally nerdy talk with lots of words that only photographers would understand. I am about to tell you what cameras I use in a way a chef would tell you why he uses the ingredients that he does.

Sony a7III

This is the camera that started Silk + Salt with us, more than 3 years ago now. It is what everybody in the industry loves to call a “workhorse”. It kinda does a little bit of everything but much better than an average camera. It is amazing at fast and accurate focusing and that is the main reason I use it for the majority of the session, especially at the beginning. I can simply trust that this camera will do exactly what I want it to do, therefore I can focus on you and giving you the best boudoir experience. I can freely talk to you and walk you through the posing, knowing that the camera will stay sharply focused on you and fire away every time I want it to. Another huge advantage of it is the variety of lenses I have for it. I can create almost any unique look that goes through my mind thanks to that.

Leica Q2 Monochrome

It is no secret that I specialize in black and white photography – especially in boudoir. It is also no secret that I try to keep our editing to the minimum, in order to be as authentic as possible. That’s one of the many reasons for which I am in love with this camera. It’s sensor is monochrome and it doesn’t capture color at all. It captures only different values of light and I think there is something extremely poetic about it and the way it creates images. Because of that I can create mood in the photos that is closer to old-school film photography and capture light in a way that a “normal” camera wouldn’t allow me to. It is also very small and quiet, and because of that it is perfect when a session calls for something more intimate and not distracting.

Fujifilm GFX 100S

This camera uses a medium format digital sensor. This is one of the biggest sensors available in modern cameras and thanks to it, it sports an enormous amount of megapixels (102 to be exact). What it means, is that it creates images with super large resolution. This is the camera that only commercial photographers use, due to its cost and much slower operation (everything is bigger therefore the camera needs more time for focusing and saving files onto the card). I am fairly sure that we are the only boudoir studio in Utah that uses a camera of such high quality for their sessions.

Another huge advantage of the larger sensor is the color representation. And I know, I know – in the previous part I just mentioned that I specialize in black and white photos! And that is completely true but when I create color images with this camera, I can create a stunning depth of colors that you can only see in high end advertising productions. Even if images are later turned into monochrome, they still retain that beautiful diversity and full range of tones.

Fujifilm Instax Mini Evo Pro

This is the newest addition to our ensemble, and it is actually an instant-film camera! This little guy is extremely fun to use because it comes equipped with a variety of interesting creative options, like creating mirrors in the image, or shifting colors. We started to use it in our sessions so that you can take a couple of photos from the day of your boudoir session home!

I hope this gives you a better idea of how everything you see on our site was created. Everything I do has a purpose and when I say that I treat every person individually, I truly mean it. I don’t use just one thing for everybody. This is art, and just like music, no piece is performed exactly the same way twice.

CHECK OUT PART 1

WHAT IF?...

Thu, 17 Mar 2022 15:27:20 GMT

What if?...

Let’s travel back to a time when we were kids. It’s summertime and you’re at the pool with your friends and eating a popsicle while it melts down your arm with only a worry about the lifeguard catching you running too fast to the slide. Last year’s swimsuit is a little small but that’s okay, it still works. Then you hear your mom by the chairs call your name. She tells you to put your shirt over your swimsuit, “your tummy is peeking out, you look chubby.”

That was the first time you were told to be insecure. Me, too, it’s fine, we’re fine, we’re over it, she was probably right! It doesn’t end there, though. It continues when you grow up and your friend complains about their body hair. * ... am I supposed to hate my body hair too? do I need to start shaving? am I gross? * Someone else says something about how their acne makes them ugly, so now you must be ugly too. You buy all the cleansers and exfoliators and somehow it just doesn’t go away - so now you’re stuck with an “ugly” face. You sister hates her thighs, you hate your thighs. Your mom hates her back rolls, you hate your back rolls. Your friend says her lips are too big so now YOUR lips are too big. Someone justifies their fat and stretch marks because they just had a baby, but then why do you have those things if you didn’t? It goes on and on and on until we hate everything about ourselves, FOR NO REASON other than because someone else hated themselves.

While it might be easy to be angry at these people, have compassion, it isn't their fault. My mom hates her body because her mom hated her own body and her mom hated her body and her mom and her mom… It gets passed down and infects every aspect of our lives because well, what else are we supposed to do? Accept ourselves? But then how would razor companies and diet pill companies and plastic surgeons make any money? What would we do with all of our freetime? Be hot and awesome and unapologetically ourselves? Pffttt… The fact is they didn’t know, and we are just learning. My mom didn’t know that saying, “are you really going to have another plate?” was going to guarantee I made a trip to the bathroom after dinner. If nobody has ever been told that the cycle doesn’t have to continue, how would they know?

Let’s talk about that cycle. How do we break it? Obviously: stop taking normal parts about being human and turning it into a flaw. Yeah, yeah sounds simple but it isn’t. Breaking that mental routine feels impossible, and you can always come up with a reason to justify it because you think bullying yourself works… for some reason… even though it hasn’t so far… and you still try it… and you learned that bullying others doesn’t make you love yourself any more.

What helps me: question EVERYTHING. Who told me I have to hate this? Why do they want me to feel that way? Who does it benefit? Once you realize that not a single one of these destructive thoughts came from your own head, you don’t have to own them anymore. You can start to let them go and heal. The next step is possibly even harder than deconstruction… You have to stop.

You have to wake up each day and choose to not say things like “I feel fat today,” “Ugh I hate my chin,” “I can’t wear that, my stretch marks will show,” “I didn’t shave today, now I’m gross,” “I love ___ on you but I hate it on myself.” If we can pinpoint the day that each of our insecurities are born, we have a duty to each other to not be the reason it gets passed on. I owe it to my nieces to never make them feel bad for having a chest, my nephews to never make them feel like they can’t be sad. I owe it to my partner to not take on the emotional weight of loving me enough for the both of us. I need to show my mom and my sister that it’s okay to just eat the fucking donut. I want little EJ to know that I’m better now, and I wear the sluttiest swimsuits every summer.

What if… nobody made you put on a shirt at the pool when you were a kid and it was okay to just be fat for no other reason than just because you are? What if you never heard someone point out your biggest insecurity in themselves as a reason to not be happy? What if the internet never got to decide the ideal body, and the ideal body is just the one you already have? If nobody else has ever told you, you’re fine. Your friends love you. I love you. Your physical insecurities are simply… lies you’ve been told to keep you down. Don’t stay down, we need you.

How Our Culture Impacts Your Body Image

Mon, 07 Mar 2022 22:20:15 GMT

Diet culture. Have you heard of it?

You see it everywhere, you are probably so used to seeing it you did not know it has a name. When someone references “Diet Culture” they are referring to a collective set of social expectations which communicate there is a certain way to look in order to be more of a “worthy” or “healthy” person. In Layman’s terms, anything that propagates dieting linked with: health and wellness, social acceptance, weight loss, or any information which indicates health is implied by the size of your body. Unfortunately, diet culture largely impacts the views of our community on the views of all bodies, including your own. There are often perfectionistic beliefs which are largely disordered and communicated to us from young ages which come from this culture such as “you are what you eat” or “I am so bad for eating _____ food”. Regrettably, the way we view beauty, body sizes, and food is largely impacted by this disordered culture and is reinforced with media, interpersonal relationships, and largely distorts the way we see ourselves, our bodies and our self-worth.

Think about diet culture- or the “wellness industry”- it tends to paint a picture of “if you follow this diet/wellness plan you will gain self-esteem and confidence”. This culture’s message often also broadcasts false ideas such as “your self-worth will largely improve when you weigh x amount of pounds/fit into a certain size”. It often communicates messages that changed bodies improve confidence, improve mood, and increase your overall social acceptance and desirability. What does diet culture actually do? As a mental health therapist who specializes and works primarily with body image issues and eating disorders, I can tell you what this culture ACTUALLY does. It teaches individuals at a young age to never be satisfied with their bodies, the way they look, and that there is “always something to work on” (aka you will never be happy). This culture makes billions of dollars off of people wanting to change their appearance because they are taught to dislike the way they look. It often leads to body dissatisfaction, food obsessions, body checking, social isolation, feelings of worthlessness, avoidance of mirrors/pictures, camouflaging behaviors (with clothing and food) and constant comparisons with yourself and others.

Let’s say you are still someone who is doubting the impact of diet culture and you want to see the data of this business model. If you start a new diet and lose weight, then there is celebration! If you can’t stay on the diet (which spoiler alert over 95% of people are unable to), diet culture likes to point the finger back at you and say that you are the problem- not the diets. Let me ask you this question, would you ride on an airplane if there was a 95% chance it would crash? Would you invest your retirement and savings into accounts that only gave you a 5% chance of accomplishing your financial goals and a 95% chance of leaving you financially devastated? If something has a 5% chance of working, do you blame yourself or blame the product? Yet, countless times I have clients sit in my office expressing frustration and feelings of defeat due to being unable to “maintain” the unmaintainable diets. Did you know that diet culture is largely rooted in capitalism and this industry is estimated to make over $100 billion dollars annually off of consumers? Why is the number so high if diets work? What kind of a business model would it be for this industry if people actually completed these programs, moved on and had a happy healthy life- Definitely not as much money as returning customers always looking for a new plan or new rules to follow. People are not born into this world thinking certain types of bodies are good bodies and others are bad- our society is to blame as it continuously shames all bodies for many different reasons. It is impossible to not have some of these biases impact the way you see bodies, and assign different amounts of worth to bodies. When people go on diets, they think they are looking to eat healthier or lose weight. What I tend to see is that they are truly looking for body satisfaction, social acceptance, feeling desirable/worthy, feelings of health/wellness, or “self- improvement”. It is very rarely about the weight- even though weight is generally highly emphasized in these diets. Diet culture largely promotes something called the “thin ideal” which communicates the ideology that someone is more beautiful/ healthy/ motivated, or has more worth if they are in a smaller body. Remember, this culture would not continue if it was not successfully selling individuals these false promises over and over again of your worth being correlated with the size of your body. Pathologizing anyone’s worth, motivation, or health based off of body size is damaging, and continues a cycle of internalized fatphobia and institutionalized fatphobia. Why should this be important to you?

Think about how many people you have personally talked to within your lifetime who have struggled with their bodies, or who are unable to fully live their lives without obsessing about a number on the scale. Think of how many people go their whole lives feeling like they are unable to accept their body because of their size/weight. Consider yourself, and how often you find yourself either judging your own body or someone else’s body because of these bombarding messages which are communicated to us from this culture. The message of this is not to shame anyone- rather to educate you on how damaging our culture can be on perceptions of people’s bodies and how this can largely impact your own views of your body.

Luckily, there is good news to share. If you type “diet’s don’t work” in a search engine there are thousands of research articles and statistics which prove the ineffectiveness of diets along with the correlation they have on individuals developing eating disorders. Researchers are starting to point out the many flaws associated with diets and weight-loss schemes along with their disordered beliefs. There is also a large amount of growing social movements such as the Health at Every Size, and Body Positivity movements which emphasize messages such as: health and wellness cannot be determined by a body’s size, bodies do NOT have to change for social acceptance, movement and connection are meant for all bodies, and celebrations of all kinds of bodies is key. Think of how much money, time, tears, or heartache you or others would save if you believed you are enough the way you are. Imagine if you felt no shame wearing different items of clothing instead of hiding your body or “waiting to wear something until I get my summer body”. Envision all the foods or social events you would enjoy more if you were not worried about the foods you ate or who was there watching you eat. Our culture still needs a lot of systematic change for there to be a world that is less impacted by diet culture, but remember- your body is NOT THE PROBLEM- diet culture is. As a mental health therapist, I often tell my clients “You will never shame yourself into self-love.” Know that I have seen clients for many years, and they always believe changing their bodies will heal their body image issues. These are temporary fixes, and do not heal your relationship with food or your body. No diet has ever fixed someone’s body image- even if the media you see would mislead you to believe otherwise.

Body positivity can look different for each person. One of the things you can start with is moving away from hiding your body and into body expression. It can be hard to show parts of your body you may have been taught to hide, or may have had derogatory remarks about, but remember your body is nothing to be ashamed of. The second is eliminating body shaming talk from your communication with others. Although it can be enticing to comment on someone’s weight loss/gain, you are continuing the cycle of judging someone’s health and worth based on the way someone’s body looks. Don’t continue diet culture’s bullshit propaganda! All bodies are GOOD BODIES just the way they are. If you have body image issues which are impacting your life, seek professional support- not the latest fad diet to improve your self-esteem and confidence. Do not wait to change your body to start practicing body positivity and self-compassion. Know that you are not alone, and spend time exploring anti-diet literature along with exploring body positivity movements such as Health at Every Size to increase your knowledge and awareness of the disordered messages which are communicated to you on the daily.

Deanna Smith, LCSW

Pre-Payment Bonuses!

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 16:00:15 GMT

Pre-Payment Bonuses for your Boudoir Shoot!

Did you know that you can unlock exclusive bonuses for your boudoir shoot? It’s true! Any client who chooses to prepay for one of our top three collections gets to add one, two, or three of the following perks!

Pre-Session Client Closet Appointment

Play dress-up with Pamela! You’ll spend about an hour trying on all the things you want from the client closet a couple of weeks before your boudoir shoot so that you’ll have a more relaxed shoot day. Plus, who doesn’t love playing dress up!! So much fun!!

Kink Set

Whether you're into floggers, spreader bars, paddles, masks, collars, cuffs, or crops, we've got a little something for everyone to fulfill their photographic fantasies. Our leather harnesses come from Mariemur .

Retro Polaroid Set

Is patience not your strongest quality? Do you love shaking a polaroid until it develops, you know, for nostalgia? Then this is the one for you! Mateusz will take an entire set of polaroid images (around 20) of you with our luxury polaroid camera that does in camera effects and you will go home with them on your shoot day!

Shower Set

This is such a simple set but the end result is fabulous! Together we'll create the steamiest images of you you’ve ever had.

Extra Hour of Shoot Time/Extra Outfit (Couture Collection only)

If you’re getting our top collection, you may want some extra images to choose from for your album! An extra hour of shoot time will not only give you more images, it will also give you time for more outfits!

If you’re unsure of which one you want or just need more info, contact Pamela and she will walk you through all of it!

Ms. B | Salt Lake City Boudoir

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 24 Feb 2022 16:00:17 GMT

Boudoir Before Babies

Ms. B was pregnant with twins when she came in for her boudoir photo shoot. She wanted to do a shoot before she started showing. We loved capturing this special moment before her life changed forever.

Body Neutrality

Wed, 23 Feb 2022 14:00:06 GMT

On Body Neutrality From A Boudoir Studio To You

Body neutrality is the ability to appreciate and recognize what your body can do for you and others. It is the realization of the function it provides in all its forms."

You know, I think we all get caught up in this idea of "love your body" so much that we don't even realize there are other options. Let us be the ones to tell you that you don't HAVE to push "love" on your body. You don't have to force yourself to love something, especially something as insignificant as how your body looks. I don't know if you've noticed, but it can be relentlessly exhausting! It can feel like you have to perform every time you leave the house, be someone you aren't, and at the end of the day, if you failed, you get even more mean to yourself for not achieving an unattainable goal.

The goal shouldn't be "love your body, your body is beautiful, your body is perfect!" every second of the damn day. The goal should be "my body does exactly what I need it to do right now and that's all that matters." Body neutrality is so much more nuanced than people give it credit for, and it is so much more than appreciating the physical of ourselves. It's about listening to our bodies and giving it what it needs. Sometimes that's a whole day of sleep and getting nothing else done! Sometimes it means indulging in all your favorite things and not feeling guilt for it. It can be getting up at the butt crack of dawn to go on a hike with your friends and complaining the whole time because what kind of friends would ask you to do this? but then you get to the top of the mountain and you guess it isn't so bad.

All the things that would ordinarily make you feel shame, guilt, embarrassment... but somehow don't anymore... that's body neutrality. How we get there is different for everybody, though EJ suggests a mantra of "who actually gives a f**k?!" Because the secret is... NOBODY DOES.

Ms. F | SLC Boudoir Photo Shoot

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 22 Feb 2022 16:00:03 GMT

A Stunning Maternity Boudoir Shoot

Maternity Photo Shoots are some of our favorite. The moms-to-be radiate a beauty that is unique to these types of shoots. There's something so magical about commemorating this moment in someone's life with them. It is a celebration of both hardship and life, pain and creation.

Our Instruments of Boudoir

Sat, 19 Feb 2022 02:31:41 GMT

The cameras we use to shoot boudoir

Every artist uses “tools” to help them make their vision become reality. Be it a brush, musical instrument, their body movement, a pen, or… a camera. They very often can be a source of inspiration for an artist on their own. A tool that you love and you want to pick up all the time can inspire you not only to create more but also to use it way beyond its potential.

Let me be clear. I don’t believe artists need high quality tools to create amazing art. You should never judge a photographer by the quality of the camera they are using, only the art they create with it. Art is subjective; there is no “good” or “bad” art – only the things you connect with and don’t.

Why am I bringing all of this up then? Well, I am extremely passionate about what I do and every single thing I use has its purpose and role in my process. There is a reason why violinists want to play on a Stradivarius and why these instruments are worth millions of dollars. They give them not only the freedom to create and control the sounds exactly the way they want it but they also don’t stand in their way of achieving it. The instrument and musician seamlessly “melt” together to become one, so that the music can be the sole focus, rather than the instrument not being able to handle the sound the musician is trying to project through it.

Cameras are my instruments. Until very recently, there were no cameras that could “do it all”. We see this question come up constantly from new photographers: “what camera should I get? I want it to be good at everything because I’m not sure what I want to shoot yet”. Over the last couple of years, camera companies finally were able to create these miracles that can do it all but they are their flagship cameras. They cost thousands of dollars (we are talking about $6k+) and they are STILL not perfect at everything. But they are very, very close indeed.

That is why I am probably one of the very few photographers in Utah who uses more than just one camera during our sessions. They are my brushes, my instruments, my chef's knives, my tools that help me get the exact results I am looking for. Each of them excels in their strengths and fills a specific role in my repertoire of image creation.

Again, do photographers need to do it this way? Absolutely not. In fact, the vast majority of them use only one camera and only one lens. And that is totally fine. I know some of the best boudoir photographers in the world who do exactly just that. But I personally love the ultimate freedom in my vision, and I just love to give that experience to my clients as well.

Using different systems allows me to bring variety to the types of photographs I create for our clients during our boudoir and portrait sessions. I primarily use 3 totally different cameras and multiple different lenses that I can mount on them. Over the next 3 blog posts I will explain to you what exactly each of them does. I want to show you what goes through my head and what kind of “brush strokes” each of them helps me create. I am excited for you to learn more about how I create your photos – I truly believe that it will help you to love them even more and understand that I believe that every single person is special – that is why I want to create a unique gallery of art for every client.

CHECK PART 2

FEELING NERVOUS ABOUT YOUR BOUDOIR SHOOT?

Fri, 18 Feb 2022 16:00:04 GMT

10 tips to calm your nerves before your boudoir shoot

Well, let me tell you, honey, you are not alone. Almost every client we see comes into the studio incredibly nervous on their shoot day. Not only is it normal, it’s rather beneficial as well. Those nerves usually translate to a high energy shoot, which does everything good for you! However!! We don’t want the nerves to go overboard and cause a freak out moment that makes you want to cancel your shoot. So I’m going to give you the advice I give to all our clients before their shoots.

READ YOUR PREP GUIDE!

The day after you book your shoot we will send you 30 glorious pages of information that you didn’t know you needed. It will go over styles of images, what to wear, what to bring, what to leave at home, what to do, what not to do, where to prepare, what to expect, how to create a Pinterest Board, and much more! This is THE essential guide on how to get ready for a Silk + Salt shoot and knowing that you’re prepared and what to expect will settle those nerves right down.

BOOK YOUR PRE-SHOOT PLANNING CONSULTATION!

About three weeks before your photo shoot we will send out an email with a link to book your pre-shoot planning session over Zoom. If your photographer doesn’t offer these, just ask! Any photographer worth their salt will do everything in their power to help you feel comfortable before and during your shoot. This day is 100% about YOU! At your pre-shoot planning session we will get to know you better so we can deliver a personalized, luxury experience on your shoot day. It’s also an opportunity for you to get to know us because we don’t want you meeting us for the first time on your shoot day! It’s a vulnerable experience and so making sure you’re comfortable with us is an important way we help calm your nerves.

MAKE A PINTEREST BOARD!

This suggestion is for those humans who feel better when there is a plan in place that they have some control over. Creating and sharing a pinterest board with us gives us all a visual map of what you want your shoot to look like. We’ve found it’s the best way to communicate your vision for your shoot. However, if you’re the sort of human who gets stressed out by having a homework assignment, it’s definitely not necessary for us to provide an amazing experience for you.

TALK TO OTHER HUMANS WHO HAVE DONE A SHOOT!

If you are a woman, you can join our Facebook group, the Salty Witches by Silk + Salt. It’s an incredible group of supportive women who love the opportunity to lift each other up. Lots of our clients are in there and have been exactly where you are now. They’re always happy to help you with any advice or anything else you need to help you feel ready for your shoot.

BORROW FROM OUR CLIENT CLOSET!

A lot of our clients’ biggest worry is over what to wear. You don’t have to give this one thought, if you don’t want to, though, because we have a huge client closet with pieces that look amazing on camera in sizes XS-5X. You can just show up on your shoot day and borrow everything from us, if you want to. Most of all, we don’t want you spending money on something that you’re only going to wear once. Borrow from us instead!

DO NOT GET DRUNK BEFORE YOUR SHOOT!

I talk about this a little in the prep guide, too, but it’s very important that you stay sober the night before your shoot! Hungover is never sexy or powerful and it really won’t help you feel better right before or during your shoot. Instead, try the tips below. And we always offer two glasses of wine at your shoot, totally optional, to help you relax. ;)

GET A GOOD NIGHT’S SLEEP!

Yes, we can fix certain things with Photoshop, but it will always be better if you don’t have an entire set of luggage hanging out under your eyes on your shoot day. Go to bed early, stop looking at screens about an hour before bedtime, and tell everyone in your house that you have an important meeting tomorrow! Feeling well rested will definitely help you feel less anxious.

EAT BREAKFAST! AND HYDRATE!

This is more important than you think! A lot of clients think that they shouldn’t eat before their shoot because they’re worried about bloating. But if you starve yourself, your body will feel stressed which will increase your nerves. Mateusz is a master of posing. You don’t need to worry about how your body is going to look on camera because he’s going to ensure you look better than you ever have, no matter your size or shape. Besides, we strongly believe we must stop perpetuating the myth that curves are bad. They are BEAUTIFUL!!! And you are going to rock yours. <3

TRY YOGA AND MEDITATION!

It’s ok if you’ve never tried yoga or meditation before. There are hundreds if not thousands of YouTube videos with instructions for beginners. Look up “restorative yoga for beginners” and/or “meditation for beginners”. It’s a great way to relax before your shoot, but it’s also a great way to prepare your back for your shoot! A boudoir shoot is a workout. You need to stretch both before and after your shoot or you will be cursing our names the next day!

CALL ME IF YOU NEED ME!

If you’ve tried all of the above and you’re still freaking out, just call me! I’ve talked many clients off the ledge and I’d be happy to do the same for you.

Ms. S | Boudoir Photography Ogden, Utah

Tue, 15 Feb 2022 16:00:03 GMT

A lover of skating and reading

"Can I bring skates to my boudoir shoot?" YES!! "Can I bring books to my boudoir shoot?" HELLS YES!!! We love it when our clients bring things that are meaningful to them. Our goal is to capture each client's unique personality. Let us know at your pre-shoot planning session what, if anything, you want to bring on your shoot day.

Ms. A | Utah Photographer SLC

Sat, 12 Feb 2022 02:55:18 GMT

A Classic Boudoir Photo Shoot

Boudoir isn't about sexy pictures. Sure, you get sexy images after your photo shoot, but boudoir is about the experience: the experience of feeling seen, empowered, and confident; the experience of being pampered, uplifted, and heard. But most of all, this experience lets you see yourself through the eyes of an artist.

Body Image Retreat 2022

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 01 Feb 2022 18:58:45 GMT

Foster Self-Love, Confidence, and Unconditional Worthiness at our Body Image Bootcamp

Imagine you’re coming home from an amazing four-day retreat that felt like it was made exactly for you. As you walk out of your luxury cabin in Sundance, Utah with a group of women you’ve come to know and love, you’re feeling so much gratitude for the trip and the growth you experienced.

The retreat was more than just a body-image bootcamp, and nothing could prepare you for the confidence boost you’d be feeling thanks to your time questioning beliefs that damaged your self-image for decades. Thanks to your work this weekend, you’ve made immense progress replacing them with kinder, gentler, and more empowering beliefs that you can’t wait to put into practice.

Beyond your internal transformation, you’re riding the high of a weekend-long adult slumber party and the joy that women can share when they’re given a safe space to express themselves together. Sound nice?

If you’re ready to take this experience from your imagination to reality, we would love to officially invite you to our 2022 Body Image Bootcamp. If the description above resonated with you, rest assured that you’re exactly who this retreat is meant for.

The experience is open to women of all shapes and sizes. Our aim is for you to leave with more love for your body and soul than you’ve ever experienced before—and to provide you with the tools to recreate this self-love transformation anytime you need it down the line.

Most importantly, we want to remind you that the cultural messages you’ve received about how bodies are supposed to look or what beauty requires of you are false. Much of our work throughout the retreat will be focused on deprogramming, challenging the notions that many of us have internalized our whole lives to remove their power over our relationships with ourselves.

It's 2022, and we’re long overdue for a culture that allows women to love every inch of themselves unconditionally. Now, all we need is a badass group of women to join us. Are you in?

If these messages are speaking to you, here’s all the info you need to come along for the ride. We’ll spend four days and three nights in our Sundance, Utah cabin this June. Along with the powerful content we’ve prepared to help you learn more about self-love, we’ll be bonding and having tons of fun. Think wine, massages, pedicures, yoga, hot tubs, and a new community of friends that we hope you’ll take with you long after you leave the cabin.

Your retreat guides EJ and Pamela will be staying in the cabin to share the experience with you, and we’ll even be bringing in a professional photographer to give each woman a self-love themed photoshoot to guide you into your power. And if any of these activities don’t quite sound like your vibe, note that every activity is optional and your comfort is our top priority.

There you have it! If you’re feeling called to take the trip of a lifetime and start healing your deepest worthiness wounds, we can’t wait to meet you. Sign up here starting February 1 ^st !

SALTY WITCHES HALLOWEEN PARTY 2021

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sat, 04 Dec 2021 03:32:09 GMT

Our Facebook Group, the Salty Witches by Silk + Salt, is the best group of women we've ever had the privilege to know!

Our annual Halloween Party is our favorite event. Pamela hosts at her house. We drink, we gab, we play. The only men who are allowed there are the ones who serve us. This year we had super hot entertainment (literally). Check out our fire spinner:

And our bonfire where we burned our negative self-talk!

Ogden's Own Distillery donated Five Wives Vodka and Madam Pattirini Gin!!

Harley Quinn showed up in a major way!

Such a magical night with these magical ladies!

Self-Love is the Greatest Act of Rebellion

Sat, 04 Dec 2021 02:38:16 GMT

I was 34 years old when I touched myself for the first time.

Before that, I spent decades in self-denial, raised with the belief that my body belonged to someone else. I accepted the patriarchal teachings that sex and pleasure for myself was something to be given by my husband someday. I learned at an early age to not touch myself in a loving way and to wait until I was married to allow my body to be turned on sexually by another person, and never by my own hand.

Was it any wonder why I hated and loathed my body, and myself?

I entered my marriage as a virgin and had a somewhat satisfying sex life. Yet, I could feel something was missing. As our children arrived, I observed them, in their innocence, naturally touch themselves, as they grew and developed, without any feelings of shame or guilt.

My children were without guile, open and loving. I began to wonder what was so very wrong about their self-pleasure. Why did we teach children to stop doing something which causes no harm to anyone else or themselves? Was it so evil to touch oneself and feel pleasure at your own hand?

As I began to question my beliefs, I found myself wondering about all the societal and religious programming I had been conditioned with to feel body and sexual shame.

How would I know what helps me achieve sexual satisfaction if I don’t even know the workings of my own body personally and must rely on another person to teach me about my own self?

Did my self-loathing and disgust with my body have anything to do with my own lack of ability to touch myself and my lack of familiarity with my own physical body?

Did my struggle with acceptance have any connection to the lack of loving touch I could have been giving myself but was not given permission for?

And one day, everything changed.

One dark and difficult afternoon, I sat alone, overwhelmed with fear and pain at the lack of acceptance for the bag of bones I carried around with me.

I had brought six beautiful human beings through this body I struggled to accept. I had loved, held, cried, and laughed with this body. Yet somehow, I was still hurting and disconnected from myself.

As I cried for the lack of love I longed for, I found myself doing what I would do for a friend in need. I put my arms around myself and enveloped my body in a hug as tight as I could manage.

Then, I took myself to my bed and I laid there and explored my entire body—the body I had been afraid of and ashamed to touch. I reached every place I had only reserved for someone else and had not allowed for myself. I felt every sensation and nerve ending and breathed into every moment without judgment for the first time in my life.

As I fully pleasured myself for the first time, shame was released. It was glorious.

In the privacy of my own room, I uncovered the secret we weren’t taught or allowed to embrace as children … my body and sexual pleasure belong to me.

As I began to cultivate regular self-pleasure, I learned and experienced the health benefits I didn’t know existed for a practice I hadn’t been allowed to embrace.

Much research has been done to prove masturbation is good for our brain and continued sexual health.

Some accepted health benefits include a cascade of hormones and chemicals that provide a natural high:

*Dopamine (our brain’s reward)

*Endorphins (natural pain killer)

*Serotonin (calming effect)

*Oxytocin (hormone of love)

Regular, focused self-pleasure not only serves to give our own body some much needed attention, but it also provides a chemical cocktail to stabilize our mood, enhance pleasure, minimize stress, and provide feelings of wellbeing.

Maybe children understand something intrinsically that we have been conditioned to feel shame for and reject due to societal expectations?

How intuitive nature has provided, literally, at our own fingertips the ability to bring sensual healing to our own selves. We can explore and experience such loving kindness for ourselves in our way and with our own loving hands.

Love and sex begin with our self. Before we can be a good lover to another, we must know how to be a lover to ourselves.

How does it feel when we touch our body? How do we surrender and respond to our touch? Do we meet each feeling with curiosity?

Make sounds, cry out, groan, scream. Relax. Breathe. Inhale. Exhale. Release into your hands. Let go of tension in your mouth and relax your jaw.

There is no right way. Sweet surrender is in whatever way feels good and safe.

When we enjoy the pleasure we give, we learn how our own body responds and we can open to others in a more eager, willing way. Learning how our body functions and what we enjoy will help us understand ourselves to better receive and give love.

How can we fully give to another if we struggle to know or understand how we love to be touched? How can we help our lover to know and dance with us in a day that is fulfilling if we don’t know what our body needs and wants all on its own?

We can explore, learn, and taste the deliciousness of our own bodies, revel in the miracle of our own safe touch, feel our unique response as we rise, and pour love into parts of ourselves we have been taught to reject. When I unlocked a passionate, shameless person, I was able to love myself and others more freely.

Regular self-pleasure challenges cultural sexual notions. This pleasure belongs to us and is in our control. As I symbolically released arbitrary rules about my body and sex, I discovered the truth.

Self-love is the greatest act of rebellion.

While embracing acceptance of my own body with my loving hands, I released feelings of unworthiness. No longer was I ashamed of the erotic, sexual, desires which are my birthright.

I found freedom as I uncovered the biggest secret of all…

Shame-free sex with myself and others is transcendent, life altering, and worshipful.

This is the key to healing and enlightenment.

For as we love ourselves, we can experience true bliss and eternal life here, in the now…

On Earth.

Stephanie Parry is a poet, writer, and editor. As a lover of nature, she is an Eclectic Witch. She is a Certified I AM Yoga Nidra Practitioner and loves to help others heal with this sleep-based meditation practice. She spends her time reading great books, visiting the ocean, helping others with connection, practicing yoga, and enjoying the many delights of life. Nature is her religion, and love and sex is her worship. She wants to experience it all. More of her writing can be found on her Instagram account at @stephanie_parry_writer and on Medium : https://stephanieparry.medium.com . She also writes on Elephant Journal at https://www.elephantjournal.com/profile/stephanie-parry/ . More of her writing can be found on her website at www.wordsofstephanieparry.com. She can be contacted at stephanieparryauthor@gmail.com.

Why are boudoir sessions so addicting?

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 23 Nov 2021 16:33:46 GMT

Why Silk and Salt boudoir sessions are so addictive

We sometimes laugh out loud that boudoir is our drug. But we are actually quite serious. To a stranger this might feel very silly. But the truth is that the experience of feeling strong, beautiful, glowing, confident, and powerful can be very addictive.

And if you ask us, there is no better addiction. Your first session is always amazing because it is the first time you get to try this sweet drug. The second and third are where you most likely will truly feel the difference. You will feel and see the growth you have accomplished since your first time and you won’t be afraid of it this time.

Even though we are based in Ogden, Utah, we have people coming to us from far away for multiple sessions. It is so important to us that you feel exactly how you want to and need to. We want to show you how to awaken these things in yourself, but the amazing “side effect” of a boudoir session is just the sheer fun of doing it together. There is just a special power in doing it in front of a lens that can make you want to come back for more!

LOVE Your Body? Or Acceptance?

Fri, 05 Nov 2021 16:24:56 GMT

LOVE Your Body? Or Acceptance? by Stephanie Parry

I stared down at my chest while standing in the hot shower, water pouring over my body. The breast buds had grown more significant, and a knot of fear churned in my stomach. How could I put them back?

My 12-year-old self asked my Mom, later in the kitchen, "Why do I have boobs? Can't I get them removed or make them smaller?"

She laughed. "Don't worry; you'll love them when you're married."

I got the message. My breasts were not for me; they were for someone else.

I never recovered from the feeling of embarrassment and self-loathing I developed for a body part I never wanted. My breasts were more prominent than most girls my age, I matured early, and for many years they were the source of public ridicule, shame, and sexual harassment. I grew to hate them even more over the years.

"It's not fair you have the kind of boobs I want."

"I would kill to have those. How can you not like them?"

"You're lucky you have big boobs. We're not all that blessed. You should be grateful."

"You aren't pretty enough to have big breasts."

These were only some of the messages I received from girls my age who ridiculed and shamed me for something I didn't choose. I didn't know how to handle this kind of shame.

I still sometimes feel fear and repulsion from the boy who hugged me too tight, so I couldn't breathe while he fondled my breasts. Or the boy who grabbed my breasts hard when he walked up to me in high school in between classes. When I attended a church dance wearing a bodysuit, my outfit was inappropriate because it was 'suggestive.' If I had been flat-chested, my outfit would not have been a problem. But everywhere I went, my breasts were shameful and part of public property. I hated how my breasts were always gawked at before anyone ever actually looked at my face.

Soon, I was married. However, love for my breasts still didn't come. I know my husband received enjoyment from them, but I still wanted them to be smaller or removed.

Then, something unique happened. I gave birth to my first baby, and even with enormous struggles and a terrifying early start to life, I breastfed her. The bonding, the closeness, and the nourishment from the Mother’s Milk she received brought a joy I had never known. My breasts had a biological function, and I was grateful for them. They produced something life-giving and nourishing for this tiny human I had barely survived to raise.

My breasts were still too large and uncomfortable, filled with milk. Over time, I had to learn how to feed my babies without suffocating them. I still wanted them to be smaller. The feeling of love my mother promised never arrived, but the admiration for my breasts overwhelmed me. I learned we all have mammary glands and similar nerve endings in our breasts, regardless of gender, and learning about the biological functions of my body gave me an appreciation I had not experienced before. I still didn't love my breasts or body, but I knew it performed some great functions for myself and my babies.

Body positivity was all the rage at the time of my early mothering. Body positivity is the belief we should love our bodies no matter what they look like, and especially if our body meets society's standard of what is considered unacceptable. If you meet society's standard of beauty (my large breasts, for example), society teaches us we are not allowed to hate or have feelings of disgust for our bodies. Society shames and requires us to adopt a specific body image or requires us to love ourselves if we don't. I certainly tried to love my body. I did all the affirmations, tried the special diets, told myself how beautiful I was, etc. None of that hokey stuff worked. I never could love what I didn't want, and lying to myself didn't produce different feelings; it just contributed to a battle with how I truly felt.

What I hadn't learned about and have now begun to understand is body neutrality is what I experienced. Body neutrality is the ability to appreciate and recognize what your body can do for you and others. It is the realization of the function it provides in all its forms.

Soon, I was able to see the other ways my body worked every day to bring me health, joy, and pleasure. I could hold my babies in my arms and calm them. I could sing to them and lull them into a deep sleep. I could run, dance, swim, and feel energized with endorphins. I could carry a baby within my uterus and birth a human being. I could soothe someone who is sick and help them feel safe and warm. I could eat food I like, and my body would digest it. My brain could read and learn and write and share. I could use my body and all of my senses to have sex with my lover and bring us both to ecstasy. I could touch my own body all on my own and bring myself to orgasmic joy. My body could genuinely work in unique ways.

What does your body do for you? What are the ways your body works for you every day? We are different in many ways. Some of us can't do the same things for many reasons, as we all don't look the same, but our bodies can do something to keep us alive, help us move and live, and allow us to love others.

Does this mean you will love the way your body looks? Not necessarily but appreciating the functions your body performs is the key to accepting your body as it is now, even if that acceptance leads to a change you want to make for your body to look different.

How is your relationship with your body? What are the things you tell yourself about how your body feels and moves, and functions? Notice your own brain patterns and the words you tell yourself. Pay attention to the feelings you have. Practice awareness and compassion for yourself as you are right now, even if you want your body to be different in some way.

Something shifted for me when I began to practice thanking my body. It felt silly at the time, and I wasn't clear what I was even doing. But I was tired of the self-hatred battle and wanted to feel better.

One afternoon, during a time of intense depression and self-loathing, I wrapped my arms around myself as I sat naked on my cold, hard bathroom floor. I told the different parts of my body, "Thank you for growing my babies. Thank you for digesting my food. Thank you for letting me hold someone and kiss and love. Thank you for letting me walk and run. Thank you for letting me see gorgeous sunsets and beautiful oceans. Thank you for the music I can listen to soothe my soul and the songs I can sing. Thank you for the ecstasy and the orgasmic bliss." I focused on each part of my body. I didn't miraculously become a perfect model of beauty as society says I should after that. However, something shifted inside me as I accepted that it was alright not to like a body part. It was acceptable to feel that something didn't belong. It was ok not to like the way my body looked and still appreciate what it has done for me.

We can feel the way we do about our bodies, and it is alright even to want them to feel or look different. Unfortunately, society has conditioned us to believe we should all look a certain way or love ourselves if we don't meet the standard.

Our bodies are not the problem. How society taught us to view our bodies is the real issue. We are not our bodies. The body we have is NOT who we are at our core. It has been our home for a time. We are allowed to feel at home in our bodies no matter what they look like, even if the parts of the body we have do not feel like home to us right now.

Even though I accept my body's functions and appreciate them, I may not love the way my breasts look and still want them to be different. I don't have to share society's view that my breasts are perfect because they fit society's standard of beauty. Instead, I can embrace the neutral position of gratitude for my body and the parts I own right now.

When my breasts change to how I want them to look, I will continue to be grateful for their function and the pleasure they bring me.

And maybe I will love the way they look, too.

Boudoir Is About Who You Are NOW

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sun, 10 Oct 2021 20:57:54 GMT

Boudoir session is about who you are now

I often remind my wife that it’s not helpful to look at the scale every day. Even with the reminder, it is hard for her to let go of checking her weight. But even though the numbers go up and down every day, it’s not like anybody who knows her looks at her differently. Chances are that pretty much nobody knows if she woke up heavier or lighter this morning.

Neither of us are from Utah. Back where we grew up in Europe people were very judgmental of the weight of other people. Even our own families, without realizing the nonsense and hurtful effects of it, would comment on our weight, whether it went up or down.

Our weight is a rollercoaster. Beauty, just like art, cannot be quantified. I do not treat or look at my wife differently when her weight changes daily. It is because I SEE HER. Her beauty and her soul is much deeper, inside of her. This is what makes all of us beautiful. It is US.

That’s why at Silk and Salt we always say that boudoir is about who you are and how you want to feel. The experience of being you up to this point right now, until that 1/160 ^th of a second it takes the shutter to close and open. One day you will look back and you will absolutely not worry about how much you weighed on the day of your photoshoot. But you will see and feel who you were at that moment; who you wanted to be; what you were feeling and what you wanted to experience. You will see growth, story, and beauty that transcends other things. Because your priorities will change, you will change. And you sure will be very glad that you have that memory of your journey saved for yourself forever.

Ogden, Utah, boudoir and intimate photography studio, 2021

Mat's boudoir session

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 15:53:59 GMT

Mat's boudoir shoot on the other side of the lens

I honestly wanted to do this for quite a while now. It is easy for me to make up excuses, like the fact that I already pose a lot during our boudoir sessions, or simply that I barely have any free time. Truth is that when I dig deeper into why I’ve been putting it off for a while now, I know that it is because I was making exactly the same excuses that we hear from you guys when you contact us.

“This is the worst shape I have ever been in”

“I really do not like my belly right now”

“Maybe next year after I get into at least a little better shape”

And then I told myself the same thing I tell you when you are doubting yourself, “These are the EXACT reasons why you should do it NOW.” And so I did!

When we were in Las Vegas in August I took workshop with one of my absolutely favorite boudoir photographers, Marco Ibanez. On top of being the master of our craft he also is an extremely cool and friendly person. We immediately thought to ask him if he has some time available and if he would be open to making a session for Pamela. We knew he doesn’t shoot men usually so I kept my hopes up but I wasn’t sure he would agree to taking some photos of me as well.

Thankfully Marco agreed and at the end of the day we did a mini boudoir session of me. And I have few things that I want to say.

First of all, I want to say how much we love you guys. We know how vulnerable you have to be to let someone take photos of you. And we appreciate the trust you put into us to the moon and back!

Secondly, of course I immediately became very self-conscious of all of my insecurities and my body overall. And in that moment I made a split second decision. I could either let that be my sole focus and let it shroud everything else, OR, I could put my energy into things that I wanted to happen. And it was magical! Rather than thinking about how I want to look in the photos, I decided to think about how I want to FEEL. I didn’t want to look insecure, weak, self-conscious, and scared. I wanted to feel like a badass, like a mafia boss, like a movie star. And holy moly, it worked!

There is something very magical in the process of making photographs. The unspoken connection between me and the photographer became the outlet for creation. These photographs did not exist but now we made them! And the world became richer because of it. Especially my world.

Thirdly, I just wanted to mention the reveal part. We also had to wait 2 weeks to see our photos, the same amount of time it takes us to prepare your reveal for you. It was hard to wait. Like VERY hard so I apologize to you all for making you wait, ha-ha. When the time came to see the photos, my excitement was through the roof but also some negative self-talk creeped in a little. I was afraid I would not like myself and I would hate my body. That’s when the second magical thing happened. First of all, the photos themselves were absolutely gorgeous (it is Marco, after all, and he delivered incredible quality). But there was something even better – the fact that even though I saw things I am not too happy about with my body right now, my mind and body focused on the feeling I felt while taking these photos and now looking at them I could very clearly feel them. I was unstoppable and in control, and I saw that every single time I looked at these photos. I love them!

big thank you to Marco Ibanez for taking these photographs! You can find his work here:

https://www.marcoibanezphotography.com/

WHY BLACK AND WHITE

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 15 Jun 2021 21:40:07 GMT

WHY BLACK AND WHITE?

I will be honest. When I was starting to learn and explore photography, I thought that black and white photos were created by people who did not know how to take a good photograph. I almost never converted my images to monochrome. I even remember a situation when Pamela asked me for some black and white photos for our website because all the images I uploaded were in color… and I told her that I would rather not because I did not think any of my color-less images were any good.

So how is it possible that you are sitting here on our website right now and pretty much all our boudoir photographs are in fact black and white? There is no short answer to it and no magical event that made me change my life by 180 degrees. Love for monochrome was very slowly infecting me on a subconscious level for quite some time.

I started to notice that all of my favorite photographers shoot in black and white pretty much exclusively. Peter Lindbergh, Vincent Peters, Helmut Netwon, Szymon Brodziak – all of them create either only black and white photographs or the vast majority of their body of work is black and white. Then also with time, as I was learning more about light (to me the most important thing in photography right next to your subject), I started to notice that when there is no color the eye must focus on other things, such as emotions, lighting, and texture.

I naturally became less interested in color because I noticed that very often color was taking attention away from my subjects. My photography is all about the person in front of me and our relationship at that moment and space when we are creating the image together. Color became an obstruction on my way to capturing the person in front of me.

Especially in boudoir, I always completely focus on the woman that decided to trust me to take her photographs. I think that was the final step for me on my journey to rediscovery of my art. I want my images to show them that they are strong, beautiful, in control, and confident not because of colors or other things but purely because of themselves and what is inside of them.

My love for black and white images culminated recently with the legendary Leica. Couple of months ago I saw a photo of their brand-new monochrome camera and I fell in love with it at first sight. It is a monochrome camera, which means that it captures images only in black and white. This camera both inspires and actually teaches me something new every single day.

Peter Lindbergh described it in the best way possible, I do not think I could put it in words any better:

“Although humans see reality in colour, for me, black and white has always been connected to the image's deeper truth, to its most hidden meaning.” – P. Lindbergh

I sincerely hope, that when you look at my photographs, you see the amazing women as the pieces of art that they are – and not just “pretty” pictures.

SILK + SALT PHOTOGRAPHY, UTAH BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHY STUDIO, OGDEN

Ms. Z | Boudoir Photo Shoot SLC, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 06 Apr 2021 01:18:00 GMT

Anonymous Boudoir

Sometimes the sexiest shots are the detail shots. This boudoir shoot was definitely one of the sexiest.

Check out more of our gallery HERE .

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Ms. M | Photoshoot Ogden, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 02 Apr 2021 00:11:31 GMT

A gift of boudoir

Ms. M gave her boudoir session as a gift for her husband. She wanted to surprise him so she hid her whereabouts on the day of her shoot and didn't tell him where they were going when it was time to view her gallery at her reveal. He knew something was up but had no clue what until he arrived at the studio and saw her welcome image on the monitor. Needless to say, he loved his surprise and wanted a huge piece of gallery art of his sexy wife to hang on his wall. <3 I love that guy. Check out her gorgeous gallery below!

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Ms. B | Odgen, Utah Boudoir Photoshoot

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 16:49:12 GMT

A gift for yourself

Boudoir photography isn't just sexy pictures. It's a form of self-expression, a way to reconnect with your sexuality and inner-strength. Like all of our clients, Ms. B walked away from her shoot feeling empowered and with a renewed sense of self. There's something about doing this vulnerable thing in your underwear in front of people you're just getting to know that makes you understand yourself better and helps you see yourself in a whole new light. Sure, Ms. B is a babe. But now she has evidence that she is.

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Ms. W | Ogden Boudoir Photoshoot

Mon, 22 Mar 2021 19:33:29 GMT

The Boudoir Mutual Appreciation Society

I don't even know how to begin to express how much all of us at Silk + Salt adore Ms. W! EJ and I first met her at a lunch that she won through a contest in our Facebook Group, the Salty Witches. She was so sweet and unassuming and grateful to go out with us for sushi. We liked her immediately. Then she scheduled a shoot with us..and it was fire!! She told all of her friends about us and four of them booked sessions! Apparently she adores us too and we are so very thankful. <3

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Bridal Boudoir Part Three

Wed, 17 Mar 2021 01:51:32 GMT

Let me tell you about one of my favorite sessions to photograph – bridal boudoir. ( If you missed Part One of this series, you can find that HERE . If you missed Part Two, you can find that HERE .

One of the things that inspires me the most about taking pictures is the documentary power of an image. The moment in time, to which you can always come back – in a week, a year, a decade or two…

One of the things that I hear the most, especially as people get older, is the fact that they regret not creating more tangible memories from their life.

Not only because they would love to revisit these moments that might have become very blurry with the passage of time, but also to show them to their grandkids. It is hard to think about investing for the future and it is even harder to understand the importance of investing in the future of your memories.

And they are always priceless. There are big moments in life and a wedding is one of them. It is easy to get lost in the preparation for the big day.

We all understand the importance of this moment and having a professional photographer for that day is a no-brainer. But there is something that gets lost easily in the mix of the planning and focusing on getting married. It is that priceless time right before it. The magic of this time is easily overshadowed by the excitement and counting days till you can finally officially say “yes”.

That is why bridal boudoir in my opinion is the most magical type of boudoir photography. Because it has the power to make you remember how beautiful you are and who you are.

This is not a selfish feeling – this a beautiful moment of clarity that helps you remember that there is also always “me” in “we”. And it is important to not forget about yourself completely.

There is also something very special to the brides that decide to photograph these moments in a more intimate setting. There is vulnerability, grace, beauty, optimism, and happiness – some of the most complicated emotions that are special to that time of your life. They help to create one-of-a-kind portraits that would be impossible to capture otherwise.

On the day of the wedding, it is difficult to find time for portraits. It is of course not impossible but having a bridal boudoir session allows you to be relaxed and take your time to create memories that you will love to come back to and even gift them to your significant other to share.

You don’t have to rush anywhere and you can be sure that you are going to document your veil, or even your wedding dress, in a beautiful and meaningful way.

Then, after many years, you can still come back to this moment. Open your album and relive the excitement and anticipation that was making you radiate so beautifully yet again.

Interested in a Bridal Boudoir Photo Session ? Contact us for a free consultation .

If you missed Part One of this series, you can find that HERE .

If you missed Part Two, you can find that HERE .

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Ms. H | Boudoir Photoshoot Salt Lake City

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Mon, 15 Mar 2021 00:30:02 GMT

Discovering beauty through boudoir: What does beauty mean to you?

"Being comfortable and confident in my body. It's a smile, a good laugh, freckle covered shoulders, enjoying the curves and scars that make me who I am."

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Bridal Boudoir Part Two

Sat, 13 Mar 2021 23:38:33 GMT

EJ's Bridal Boudoir Session If you missed Part One, click HERE

Anybody who has ever planned a wedding quickly comes to the realization that a wedding is seldom for the happy people in love, rather it becomes an opportunity for your mom to invite a friend she hasn't spoken to since high school, changing the times around for a twice-removed second cousin, in-laws who want the spotlight, and your sister to throw a fit about her bridesmaid dress.

One thing nobody should be able to take away from you: your style. Wear those shoes, glam up your face, hell, DON A CROWN. When I got married, it felt like very few decisions were mine alone to make.

That is why my biggest piece of advice to people getting married is: elope (but also have a Luxury Bridal Boudoir Experience). If you must have a ceremony & a wedding day, make sure you & your partner(s) are the center of attention any way you know how! Your style & flair are non-negotiable.

My wedding day was a day I would change everything about except actually getting married! So when the opportunity came to have a Bridal Boudoir Experience of my own on my three year anniversary, I was elated!

I didn't fit into my dress anymore... but I still fit into my belt, veil, and lingerie! Well, I had to get new panties and really squeeeeze into my bustier, but it worked! I got to do my hair how I wanted, wear my makeup how I wanted, and think about how much fun it was to marry the love of my life three years ago.

Pamela and Mateusz were there the whole time helping me feel & look beautiful, and I dare say I felt more beautiful then than I did on my actual wedding day!

When it was all over, I was left with images that perfectly captured me as a bride & gave me wonderful new memories of what it feels like to get married.

If you are getting married, or have an anniversary coming up, I cannot recommend this experience enough. It is all the fun of getting married with none of the stress!

See our bridal gallery HERE

Read Bridal Boudoir Part One HERE

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Ms. L | Boudoir Photoshoot

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sat, 13 Mar 2021 23:03:37 GMT

A Boudoir Angel in Angel Wings

Ms. L was ready to celebrate herself! She had taken some sexy selfies in the past but this was her first professional boudoir shoot and we were so honored she chose us for this experience! Not only did she rock the angel wings, but she brought her own rope for a little shibari boudoir. We learned so much about the art of Japanese bondage while trying our best to tie the ropes correctly!

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Ms. H | Ogden Boudoir Photoshoot

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 12 Mar 2021 22:47:09 GMT

Color, Light, Black + White

Ms. H is one of our favorite clients ever! The week of her shoot, Pamela came down with Covid-19 so we had to rent another studio because ours was infected with the plague. Luckily, it was just her style! And Pamela was thrilled to get to meet her a few weeks later at her image reveal. We had a blast shooting in a new place & it definitely got the creative juices flowing. Her boudoir session will absolutely be going down in Silk + Salt Hall of Fame!

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Ms. C | Boudoir Photo Shoot, SLC

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 11 Mar 2021 22:02:14 GMT

A Raven-haired Boudoir Beauty

Most of our clients come in nervous, but Ms. C came in confident and ready to take control of the room. She was ready for anything and she absolutely rocked the Honey Birdette featured in the third photo down. Enjoy her stunning boudoir shoot!

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Ms. J | Boudoir Photo Shoot, Ogden

Wed, 10 Mar 2021 22:03:39 GMT

Boudoir for every woman

This goddess is as intelligent as she is beautiful! Add to that her excellent taste in gin and I would dare say she is the epitome of womanhood. ;)

Ms. J | Boudoir Photo Shoot, SLC

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Tue, 09 Mar 2021 21:42:49 GMT

Wine Themed Boudoir Shoot

Ms. J loves wine the way Pamela loves Earl Grey Tea. That is to say, quite a lot. She asked if she could feature wine in her boudoir shoot and we said, "hells yes!"

"Silk and Salt Photography was awesome. They had my favorite music playing and they made me feel beautiful!❤️ It was such a fun experience!"

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Ms. A | Boudoir Photography, Ogden, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Mon, 08 Mar 2021 22:07:59 GMT

A boudoir testimonial:

"While I had been very selective in my choice for boudoir photos, and knew the quality of photos from Silk + Salt was impressive, I was still not prepared for how amazing the whole experience would be. Talk about going above and beyond and thinking of every little detail! From the planning and calls leading up to the day of the shoot, (including the offer to go shopping with you to help you pick out the best pieces) and dialing in what each person is wanting from their experience. To the personalized playlist and refreshments waiting for you. Every person on their team is incredibly talented. Hair and makeup was AMAZING! EJ pulled off exactly what I told her I wanted! Pamela made sure I got everything I hoped for from my shoot and took care of all the little details. Mateusz’s seriously incredibly eye and talent blew me away. And each one of them made it so fun the entire time. It was such an incredible experience they completely tailor to each individual. Seriously surpassed all my hopes and expectations! Such an incredibly empowering experience!"

Ms A | Boudoir Photo Shoot, Salt Lake City | Silk+Salt Photography

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sun, 07 Mar 2021 21:13:34 GMT

Cowgirl Boudoir

Ms. A is the most glamorous cowgirl I've ever met. We usually discourage props at boudoir shoots, but her hat spoke so strongly to who she was, as did the lilies that we couldn't say no!

Ms. B | Boudoir Photo Shoot, Salt Lake City UT

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Sat, 06 Mar 2021 20:52:32 GMT

Boudoir for Every Woman

Oh, those eyes!! Ms. B has eyes that pierced your soul. Her boudoir shoot was a celebration of female strength; she is as confident and strong as she looks. It was an honor to spend the day with her.

Bridal Boudoir Part One

Tue, 23 Feb 2021 18:58:22 GMT

Bridal Boudoir: the perfect wedding gift for yourself and your partner

You’ve spent the last year, or at least the last several months, planning your wedding down to the final detail. The dress, the flowers, the venue, the photographer, the guest list. You’re simultaneously exhausted and excited. And now it’s time to pamper yourself and create a stunning gift for your partner, too!

Yes, you’ll have plenty of images from your wedding day, stunning images if you hired the right photographer. But a bridal boudoir session is an entirely different kind of experience!

You won’t feel rushed or nervous (well, maybe a little nervous, but that will go away super quickly) and you won’t have to worry about anyone or anything else! We’ve got everything covered, even your anxiety!

First we’ll schedule your pre-shoot planning meeting to make sure you’re fully prepared for your shoot. We’ll discuss what artistic style you’d prefer, talk about your hair and makeup look, and plan your outfits.

On the day of your shoot, our professional hair and makeup artist will glam you up while you listen to a personalized music playlist, snack on a little hors d'oeuvres plate, look through your client gift of exclusive goodies, and drink a little wine. We’ll chat and tell jokes and basically have the best girls’ day ever!

When you look like the goddess you always knew you were, we will check out the client closet to see if there’s anything you’d like to borrow and pick your first outfit.

Mateusz will give you his pep talk and then guide you through each and every pose and facial expression. He likes to demonstrate a lot of the poses himself, which is our favorite thing ever!!

Pamela will be at your beck and call. She’ll fetch you more wine and make sure your hair is the right place for every shot.

About ten minutes into your shoot, all your nerves will melt away, you’ll feel the wind in your hair from the wind machine, see the pop of the flash go off, and you’ll start to channel Beyoncé!! Yaess, Queen!!!

Then we’ll schedule your image reveal and ordering session, where you’ll come back to the studio to see all your edited images in a slideshow and place your order for albums, gallery art, and more.

A lot of our clients have told us that they had more fun on their shoot day than on their wedding day.

Not surprising, really. Who wouldn’t want to be the star of the show and have no one else to worry about?

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Read the next post in this series here: Bridal Boudoir Part Two

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Our Inspirations - Part 2 - Vincent Peters

Tue, 09 Feb 2021 09:56:48 GMT

Our Inspirations - Part 2 - Vincent Peters

I think that when looking at Vincent Peters’ photos it is extremely easy to understand what drew me to them – the LIGHT.

Peters himself often says that light is the main protagonist of his photographs. Yes, he shoots beautiful models and famous stars, but he always thinks about the light first and then puts his subjects in it. His photographs are often described as “cinematic”, but he himself calls them “theatrical” rather than cinematic. His lighting, even though it makes people think of the golden era of Hollywood, is based on the techniques used in the stage lighting. Strong constant lights, no flashes. Many lights on set, starting with 3 light setups but going up in numbers easily to 5 or more.

Next ingredient to his style is the storytelling. The photograph must have more context to it and it needs to be a moment within a bigger story. That is yet another reason why movies immediately come to mind when looking at his work. There is a movie indeed that Vincent brings up when talking about his inspirations and that movie is an old Italian film called “Bicycle Thieves”. Of course after learning that I had to order this movie for myself and watch it, while trying to see what had such an impact on him.

He is not interested in showing the reality. He wants to tell stories and he wants to do it from his point of view. Whenever he shoots somebody, Peters is not really interested in showing them, as much as he is interested in portraying them through his eyes. Mold them and their environment to his vision, not the other way around.

He still shoots on an old-school medium format camera. Vast majority of his personal work is done in black and white.

Vincent Peters' work is the one I find myself drawn back to over and over. I look at it almost daily, trying to dissect what kind of lighting he used in a particular photograph and what kind of story it tells. This level of mastery in lighting is the one I always strive for and he is a constant source of motivation to think about the light every time I click the shutter button.

Our Inspirations - Part 1 - Peter Lindbergh

Mon, 01 Feb 2021 02:57:38 GMT

Our Inspirations - Part 1 - Peter Lindbergh

*I can talk about Peter Lindbergh forever so this post will probably require the second part on its own*

This first post in this series is perhaps the most difficult to write. I was debating whether I should maybe leave Peter Lindbergh for my last post, but I very quickly decided that Peter should be first. There never was any other way, he always had to be first.

Peter Lindbergh is definitely one of the most famous photographers in history and his name will always be talked about whenever a topic of fashion or women in photography will be discussed. Just trying to write something about him I can feel the extraordinary atmosphere of his photographs.

He was one of the very first photographers I started to research, get inspired by, consumed by. I started my photography very late (especially considering the fact that in music starting later than age 5 is considered to be late) because I was about 25 (thankfully in photography age doesn’t really matter at all). Unfortunately, the reason I’ve heard about Lindbergh was due to his death in 2019. As soon as I saw some of his photographs in the articles talking about his life and work, my brain immediately felt familiarity. Not only because subconsciously I have seen some of these images before in various places but because these photographs felt like “home”. I cannot completely explain this FEELING but they felt right, like they were made to feed my soul.

Since that moment I ordered my first book of his work titled “A Different Vision on Fashion Photography”. That book literally changed me. It opened a door I was looking for for a long time, but I could never find. I felt like I finally started to dig deeper into the meaning of my passion for photography and now I started to look much further past all the technicalities of photography, and I was at last staring at the soul of it.

It is very difficult to talk about the feelings and emotions that cannot be fully expressed with words but it’s just like with love – it’s impossible to describe like a shape of a pear (to quote my favorite writer Sapkowski). There are things about his style though that can be captured by the words. Characteristics of his photographs, which when put together, transcend photography, and become art.

The core of Lindbergh’s work, and the most important thing to him is AUTHENTICITY. He despises photomanipulation and editing. He loves all the wrinkles, “imperfections”, creases, and true emotions of his subjects. To him they tell a story of the person in front of him and make them even more unique. Truth is of outmost importance to him and that is why he never edits his photos beyond basic conversion to black and white and some contrast adjustment. The only work of his that was edited was done by the magazine editors when they would disregard his direction.

“Heartless retouching should not be the chosen tool to represent women in the beginning of this century. […] When you can sign on to the idea that there cannot be beauty without truth, the answer is clear. How crazy and unreal is the idea of erasing all your experiences from your face”.

He hates makeup. He is in fact anti makeup. He does not care about the clothes either. It is all about the woman. One of my absolute favorite photographs of all time, where models laugh at the beach, was so controversial at the time for fashion magazines that Vogue originally deemed it “unpublishable”. Back in the day the model did not matter – it was their job to present the clothes and nothing more. Peter brought the humanity into models and made them the centerpieces in his photographs. He showed their personalities and as a biproduct of doing so he created the very first supermodels. But how is it possible to really show them in such a way that is authentic and still makes them the most beautiful? Well the answer is actually pretty simple, and it is… love. Peter said himself that he falls in love with all of his subjects. For the time they work together he is completely in love with them. Because of this he is able to care so much about them and tries to capture them like they are his entire world. That is also one of the reasons why women love to be photographed by him so much – they feel the outmost respect towards them from him and they know that he genuinely cares about them and how comfortable they are. Actresses and models would always happily admit that while all photographers would do more “beauty” style of lighting on them as they age, Peter would do the opposite – use more shadows, negative fill, and contrast to show their beauty in their experience as human beings.

Lindbergh does not really pose his subjects. His inspiration comes from silent German movies. He is a story teller and he lets people act while he shapes, molds, and finally tells their story. Because of that movement is pivotal in his photos. This is what truly makes his photographs feel “real” – they simply have life in them, even if a person is actually just sitting down and posing.

There are dozens of other things I could try to dissect about Lindbergh but I want to just briefly mention two more things that immediately drew me to his photographs. First is the fact that he shoots almost exclusively for black and white. I personally started with only color and barely converted my work to black and white. I thought that black and white was “lazy” and it was something people would do when they did not understand color theory. Then with time I finally started to grow and subconsciously I found myself converting more and more of my photographs to black and white. The reason for it is perfectly summarized by Peter in a short sentence:

“Black and white gets under your skin while color stays on the surface”.

To me, black and white photography takes away one of the main things that fight for your attention when you look at the photograph. Without colors the are no more “pretty pictures” – entire attention is not focused on the subject and their story and purpose within the frame. It helps you to focus on emotions and personality, rather than on the “prettiness” of the photograph.

The second thing that I completely associate myself with is the lack of smiles in the photographs of Lindbergh. Yet again, it is best to quote his own words because he describes it exactly the way I feel about “smiley” photos:

“Laughter is mundane. Laughter has zero value. There is so much to see in faces that are not laughing. When someone laughs, that is all you see”.

That level of authenticity that Peter Lindbergh represented with his work and his life is something that I really connect with, but I also have difficult time applying. I am aware of the power photography possesses and just like everybody else, I am a subject to the conditioning of commercial photography and advanced retouching techniques. It is almost as if I subconsciously must edit the photo even if I love the way it looks straight out of the camera. I also am afraid that my client/subject will not be happy with the way they look because we are all so conditioned to look for imperfections and compare ourselves to the ads, young models, and photoshopped photographs.

It takes a tremendous amount of integrity to remain truly authentic. But this is the biggest lesson I learned from Peter Lindbergh and the one I carry in my heart every time I click the shutter. It not only makes me a better photographer (versus retoucher/ digital artist, like majority of new photographers seem to be in my eyes) but most importantly keeps me on track to truly care about the people I photograph and think about THEM and not about the photograph itself.

(attached photos are some of the examples of his work and at the end I also am attaching some of my photographs)

Ms. W | Boudoir Photo Shoot Ogden, UT

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 22 Jan 2021 00:41:49 GMT

Blonde Bombshell Boudoir

Ms. W is a dear friend of mine, so getting to be a part of her boudoir shoot was such a treat! Since I know you're wondering, yes, that is all her real hair and her natural color and yes, she is as sweet as she is beautiful.

Ms. M | Boudoir Photo Shoot SLC, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Thu, 21 Jan 2021 03:15:09 GMT

Musical Boudoir Beauty

Ms. M is not only ridiculously photogenic and sweet, she is also a very talented singer/songwriter. She came to us on her birthday for a birthday boudoir shoot, which I think is the best gift you could give yourself. ;)

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Ms. T | Boudoir Photo Shoot, Salt Lake City

Wed, 20 Jan 2021 03:07:14 GMT

ReBride Boudoir Shoot

This beautiful young woman recently got married but hated her wedding pictures, so she decided to do a boudoir shoot to commemorate this exciting time in her life! Check out her stunning gallery below!

Ms. M | Boudoir Photo Shoot Ogden, Utah

Wed, 13 Jan 2021 04:37:36 GMT

A Boudoir Shoot with A German Goddess

In Germany, Ms. M was always considered too much; too tall. But in the U.S. she is hailed as a goddess! We loved working with this German Goddess. Once again, we can clearly see that EVERY body is divine! EVERY body is sexy.

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Ms. S | Boudoir Photo Shoot SLC, Utah

Mon, 11 Jan 2021 21:29:30 GMT

Love, laughter, and boudoir

This boudoir session was full of laughter. The word "laugh" is in Ms. S's name and she was giggling with us for hours. It was hard to get a picture of her with a straight face! But like so many women, she hasn't felt sexy in quite some time and we set out to convince her that she is a sexy goddess. Just look at how beautiful she is!

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Ms. N | Boudoir Photo Shoot, Ogden Utah

Sun, 10 Jan 2021 20:47:27 GMT

Cinderella's Boudoir Shoot

So we had this gorgeous piece from Honey Birdette in our Client Closet and we were just dyyyyyying to shoot a client in it, but so far no one was the right fit. But then Ms. N waltzed in and just like Cinderella, the piece fit perfectly!! And she looked smokin' hot in it too!

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Ms. A | Boudoir Photo Shoot Ogden, Utah

Sat, 09 Jan 2021 19:17:02 GMT

A Heavenly Fitness Instructor

Ms. A is one of those people who is annoyingly positive and encouraging and who keeps insisting that you can do more! In other words, a fitness instructor. But her smile is infectious and she is just as much an angel in the wings as out of them. We loved creating a special boudoir shoot just for her.

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Ms. C | Boudoir Photo Shoot Salt Lake City

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Fri, 08 Jan 2021 20:28:36 GMT

Boudoir Photo Shoot

Ms. C is as colorful as her images. She came to us knowing exactly what she wanted after doing days of research watching America's Top Model. I'm joking, but she seriously did want that magazine cover shot and I think we got it. Tell me what you think ;)

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Ms. V | Boudoir Photo Shoot SLC, Utah

Thu, 07 Jan 2021 22:37:25 GMT

Such an Angel

We almost didn't do the sweater set from Ms. V's boudoir session but I can't tell you how glad I am we did! It was my favorite! And boy did she rock those angel wings!!

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Angel Gallery

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MS. K | Boudoir Photo Shoot Ogden, Utah

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 22:15:01 GMT

Boudoir Over 40

Ms K has one of those jobs that makes it necessary to remain anonymous. Nevertheless I can tell you that she has had five children- FIVE! And is as smart as she is beautiful. We were honored to work with her!

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Ms. K | Boudoir Photo Shoot Ogden

HELLO@SILKANDSALTPHOTO.COM — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 03:20:47 GMT

Colorful and Creative Boudoir Shoot

Ms. K looked like she was moving in when she arrived for her boudoir shoot. She brought three suitcases and a couple of bags. We definitely would have been happy for her to stay forever, but she would have had nothing to wear but lingerie. ;) She was a veteran at boudoir and came to us with tons of ideas. We had so much fun bringing them to life!!

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Ms. C | Ogden, Utah Boudoir Photo Shoot

Tue, 27 Oct 2020 22:26:07 GMT

Magestic AF

Ms. C's unicorn undies pretty much sum her up. She came to us because her therapist recommended she do something for herself that would help her see how beautiful she is. I'm a little jealous because my therapist has never prescribed something this cool. Obviously she rocked her session and it's hard to tell, but she did it in brand new braces! What a badass!

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MS. S | OGDEN, UTAH Boudoir Photo Shoot

Sat, 10 Oct 2020 18:05:44 GMT

Oxygen is Sexy

What an absolute honor it was to work with Ms. S! She wanted to do a boudoir shoot for her 60th birthday and she asked if she could incorporate her oxygen tank in some of her images. It is a part of her as she can't go anywhere without it. Mateusz got so many gorgeous images of her with her oxygen and one of them even won an award for the boudoir division of WPPI in 2020. Here's the link for that: WPPI AWARDS. Scroll down until you see the link for boudoir. We loved showing Ms. S how sexy she is just the way she is, oxygen tank and all.

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Ms. K | Salt Lake City Boudoir Photo Shoot

Wed, 07 Oct 2020 19:30:05 GMT

An Angel Session for an Angel

Ms. K is older than she looks. Believe it or not, she's a mom and has worked in medicine for years. So she is just as much of an angel on the inside as she looks like an angel on the outside. We were so happy she wanted to do an angel session! It was a perfect fit for her and she couldn't have been more deserving!

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Ms. A | Ogden, Utah Boudoir Photo Shoot

Mon, 24 Aug 2020 16:56:32 GMT

The one I wasn't there for...

We loved having the opportunity to work with Ms. A in our home studio in Ogden. Sadly, I had strep throat the day we shot her boudoir session, so while I was in quarantine feeling sorry for myself, Ms. A and Mateusz were having the best time creating this incredible work of art! I love that it turned out so good, but also, it seems like Mateusz can get by just fine without me which I'm really bummed about! Hahaha! Of course, I got to work with her at her reveal the week after her shoot and I just adore her! She works a typically masculine job and she said she rarely gets to dress up and feel feminine. It's hard to believe because her session turned out soooo sexy! Enjoy a small selection from Ms. A's shoot!

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Jillian | Ogden, Utah Boudoir Photo Shoot

Tue, 11 Aug 2020 00:09:49 GMT

Live boudoir photo shoot reveal!

Jillian is a beautiful human soul. She allowed us to record her entire boudoir photo shoot LIVE and post it all over the internet so that you can see what the whole Silk + Salt experience is like from beginning to end! We are so grateful for her! Watch Parts 1 and 2 of her shoot and then see the gorgeous results below!!

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MS. N | OGDEN, UT BOUDOIR Photo Shoot

Wed, 27 May 2020 17:52:43 GMT

Movie starlet reincarnated...

Ms. N most certainly has movie star potential. The camera just loves her! From her first pose to her last, her boudoir shoot was magically cinematic.

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MS. K | SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH

Tue, 19 May 2020 22:41:55 GMT

Air Force Wife Redefines Sexy

Like a lot of Air Force wives, Ms. K hasn't seen her husband in awhile. She wanted to surprise him while he's away and give them a way to connect long-distance. The answer? A boudoir photo shoot featuring his uniform jacket! The images turned out soooo sexy and we learned that camo can be hot!!

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COUPLES BOUDOIR SHOOT | SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH

Thu, 14 May 2020 19:33:25 GMT

Couples Boudoir

We love shooting all kinds of couples! (And throuples, and polycules!) It's such a fun way to reestablish that connection and add some spice to the relationship. Plus, you can pull that album out any time and peruse it, you know, just because. ; ) If your partner is a little shy about getting in front of the camera for sexy photos, they are not alone! We promise they will have an amazing time but if you need help convincing, just contact us. We will walk them through the whole experience so they can make an educated decision. You can schedule a free consult with Pamela HERE .

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MS. K | OGDEN, UTAH

Wed, 13 May 2020 18:45:58 GMT

Blonde, blue-eyed beauty...

Ms. K's boudoir shoot was one of my favorite ever! Do I say that too much? Hahaha! It's true, though! Ms. K was so fun to work with: incredibly open to creative ideas and happy to collaborate. The outcome? An inspired, provocative photo shoot that we are insanely proud of.

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ENGAGEMENT SESSION + BOUDOIR = MAGIC

Tue, 12 May 2020 19:52:59 GMT

A celebration of love...

When Mr. M contacted me about shooting engagement portraits for him and his new fiancé, I slyly suggested we combine their engagement session with a couples boudoir session. I had talked to Ms. H before and I knew she was dying to do a boudoir shoot, so it would make the perfect engagement present! Thankfully, he agreed and Ms. H loved the surprise gift. Their shoot was incredibly sweet and tender but also hot as hades.

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MS A. | SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Tue, 12 May 2020 00:56:07 GMT

An Angel Session for an Angel

I've heard good girls go to heaven, but bad girls bring heaven to you. ; ) I won't say which type of girl Ms. A is, but I will say that we absolutely adored working with her. She is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside and the angel wings were very fitting for her boudoir session.

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THE GENTLEMEN'S CLUB

Fri, 08 May 2020 17:10:12 GMT

Calendar Girls: the ultimate group boudoir shoot

When a local gentlemen's club asked us if we could create a boudoir calendar for their dancers, we were over the moon! Mateusz suggested we give it a vintage vibe and I just love how sexy and sultry it turned out! It is my honor to introduce... the 2020 calendar girls!!

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COUPLES BOUDOIR | OGDEN BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Wed, 06 May 2020 23:27:09 GMT

OGDEN BOUDOIR COUPLES PHOTO SHOOT

Explore the intimate artistry of Silk+Salt Photography with our exclusive Utah couples boudoir sessions. Capturing the essence of your connection, our skilled photographers specialize in couples boudoir photography. Immerse yourselves in a unique experience, celebrating love and sensuality in a tasteful and empowering manner. Book your session now and create timeless memories that beautifully reflect the passion between you and your partner. Elevate your love story with Silk+Salt Photography's expert touch in couples boudoir, where every frame tells a story of connection, desire, and shared intimacy.

Angel's First Boudoir Shoot

Sat, 02 May 2020 19:57:29 GMT

Angel talks about her first ambassador shoot

My first Silk and Salt blog post as an ambassador. I have no idea what to write. I have struggled. I want to be uplifting. I want to tell you how much I love being an ambassador. I want to show you how confident I am!

I just can't. Not like that. I am not a "model" I am not flawless. I am not always confident. Actually, when I became a Silk + Salt ambassador. I quickly went from excitement to fear to nerves. Hold the phone. I just agreed to take these beautiful artistic boudoir photographs AND I am going to post them on line AND I am going to help represent this empowering, sexy, badass brand? Um, What?

Leading up to my first shoot, working with Pamela, Matsuesz and Emily was a breeze. They make you feel so relaxed. I had a clear idea of what the day would be. I knew when to show up. I knew what to bring. I knew how the day would work.

The week before I did some shopping. I found cute heels. Fishnets. I also found an amazing sugar coconut scrub and spent the weekend buffing, shaving, scrubbing a million times. I put a gloss on my hair. Laid in the tub. Did an amazing facial mask until my face was smooth and fresh. I practiced weird smiles and demur looks in the mirror. Trying to look relaxed when the butterflies were going crazy saying I could just say something came up and I can't do this.

But that is not the way to live. So I grabbed life by the ass. I woke up the day of the shoot feeling fine. I had some coffee. I double checked my bags and off I went. I blasted some sexy music. Sang at the top of my lungs. Pulled up the studio. And..... sat in my truck for 20 minutes with my best friend on the phone. I am not doing this. I was nervous! I am trusting someone else to do my hair and makeup. I don’t know how to pose. The other ambassadors are amazing. But they are so gorgeous. How can I do this? After a stern talking to and a promise of whiskey. I finally went in.

Pamela greeted me with her sweet smile and a hug. I went off to see EJ. We talked about how I usually do my makeup and I told her honestly to do whatever she wanted. I trusted her. She was great. We chatted as she was working on my make up. I talked with Pamela and the other ambassadors. My nerves were still there but I felt comfortable. Then I put on my fishnets, my cute booty panties, and a corset. Took a deep breath and went to start my session. We started pretty easy. I was given some great directions. I made jokes. Because thats what I do when I am nervous. Mateusz showed me how to pose. He would tell me when I was doing great. He showed me some shots and I was blown away. That awkward angle I stood at with my booty pushed out and my hips in another direction with my back arched? Hello curves! I was feeling reserved at first but it is like a siren was brought out and I was ready for this. I was smiling. I was listening. I felt like I was meant to be this gorgeous vixen taking these amazing photos. It felt like a million photos were taken. I was hoping for just a handful of good ones. I packed up, hugged everyone and headed home with an extra bounce in my step.

Then the sneak peeks came in. Hello Beautiful! That was me!! I fell in love with myself a bit more with each one. They were all amazing. Seeing each new one gave me a little thrill. I saw myself differently in every pose. I learned to embrace the things I always tried to hide. Each session I still feel nervous, don’t get me wrong. But I also feel empowered. Stronger and so damn sexy too.

xoxo, Angel

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Same girl, different stages of life...

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 22:40:03 GMT

Happiness is not a number on a scale

Something I want to share with you is about how YOU deserve to celebrate your body in all different times of life. I don’t know how many times I have heard people say (especially women) I will take sexy photos when I drop the baby weight, I will go on vacation after I have dropped 10 pounds, I’ll buy that dream dress when I lose weight.. Do you realize what is happening here? When we do this, we are putting our happiness or reason to celebrate ourselves in the future.. guess what? The future will always be in the future, and when we don’t lose that weight that means we will never be happy because we have attached our happiness to a number on a scale. Let that sink in a little bit.

I am not saying you can’t have goals, goals are great and help motivate us to push ourselves and work harder than we are in our current situation. BUT we also need to make sure we are taking time in between those goals and we are appreciating ourselves for who we are right now.

I want to share with you a couple pictures of myself and give you a little background with them... No, I am not perfect about accepting myself throughout all my stages of life, but I have been aware of it for some time now and It hurts me when I hear other women talk about themselves the way I have talked about myself. I want to take some accountability and hopefully shed some light to help those reading this maybe think twice before saying negative things about their bodies... or help you appreciate what you have right now even if you want to be better, because the more negatively we talk about ourselves the more that will come true. We attract what we think about, so changing how we think can help us to stop judging those extra pounds on our hips and instead look deeper to why the pounds are there. To trying to understand why we have gained or lost weight and being kind to ourselves, having compassion for ourselves and supporting ourselves as we would do for a friend. So let me share a couple little stories with you.

This photo was me pregnant with my first child. I now have 3 and man has that changed my body sooo much. Luckily I was very blessed to have such amazing pregnancies physically; my body held them very well and I was able to be pretty physically active during them all. The emotional trauma is what you can’t see that affected me to have some major Post-Partum Anxiety and Depression. After each baby I struggled so bad with accepting myself as a mom, as a sexual being, as wife, as an individual, my bodily changes, the anxiety that now was controlling my life. I am so grateful for this photo and others I forced myself to take because it reminds me of what I have been through and how strong I am because of it. I am so grateful for the opportunity to have been able to be pregnant three times and my children are worth what I had to grow through- physically and mentally/emotionally to get to where I am today.

Second photo, this was after all my babies and I had reached a physical weight I had never been able to achieve. I was working my ass off in the gym and the kitchen.. I had support with a gym partner, I felt I had my life together, I had changed things in my life and was finally living life the way I wanted. I still suffer from anxiety and depression quite heavily but I had started therapy and was learning how to accept these parts of me and how to live with it instead of fighting it. Life was still hard but I was so proud of myself for reaching a goal of 134 pounds in 2019..

Third and fourth photo are some of my recent photos here in 2020. Right after all my hard work I did in 2019 I was only at that place for a short amount of time before life hit me again pretty hard and started affecting my state of mind. I have gone up in weight to 170 pounds, the heaviest I have ever been without being pregnant.. and I struggle sometimes with being too hard on myself and only seeing the pounds, until I either get reminded by amazing friends or remember myself that I need to look within and see what is going on. I didn’t gain this weight for fun or on purpose or on accident, either. I gained this weight because my body is trying to support me however it could as I was working on my emotional health. I lost motivation to dance, to workout in general. Depression hit me before Covid was around and that has only made it worse. I’m surprised I even got myself to take these photos, but am so grateful I did because I can see I am still beautiful and I can still be sexy and confident even when I didn’t think I could.

One day as I look back I’ll see this as such a huge turning point because I do know that I deserve to be celebrated at every stage in life.. My body is trying to support my spirit however it can and for me that’s extra weight.. So as I am emotionally healing I know that it will be hard for me to focus on my physical body but also know that I will be able to get back to a better balance in life after this healing is completed. For now I will make sure to appreciate me right now, and make sure I thank my body for carrying me through this time of life and how much I love and accept myself at every stage of life... not just the good.

I hope today after you have read this that you can look at yourself right now in the mirror and understand yourself a little better. Ask yourself why you are in this state right now... are you underweight? Overweight? Drinking more? Working out more? Watching TV all day? Working excessively? Whatever it is you're doing that might be more of a way to cope with things ask yourself why... Try to understand yourself more today... and then have compassion for yourself and what you need to do to help you get through life right now.. and then if things are unhealthy, make small plans to get you back on track but appreciate yourself through each step along the way. If you need help with a plan or seeing beneath the surface don’t feel alone, there are so many people that can help... you just need to ask.

Take time for you today.

Take time to say "I love You" in the mirror.

Take time to understand yourself a little deeper today.

Take time to appreciate yourself. Take time to celebrate yourself.

Take time to take accountability for yourself .

Take time to make goals.

Don’t ever forget you deserve to be happy and celebrated...

Until next time ladies

xoxo Tara

Utah Boudoir Photographer

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6 Easy Steps to Prepare for your Boudoir Session

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 02:11:27 GMT

Steps to Prepare for your Boudoir Session

Don't worry... we got you, boo.

While the majority of our clients come from Ogden or the Salt Lake City area for their boudoir photo shoot experience, a lot of people who come to us have to drive across the state of Utah or even fly in. Because of that, we really wanted to give you some helpful tips on what to do before your boudoir shoot.

#1: Pick up to 5 outfits (or don't!)

We've got your back! We do realize that this might be the most involved and intimidating part of the preparation for your session, so we have a huge client closet that you can borrow from! Please don't bring anything if you don't want to. But if you do, you probably have some things in your closet already. You can never go wrong with these 3 outfits: bodysuits, sweaters + jeans, and simple panties + bras. This experience is all about you having the time of your life, though. Outfits shouldn’t be a thing to stress over. If you feel like it, you can also request to take artistic nudes or implied nude photos. This is your experience and there's no wrong way to do it!

#2: Meet with us over Zoom for a pre-shoot planning consult

We want you to have one of a kind of experience. That means we customize everything personally for you. This, of course, includes your photo session. Talk with us and help us out to tailor the images we create to be special for you. This way you will have peace of mind that we are on the same page with everything and you don’t have to wonder what style of images we will be shooting.

#3: EAT BREAKFAST

I will repeat that, because we love you and we know the importance of this – eat a good breakfast, preferably your favorite one! �� You do not need to stress over looking slimmer. You are beautiful and we will help you see it. If you are afraid of having a bloated tummy that day or being out of shape, absolutely don’t worry about it. We know what we are doing and how to pose you and show your best angles. The most important thing is to be healthy and in a good mood! It’s ok if you forget to grab a bite, though – we will have wine and snacks waiting for you in our studio that you can eat while you are getting pampered by our hair and makeup artist.

#4: Do a few easy stretches before you leave home

Boudoir sessions can be a workout, especially with us. We will make you give your all at your session. You will most probably feel a bit sore the next day and all it means is that you have done a great job! We will be arching, popping the hip to the side, tilting the head, standing on your toes and other things. Just do few very easy stretches, especially for your neck, back, and legs. If you are not very flexible, no reason to worry though – we prefer to do natural looking poses so we won’t be doing anything extreme (unless this is something that you requested) but it will definitely help you to feel more stretched before the session.

#5: Try to get good sleep before your session

This might be a no-brainer but a reminder won't hurt. We want you to enjoy the experience and good sleep will make you feel more energetic and relaxed. Go to bed an hour early and finish all preparations before you go to bed so you don’t have anything to do right before you have to leave for your session.

#6: Trust us

We know what we are doing! We will know exactly how to pose you and make this the most amazing boudoir experience you could have. You do not need to do any research on posing – we will pose you even if you have never in your life been in front of a professional camera. And YES, that includes directing your expressions too! This is one of the biggest concerns we hear and you will be happy to know that we will show you how to "pose" your expressions as well. On top of that, I will be showing you everything on myself so that you can just mirror me (see images above). Feel free to have a good laugh at my expense! Everyone does!

These are the 6 most common things we hear people asking us about prior to their sessions. Hopefully I've answered questions you might have had, too. If there is something else you're wondering about, you can always email, text, or call us. Contact Us! We are here for you and we are very excited for you to have this amazing and empowering experience!

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MS. T | OGDEN, UTAH BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 00:37:16 GMT

A badass beauty...

Ms. T is one of those women who is deceptively bold. She seems shy and demure but then she walks into her boudoir photo shoot with a pair of handcuffs, declaring she's doing most of this thing topless. Plus she's got that knack for being stylish without trying too hard and an absolutely killer smile. I know. It's hard not to be envious. <3

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MATERNITY + COUPLES BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Wed, 22 Apr 2020 14:45:58 GMT

Boudoir Shoot | Salt Lake City, UT

What to do when the sweetest couple gets pregnant but mom doesn't feel sexy or beautiful anymore? A maternity couples boudoir shoot, of course! This was all shot in a studio we rented just south of Salt Lake City. Naturally we love our home studio, but Mateusz likes to mix it up as well and challenge himself. You can see here that he is a master of studio photography. The things he can do with light always amaze me! And it doesn't hurt when he has such lovely subjects to work with, too.

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MS. L | SLC Boudoir Photo Shoot

Tue, 21 Apr 2020 19:03:30 GMT

The classic beauty...

Ms. L possesses the kind of sophisticated beauty that most of us only dream of. While most clients experience a ton of nerves before their boudoir shoot, she exuded confidence from the moment she walked through the door. I think that made her all the more beautiful. After all, what's sexier in a woman than confidence?

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WHY I LOVE BOUDOIR

Fri, 17 Apr 2020 03:42:20 GMT

Boudoir transformed me. It will transform you, too...

I had the idea of starting a boudoir photography business the month before I turned forty. Forty was a big deal for me, though I’m still not sure why. I mean, it’s entirely arbitrary that that number has any meaning. But it felt…older. Not old. But definitely not young anymore. It felt as though my youth went out for cigarettes and never came back. I did not see it coming…even though I knew it was coming for 39 years.

The year before, I had finished my bachelor’s degree (finally!) with a minor in entrepreneurship. I had no idea what I wanted to be when I grew up. Then I met Mateusz. A mutual friend had introduced us at a party and then that same mutual friend posted a photo session that she and Mateusz had done together. It was a gorgeous boudoir shoot! I could tell this guy was an artist with insane talent; so it was no surprise that when I reached out to him, he was already planning on starting a photography business. Mateusz wanted to shoot weddings, but I wanted to convince him to specialize in boudoir and partner with me.

Why boudoir? Boudoir photography has the unique characteristic of highlighting both our strength and vulnerability. It is a female-focused industry and I absolutely love the opportunity to create a vehicle for the empowerment of women. There’s something so brave about stripping down to your skivvies and allowing an artist to photograph you.

I haven’t met a single client who didn’t feel nervous about their shoot. It’s a little like doing your wedding day all over again, but in your underwear. But by the time our clients leave, they are changed people. All their fear flew out the window ten minutes into their shoot and now they are bold, daring, confident, intrepid!

When they come in for their image reveal two weeks later they get to relive the day all over again, but this time with the knowledge that they are brave, badass babes. This is my absolute favorite part of the job. There is usually a host of strong emotions when clients see their images for the first time, but I especially love it when they cry. “She can see it,” I think. “She can see who she truly is! She sees how beautiful she is!” Then we’re crying together and we’re BFFs because that’s how women do.

Everyone deserves to feel beautiful. EV-ER-Y-ONE. AND sexy…and worthy of being pampered. I feel passionately about changing the way we see ourselves, one woman at a time. I want to debunk the myth that we don’t deserve happiness because we’re not enough: thin enough, white enough, tan enough, blonde enough, young enough. We are enough! We all have stretchmarks and scars and cellulite and we all feel awkward in front of a camera. Those things do not define who we are. That’s what I’ve learned from boudoir. We are all beautiful, no matter our shape or size or age.

Mateusz’s images of me made me feel sexier at forty than I had ever felt before. They made me realize that sexy is about confidence and acceptance and knowing yourself! I want every woman to experience this! Let’s celebrate your unique beauty together. Let’s be awkward and cry together and become BFFs. Let’s learn to love ourselves exactly the way we are. You deserve to see yourself the way I see you! Let me show you how beautiful you truly are.

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JENN'S BOUDOIR STORY

Thu, 16 Apr 2020 17:32:52 GMT

Jenn talks about her Silk + Salt experience.

My Why

So what made me take the leap to get boudoir pictures done? I have gone through a lot of changes in the last few years. I’ve embraced who I am (both physically and spiritually) and what I am passionate about. I really wanted to take a moment to capture the woman I have become. I also wanted to show the more sensual side of myself that often gets hidden with my busy life of working full-time, being a mom, and adventuring in the outdoors. I felt that capturing this moment would help me to remember all that I went through to get to where I am now. It will also be a physical reminder to stay confident in who I am regardless of what outside influences may tell me.

Choosing Silk + Salt

I spent a lot of time deciding who I trusted to take these pictures. A few years ago, I had done a more “mild” boudoir shoot that was fun, but also didn’t capture the sensual part of myself I wanted to show this time. I had a friend who had followed Silk + Salt on Instagram. I was drawn to Mat’s style and his ability to capture beauty with every age, body type, and ethnicity. I knew I would be making a bigger investment this time around and felt it would be worth it if I had artwork I could use in the future.

Initial Meeting

Before booking a photoshoot, Pamela and Mat met with me to go over what to expect. We met up at a coffee shop in SLC since it was middle ground from where I live in Utah County and where their home studio is located in Ogden. Both of them were warm and friendly. I felt comfortable talking with them right away and like I’d made new friends in a short amount of time. They asked me quite a few questions about why I wanted to do a session, what I was looking for in my photos, and why I chose them. Pamela brought examples of the physical products that I would be able to select from after the shoot. (All of them were beautiful and while there I committed to myself to buy artwork from my shoot.) We ended by picking a time for my shoot.

Shopping

A day or two before my shoot I headed out to some stores to pick what I wanted to wear. Luckily for me Pamela had also sent me an amazing lingerie guide of what to wear or not wear for boudoir photos. I followed the guide she sent and ended up picking up some items like a bodysuit that I wouldn’t have even considered without her guide. The guide did not lead me wrong. I was happy with how all the items I purchased turned out. A few of the pieces I bought were really cheap (less than 10 dollars) and then I splurged on a few that cost a bit more from Victoria Secret. Looking back, I was just as happy with my photos of my cheap lingerie as I was my more expensive ones, so my advice is to make sure you get something that fits well and there is no reason to spend an arm and a leg if you don’t want to.

Getting “Dolled” Up

The morning of the shoot I rolled out of bed, put on comfortable clothes, didn’t do my make-up or hair, grabbed something to eat, and drove a couple hours to Ogden. I felt a bit frumpy (from not getting ready) and excited as I made my way up to the studio. I knocked on the door and Pamela let me in. She had a sign welcoming me into the house along with my favorite snacks. I had chosen cheese and crackers and she didn’t disappoint in the options. She also offered me one of many drinks to have while getting ready. I was introduced to EJ, who was my make-up and hair stylist for the day. She asked me what I was looking for and got to work. While doing my make-up and hair they played music I had selected. I was told I had a unique assortment of music (mostly rap and hip-hop) compared to other clients. We talked and laughed while EJ brought out my best features. When she finished, she made sure I was happy with how everything looked. I was delighted to see that she was able to emphasize my best features without making me look like someone else.

The Client Closet

Even though I had chosen lingerie of my own I still looked in the closet that Silk + Salt provides for their clients. I fell in love with a new dragon lingerie set and a lacey robe, so I added them to what I had brought. Pamela helped me mix and match outfits from what I had brought and what I had chosen from their closet. She also helped me get into and get out of a few of the items I wore.

The Shoot

Just like when I met them at the coffee shop, Mat and Pamela put any insecurities I was having at ease instantly. Which, considering how much I was wearing in comparison to how much they were wearing was impressive. Mat let me know he was going to show me how to do poses that would look stupid when he did them, but great when I did them. This remained true the entire shoot and added some humor throughout the experience. I especially laughed when Pamela took a few candid photos of him doing poses for what I can only assume will be future blackmail.

Mat did a great job making sure that we used the time efficiently to capture the vision we had discussed in our initial meeting. (On a side note, taking boudoir photos can feel like a workout with all the different positions you do.) Pamela made sure that lingerie, hair, and make-up remained how it should. She also added and reminded us of some ideas for poses based on what I had wanted. Mat and Pamela complemented each other to make for the perfect experience. I had a great time laughing, talking, and creating beautiful artwork during the shoot. I left feeling more empowered, confident, and hopeful that I could see my images sooner than later.

The Reveal

Luckily for me, Mat was able to get my photos edited in less than two weeks. I met with Pamela for my reveal. She started by showing me a wonderful slideshow of all my pictures that was set to my favorite music. We spent about an hour going through the photos and selecting the images I wanted. I’m pleased to say that I have two beautiful pieces of artwork hanging on my bathroom wall and don’t just have images digitally or hidden in a drawer. Mat’s work is artistic and perfectly captured my sensual side.

Looking Back

Working with Mat and Pamela was an incredible experience. I look forward to working with them again. Mat’s eye for capturing individual beauty is superb. Pamela’s energy made the whole experience feel comfortable and safe. Every time I look at the photos hanging on my wall I’m reminded that I am a strong, beautiful and sensual woman just the way I am.

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TOP TEN FAQs

Wed, 15 Apr 2020 23:57:15 GMT

Boudoir sessions are so exciting!! But they can also seem intimidating. I kept tabs of our ten most frequently asked questions so I could share the answers with you and get you ready to book your Silk + Salt experience! Promise, it’s not really scary at all. ;)

Where will my boudoir session take place? Do you have a studio?

Silk + Salt can shoot almost anywhere! We do have an in-home studio in Ogden, Utah but for an additional fee we can rent any studio in the Salt Lake City area that will give you the look and feel you want. Ask us about the Ogden mansion you see in many of our images, also for an additional fee.

How far in advance should I book my session?

Ideally, you’ll want to schedule your shoot date about 2 months prior to needing the finished product in-hand. We only shoot two to three sessions per week to ensure our clients get a personalized, boutique experience so DON’T WAIT to email us! It’s never too early to get on our schedule. Your photo reveal appointment will be approximately 1-2 weeks after your photo session, and your finished product (depending on what you order) will arrive between 3-6 weeks after that.

What I on earth should I wear? We have two whole guides to answer this question because there was so much info I couldn’t fit it all into one! You can find those HERE . Ultimately, though, you want to wear whatever makes you feel sexy! You’ll want to have four to five options to choose from and no they don’t all have to be lingerie. In fact, it’s ok if none of them are lingerie! You probably already have some things in your closet that would be perfect, but if you’re just dying to go shopping and don’t know what to buy, just ask me (Pamela) and I’ll give you some direction! We also have a huge client closet with everything from XS-5X, so you don't have to bring anything with you! We don't want you spending money on something you're only going to wear once. ;)

What should I do to prepare for my shoot?

This is such a personal question and we want to give it the personal answer it deserves. In fact, we would love to answer all of your questions! Both in-person and phone consultations are available for free and we are also available after you book to answer any questions you have by phone or email. We will give you personalized information on how to prepare based on your individual concerns and desires. We pride ourselves on offering a LUXURY EXPERIENCE to our clients! That means we are building relationships and lovingly guiding our clients through the entire process!

Are all the people on your website models? I don’t look like a model and I’m scared to do this!

I’ll tell you a little secret: even models don’t look like models unless they’re working with a great photographer! Mateusz knows what he’s doing. He’s the master of lighting and posing and has spent hundreds of hours studying and practicing how to make people look like the sophisticated descendants of Roman gods. Another secret? Why not?! NONE of the people on our website are models! They didn’t know how to pose and they thought their facial expressions were dorky, just like the rest of us. All these beautiful people came to us hating parts of themselves and hoping we could make them look sexy or gorgeous or handsome or sensual. And then you saw them and thought they were models! See? We got you, boo!

What do your packages include? How much should I expect to spend?

The experience starts at $500. That includes the two-hour photo shoot with Mat and Pamela and a pre-shoot consultation, wardrobe planning, hair and makeup, up to four outfits, access to our client closet, professional modeling direction, professional image retouching and editing, and an in-studio image reveal and ordering session. At your ordering session, you’ll get to see all of our gorgeous photo and order albums, wall art, and other products that make your heart happy. <3 Our clients typically spend around $2000 on products because there are just too many photos they cannot live without from their session (uh,huh…we’re THAT good here!) but there’s a wide range of products and packages and most importantly, NO minimum order. We only want you to buy what you love. We put our packages together with great care, based on the highest quality standards, client demand, and product availability. Want to see what product offerings are available at your photo reveal appointment? Email hello@silkandsaltphoto.com and we’ll send you a product list.

How much can you “edit out”?

Our clients do not look gorgeous in their photos because of Photoshop. We use posing and lighting to capture the best quality image, but mostly we use your best attributes! If we can't convince you that you are beautiful exactly the way you are then we’re not doing our job. Therefore, it’s our policy to do minimal editing on your images. Our post-processing techniques are focused on skin smoothing, color, contrast, sharpening, and the like. What we do edit: things that are temporary in nature. Woke up with a zit on shoot day? You bet we’re not going to make you remember that zit forever. Didn’t sleep the night before because you were feeling nervous? Dark circles- be gone! We will smooth out your skin and buff out stretch marks. What we don’t usually edit out: tattoos, scars, your body shape, things that make you, you.

Do you have payment plans?

Absolutely! At your image reveal when you order your products, Pamela will go over all of our flexible options. We know this is an investment and we want everyone who wants a shoot to be able to do one, so we work with you as best we can to get you everything you want. We never charge interest. Most of our clients take advantage of this option so don’t be shy about asking for it! We also have pre-payment plans available. When you pre-pay for one of our top three collections, you get amazing bonuses to make your shoot even more luxurious!

Will you use my images on your website or social media?

Only if you say it’s ok!! Naturally, we would LOVE to use your images from your session, but they’re just that- YOUR images- and we don’t have the right to share them unless you feel completely comfortable with it. Some clients feel comfortable sharing any and all of their images, some only want to share the anonymous images where their face is not visible, and some don’t want any shared at all. Whatever you choose, we will honor your wishes.

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MS. S | SALT LAKE CITY, UT Boudoir Photoshoot

Wed, 15 Apr 2020 18:08:14 GMT

Black + White Boudoir

Ms. S wanted a boudoir shoot in her home. This was a surprise for her husband so she made up an excuse to send him away with the kiddos while we snuck in to pamper her with her favorite drink and snacks and of course, hair and makeup. They had just moved in and were still unpacking, but we just strategically moved boxes out of frame and took some stunning shots, because that's how we roll. ;) I love, love, love that she wanted her entire photo shoot in black and white. Black and white photography is so classic and dramatic and it fit her Hollywood starlet look so perfectly. Scroll down. You'll get what I mean.

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MS. F | OGDEN, UTAH BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Wed, 15 Apr 2020 03:43:34 GMT

50 is the new sexy

Ms. F has done a boudoir photo shoot every 10 years since she was 20, so she knew exactly what to expect for her 50th birthday shoot! We still haven't picked our jaws up off the floor from how sexy she makes 50 look.

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MS. C | OGDEN, UTAH BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Mon, 13 Apr 2020 17:45:34 GMT

Though she be but little, she is fierce!

Ms. C might be a tiny thing, but she is as strong as her eyes are blue. After leaving her religion and a bad relationship, she decided it was time to celebrate her fabulousness and we were so thrilled to help her do that! Her photo shoot captured her strength as well as her beauty, proving once again that boudoir is about more than taking pictures in lingerie.

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MS. S | SLC BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Sat, 11 Apr 2020 16:02:08 GMT

Bestie Boudoir Shoot

I don’t mean to brag, but isn’t that what people say right before they brag? This boudoir shoot felt like it came out of a magazine. A good one like Vouge or Cosmo, not Good Housekeeping or Reader’s Digest. ;) Ms. S was a gymnast in her formative years and still has some pretty impressive muscles today! Plus she has the sweetest, most incredible husband, who set up this photo shoot as a surprise and then enlisted her best friend’s husband to make it a whole girls’ day for the both of them, complete with lingerie shopping spree. See her bestie’s boudoir shoot here: Ms. J They were both so wonderful to work with; so sweet and kind and lots of fun. We wish we got to do more bestie sessions like this one. It was such a perfect day!

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MS. J | SALT LAKE CITY

Fri, 10 Apr 2020 22:22:17 GMT

Bestie Boudoir Shoot

We think that the only thing better than a boudoir session is a boudoir session with your best friend! Ms. J booked a bestie experience with her friend, Ms. S. Their husbands, who are also really good friends, got together and surprised them with a whole day of pampering: the photo shoot, a fancy lunch, and a lingerie shopping spree! I know!! These guys needs to teach classes on how to be awesome. Enjoy the shoot! We are so happy with how gorgeous it turned out!

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MS. O | OGDEN, UT

Thu, 09 Apr 2020 16:01:59 GMT

Shouldn't every boudoir photo shoot have hot male models as props? We wouldn't complain.

Some boudoir sessions are just naturally smokin’ hot and Ms. O’s was definitely one of them. She originally planned to do an outdoor boudoir photo shoot, but changed her mind as we got closer to her date and ohhhhh, boy are we glad she did! The indoor session turned out perfect in every way. There were too many gorgeous shots to share, but here are some of our favorites.

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MS. C | OGDEN, UTAH

Wed, 08 Apr 2020 23:30:52 GMT

Boudoir + Bondage

Ms. C wanted something saucy for her boudoir shoot! This shoot was a wedding present for her man. She and her fella have a, shall we say, eclectic sex life? ;) She wanted her boudoir session to reflect that. These aren’t the naughtiest of the images, but you get a little taste here of how Mateusz incorporated her submissive side and also showed her feminine strength and beauty.

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MS. G | SALT LAKE CITY

Tue, 07 Apr 2020 21:01:57 GMT

Is there anything sexier than a hottie in roller skates?

We think not! As boudoir photographers, we are always looking for something new to try, something sexy, fun, or surprising, so when Ms. G asked us if we could shoot her in her derby skates we said, “hells yes!” They turned out to be our favorite shots from the session.

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MS. J | OGDEN, UTAH

Sun, 05 Apr 2020 14:33:54 GMT

More outdoor fun in Utah!

This was another great outdoor boudoir shoot in Ogden, but we added some studio boudoir shots as well to round out the session. Ms. J is an athlete. She can deadlift 200 pounds. She can leg press 360 pounds. She rock climbs, does yoga and acro yoga, is learning the rings, eats a clean vegan diet, and is going to school for a nutrition degree. She wanted to show off her amazing muscles and we wanted to show the world that strong women are sexy!

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MEET OUR OGDEN MAKEUP ARTIST, EJ!

Sun, 05 Apr 2020 03:13:00 GMT

My name is EJ...

and I am a hair and makeup artist for Silk + Salt photography . I have been living in Utah for a few years, I moved here on my own from Arizona. I met a super cute boy named Mike and we got married and have three wonderful fur children! Being far away from my parents and siblings is never easy, but Mike makes everywhere we go feel like home. Mike has always encouraged me to be my authentic self, which has led me to do things such as get education to do professional hair and makeup, wear weird clothes, and fall in love with myself. Connecting with and working alongside of Mateusz and Pamela has been an absolute dream. I feel incredibly lucky that Silk + Salt has allowed me an opportunity to love my job as a hair and makeup artist, and meet such miraculous people! Mat has an unparalleled ability to make every person who walks into the studio feel like they can walk out and rule the world. Each session I’ve been a part of has shown grace and professionalism mixed with creativity and care. Admittedly, when it came my turn to be the subject of a shoot, I was nervous. I spent the whole night before convincing myself that Mat’s magic wasn’t going to be enough to show me how beautiful I am. Needless to say, I was completely wrong. I, like all other subjects, was able to leave the studio believing I was able to rule the world. I take pride in playing a role in the magic that Pamela and Mateusz have created and look forward to helping people see what the rest of us see: gods and goddesses. I am so excited to continue this work and look forward to all the magnificent people I will continue to meet!

Love, Emily, Mike, Charlie, Zulu, and Foxtrot

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MR. D | SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH PORTRAITURE

Fri, 03 Apr 2020 17:12:15 GMT

Do we shoot men? You betcha.

Mr. D is an elementary school teacher. We think he missed his calling as a professional model, but we’re glad he’s committed to molding young minds because he really is amazing with children! He wanted a photo shoot that showed both his physical strength and emotional vulnerability. Shooting male portraits is quite different than shooting female boudoir. Posing, lighting, editing, style, and many technical aspects require specialized training to get it right. We are so very proud of how this portrait session turned out.

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MS. M | OGDEN, UT

Fri, 27 Mar 2020 17:47:35 GMT

What is the difference between portraiture and boudoir, you ask?

Boudoir photography usually involves lingerie, or some level of undress. The goal with boudoir is to empower people to see the fierce, independent, sexy, badass humans that they are. These images are purposefully intimate, which is why we are so adamant about protecting our clients’ privacy. We use only natural retouching techniques on boudoir images. It is important to us that our clients look like themselves in the finished product, not a plastic doll version of themselves. We also never, ever want our clients to think they look beautiful or handsome because of Photoshop. So while Boudoir captures your sensuality, beauty, and sexuality, portrait photography captures your personality and individuality. Of course, it’s an impossible task to capture every element of a person in one photo, but our approach is to tell one chapter of your story, not the whole book. An environmental portrait is a good example of how we acheive this (and also one of our favorite styles of shooting!). In this type of photo a person is surrounded by an environment that tells the story of who they are - their art studio and paintings, yoga mats, books and manuscripts, collection of their favorite things etc. This shoot has some good examples of both. Enjoy!!

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Top 6 Myths Holding You Back from an Empowering Boudoir Experience

Wed, 25 Mar 2020 18:59:31 GMT

by Mateusz Jagiello

As a boudoir photographer in Salt Lake City, Utah, I hear these things all the time. It doesn’t matter if you do pictures on a regular basis, if you are a model, or if you pose in front of a camera as often as people are required to update their passports. I would love to tell you that you are one of a kind in terms of these excuses but unfortunately, we are all the same when it comes to this subject. We all put the same shields around us, hoping that somehow they will make us feel safer, that we won’t have to “expose” ourselves and risk anything. It seems like such a good idea to just keep living the way we’ve been for a long time.

This couldn’t be further from the truth, though. In my experience, there has never been a person who has regretted doing a boudoir photo shoot. The reasons why you might be afraid of booking a session even though you are interested in it and you want to do it are the exact reasons why you ABSOLUTELY should. Let me talk about few that I hear about the most often and allow me to show you what I mean.

1. I will book when I lose XX (enter your number) pounds

This is the absolute number one concern I hear. I think that literally 99% of people who ever reached out to me about a boudoir session had this concern on their mind. Let me tell you this: if you think that you need to lose some weight to look sexy and beautiful, then this is the EXACT reason why you absolutely SHOULD do the session now. If you look around on our website, all of the women you see there are not professional models, they are normal clients just like you. They also said they wish they were skinnier. And when you look at their pictures this is the last thing you would ever think. What want to show you is that weight has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with your beauty.

2. I don’t know anything about posing!

I’ve got good news for you! You don’t have to. That’s what we are here for. I’ve spent countless hours directing models and non-models of all shapes and sizes. All you have to do is just relax and trust me. I will pose every part of you, from your feet all the way up to your head and expressions.

(bonus point) I am afraid the photographer will touch me during the session.

This is an extremely valid and important concern. We do not touch you even if we have a more advanced pose we would like to try. I will often tell you to relax and observe me as I will demonstrate exactly what I am looking for. I will also mirror you and show you how I would like you to move. So again – no touching! If your hair or outfit needs adjusting, Pamela will ask you permission to adjust it or show you what needs to be done.

3. I don’t have any sexy lingerie and I wouldn’t know how to pick outfits!

First of all, you don’t need sexy lingerie to look sexy. You are beautiful because of you, not because of what you wear. Second of all, we are here for you all the way. Pamela will give you tips on picking out outfits and we also have a large client closet of beautiful items that we love for our clients to borrow!

4. I would love to have sensual pictures of myself but I don’t want to pose naked or only in lingerie.

It might be a surprise to a lot of people, but… IT’S ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM. Just like in my previous point, we show your natural beauty. We do not need fancy outfits to show you how sensual and hot you are. Bring in your favorite dress, a sweater, jeans, leather jacket, heck -even sweat pants. There is a sexy beast inside of you and we can see it and we can show it to you!

5. I am ready to book but right now I have a lot of bills and cannot afford it.

We understand that and we realize that there are a lot of cheaper photographers. We are a luxury studio and provide you with the highest quality of service. We offer only the highest quality products that we ourselves are proud of displaying in our own homes. We take care of you on every level so that you can have the time of your life. We do a limited number of shoots each year so that we can give you our full focus always. Because of that, it might be difficult to get a session with us if you postpone booking. That’s why we have payment plans that are very manageable and on top of that, we are humans too- don’t be afraid to talk to us about your challenges! All of our clients are like friends to us and we want you to have this empowering experience! We will help you in any way we can.

6. I want to do it but I’m not sure my significant other will approve.

Then bring them with you! Book a couples shoot or have them around when you are doing your session. In my experience, they all absolutely love it. They might need you to encourage them and lead the way, though. ��

MS. W | SLC OUTDOOR BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

Tue, 24 Mar 2020 22:44:42 GMT

Outdoor Boudoir

Outdoor boudoir shoots come with their own special challenges. We want to give our clients a luxury experience, which doesn’t usually include traipsing through the forest for miles in skimpy lingerie. And then, of course, we don’t exactly want to attract a crowd. But when we started scouting Salt Lake City for the perfect location, we found three! How do you choose? We didn’t want to, so we shot in all three and had so much fun doing it! Utah, it turns out, is one of the most gorgeous states in the nation. Who knew?!

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MS. M | SALT LAKE CITY BRIDAL SHOOT

Mon, 23 Mar 2020 04:52:16 GMT

Bridal Boudoir

When Ms. M got married for the second time, she and her husband opted out of wedding portraits, a traditional ceremony, even a wedding dress, but she really regretted it later! So she asked us if we could do a bridal boudoir photo shoot and we said, ‘heck yeah!!’ We also found a wedding dress for her to borrow and we did some stunning portraits of her and her hubby on the streets of Salt Lake. She was so delightful to work with that I wish we could do it all again!

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MS. P | OGDEN, UT | BOUDOIR SHOOT

Fri, 20 Mar 2020 19:01:15 GMT

50 is Sexy

Ms. P is turning 50 this year. I know! We couldn’t believe it either!! She makes 50 look sooo good!! Besides all that va-va-voom action she’s got going on, she’s also got the greatest sense of humor! We had the best time shooting with her! This was a do-over shoot for her. A few years ago she hired a boudoir photographer for a session and the photos were nice, but they looked nothing like her. Fake hair, overly photoshopped. Not good. We think she’s gorgeous just the way she is.

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MS. S | SALT LAKE CITY BOUDOIR SHOOT

Thu, 19 Mar 2020 15:19:00 GMT

“For me, beauty is very much a double-edged sword...

As a teenager, beauty meant smiling for the camera and judges, big hair and heavy makeup, winning pageant crowns, walking the runway and squeezing into teeny-tiny gowns. Being raised as a “beauty-queen” resulted in a self-conscious, anorexic teenager who was desperate for love and validation. I was overly trusting of men and raped as a naive undergrad resulting in a late term abortion.

This experience was later followed by a 10 year toxic, abusive marriage where beauty meant still meant heavy makeup, only this time it was desperately trying to cover up bruises and black eyes. Beauty was also trying to accomplish the impossible- I could never be skinny, pretty, sexy, or smart enough for him. I was constantly called horrible names; he would belittle me, call me dumb and constantly attack my character by accusing me of cheating on him when he was the one who was cheating. He would break personal items of mine and destroy things in our home that were important to me, including several family heirlooms and other sentimental items that are invaluable to me as a way to intimidate and scare me. Through all of it, he blamed me for everything- I made him angry, I made him drink, I made him hurt me, and I made him cheat. But I absolutely did none of those things. Being a victim of domestic trauma and coping with PTSD is intrinsically complicated. My mind is permanently stained with memories that will probably haunt me forever. I regularly suffer from flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety and uncontrollable thoughts. Simple things like music videos, movie scenes and news reports catapult me into emotional distress. I did not ask to be a victim of domestic violence. I HATE the word “victim” because I want to be strong and brave, not broken anymore. He violated everything I knew about marriage, love, respect and fidelity. He took away my worth, my privacy, my energy, my time, my safety, my intimacy, my confidence, my security and my own voice, until now. After 4 years of court proceedings and his inevitable conviction, I finally got to have my voice heard.

Today... I am happy, healthy and safe. I am blessed to be loved beyond measure by a man who respects and protects every fiber of my being. As I rediscover myself by peeling away the damaged layers, underneath all this, what I really want is to LOVE and feel LOVED. Through my life’s lessons, heartache and pain I’ve learned that true beauty goes way beyond our reflection in the mirror. I try very hard to pay attention to those things that open my heart, that allow me to FEEL and experience beauty in its purest forms– a breathtaking sunset, a perfect rose, a moving piece of music, whatever it is that signifies “beauty” to me. As a human, beauty for me means feeling comfortable in my own skin, embracing my uniqueness and finding strength in my emotional scars and imperfections. It’s understanding the power I have within me to harness my beauty through confidence and make an impact on the lives of those around me. Being compassionate and loving towards everyone, even complete strangers and those who have hurt me in the past, that is beauty. Not only speaking of doing good things, but having your actions match your words, that is beauty. Having a gentle and kind heart, that is beauty. True beauty undeniably comes from within.” -Ms. N

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MS. A | OGDEN, UT

Wed, 18 Mar 2020 23:48:01 GMT

Never Felt Sexy

Ms. A told me before her boudoir shoot that she had never felt sexy. Cute and funny, yes. But sexy, absolutely never. I found this astonishing given that she’s always seemed sexy to me, but the thing I’ve discovered working in boudoir is that the way a person looks has little correlation with how they feel about themselves. It’s often the traditional beauties who struggle the most with seeing the beauty in themselves. It has more to do with our life experiences, how closely we listen to cultural messages, and the people we surround ourselves with. By the end of her shoot, though, Ms. A was starting to see herself through our eyes. “I can’t believe it! I’m sexy!” Ummm, yes, queen. Yes, you are.

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Chelsea's Boudoir Experience

Tue, 17 Mar 2020 03:15:45 GMT

An Angel in Lingerie

Chelsea is one of those people who doesn’t just listen to what you’re saying, she listens to what you really mean. She’s got those eyes that look right past the surface and bore into your heart with sympathy and compassion. Can you tell I just adore her?! Well, anyway, she told us that she NEVER likes pictures of herself- even professional ones, but she absolutely LOVED these. How could she not, though? I mean, come on! She looks STUNNING!! I asked her to talk about her experience at her shoot, so here you go- some of my favs from her shoot and Chelsea's story...

"Right now I feel the need more than ever to have something to draw positivity and self affirmation/affection from. I know a lot of us are struggling with the lack of connection and our tried and true ways to “fill our buckets”, so my gratitude for the experience I had with Pamela and Mat is priceless.

Just thinking back on that day brings a great swelling in my chest and a smile uncontrollably pinching my cheeks. From the moment I was greeted by Pamela’s warm and lovely smile, my nerves and self doubt rapidly took a backseat. Pamela put me at ease while she led me upstairs through her stunning gallery of previous clients. I was greeted with a personalized sign of welcoming, an enticing display of delicious treats and a friendly, vivacious makeup and hair artist ready to pamper.

EJ sat me down and worked her magic with two adorable vintage suitcases filled to the brim with a variety of colorfully inviting makeup and hair toys. Feeling unusually gorgeous and transformed, Pamela and I then sorted though all the lacy, silky, delicate, exciting lingerie with Mateusz. In my previous anxiety over the shoot, I was unsure of opening myself up to such vulnerability in front of an unknown man. That changed as soon as I met Mat. He has such a kind face and easygoing manner, I couldn’t help but feel comfortable (excluding the prolific “arch your back more” and “now a little bit more”).

I love attention, but not the sole attention of more than one person at a time. Normally, I would’ve been very stiff and awkward having both Pamela and Mat staring at me so attentively, nearly nude, and nowhere to hide in unnatural (for me) poses and facial expressions, but Mat’s humor and Pamela’s encouraging compliments had me not only feeling comfortable draped over every bed couch and wall, but hella confident and stunningly beautiful! I have never experienced such a deep and profound sense of my beauty, and my powerful body that I am so grateful and lucky to possess.

About two weeks later, Pamela brought me back into her delightful studio for my reveal. Admittedly, I still had my doubts about the finished product. I wasn’t doubtful of Mateusz’s talent, but I was doubtful of myself. I have never liked myself in pictures and resolved to just accept that I was “not photogenic”.

So, with little expectation I sat down next to Pamela while she displayed one jaw-dropping image after another, after another of this gorgeous woman i could hardly believe was me. It brings me to tears thinking about how wonderful and welcome it was to see myself that way.

This session with Pamela and Mateusz was an experience that I will cherish for all my days, but my favorite part about it is the pictures I have to transport me back in time to relive that moment, that confidence, that power, and that appreciation anytime I want or need. Thank you Pamela! Thank you Mateusz! Thank you EJ! I hope you all know what a positive and enlivening service you provide. You are forever in my heart."

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MEET OUR SLC HAIR AND MAKEUP ARTIST

Sun, 15 Mar 2020 21:29:21 GMT

MEET KASEY, OUR SLC MAKEUP ARTIST

“When I first saw Mateusz’s images I was instantly intrigued and wanted to work with him. I’ve been collaborating with Silk + Salt Photography as their hair and makeup artist, and I have been truly impressed by their professionalism and how accommodating they are to each and every client. I love to witness all the creative detail that goes into their art. Mateusz’s attention to lighting and posing each client is perfection. I had the privilege of being in front of the camera for a day, and at first I was a little intimidated to be so vulnerable, but Pamela and Mateusz make the whole experience feel so professional and comfortable, by the time we began shooting the most difficult part was holding the poses. When I saw the first images, they blew me away! I don’t think I have ever been more impressed by images of myself. They make me feel truly beautiful. I look forward to creating more wonderful art with this amazing team. Pamela and Mateusz are a dream to work along side with.” -Kasey

Check out Kasey’s Instagram: @kaseykartistry

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MS. H | Salt Lake City, UT

Sat, 14 Mar 2020 17:19:34 GMT

BRINGING SEXY BACK

Ms. H met Mateusz and me at our favorite little coffee shop in Salt Lake City, Nostalgia Cafe, for her pre-shoot consultation. “It’s been a long time since I felt sexy,” she lamented. Mateusz and I looked at each other knowingly. This is a common theme with our clients. We meet these women who are gorgeous inside and out but they just can’t see it. They need a boudoir photo shoot to see what the rest of us see. This is the whole reason that we do what we do. It’s our mission to empower people to love and accept themselves just the way they are, but also to embrace their sexuality fearlessly.

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THE RISE OF THE PHOENIX

Fri, 13 Mar 2020 22:07:48 GMT

MS. J | OGDEN, UT BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT

This shoot couldn’t have been more perfect from beginning to end. I decided to do a Phoenix theme for mine because of the transformation I went through this past year. I used to be a shell. Took on whatever personality suited those around me, and never really had one of my own. Even my beliefs changed depending on who I was with. I went from mask to mask just to please people, leaving myself in the dark.

I was always the first person to help when someone needed a hand or ear. Always someone everyone could rely on, but otherwise left alone. Even when I was surrounded by people, I was alone. That intensified a little over a year ago when I was raped while celebrating getting out of the worst depressive episode I’d ever experienced. I’d never had sex, and was raped by one of my best friends and a man she called over while I was so drunk I couldn’t even sit up.

That betrayal hurt. It hurt so much that I spiraled down, crashed through Hell, and kept going. Wherever I reached out for help, everyone always had more important things to do or worry about. They all told me to get over it and move on because I was strong enough to. Being raped didn’t break me. Being shown how alone I truly was did.

I fought to find a reason to stay alive, but after being pushed aside by everyone in my darkest moments for an ETERNITY in just a handful of months, I let go. I was angry, lost, and broken to the point where I wasn’t scared anymore. I wasn’t scared of ANYTHING.

Phobias I’ve had all my life, weren’t even enough to make me flinch. It just wasn’t worth it anymore, and I finally decided to end my life. But before went, I was going to say and do whatever the hell I wanted before then. Live a little, ya know?

So I did and surrendered to the flame, but instead of dying in the fire I was reborn. Within the last year, I’ve changed completely… I’m not cowardly or timid, or scared to speak up. I’m not scared of my strength or being honest! And that’s what this shoot represents. My transformation through flames.

Going into it, I was scared to death. Because my body is MINE! And I wasn’t about to give it to ANYONE... But no one took my body. They didn't even focus on it. They rejoiced and celebrated ME. As a whole. I was so comfortable with everyone there (Pam, Mat and EJ) that I didn't even need to hide in the bathroom to do any costume changes. And it was as normal as breathing.

This shoot was fun! Exciting! Comfortable! And all about celebrating me. The EXPERIENCE alone was enough to make me feel Strong. Beautiful. Powerful. Happy. Alive. And Worth it. I'll be honest though, I'm not settling for just the experience because I'm greedy those pictures are too damn perfect.

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BEAUTY IS IN THE HEART OF THE BEHOLDER

Thu, 12 Mar 2020 16:32:44 GMT

Why boudoir is mostly about inner beauty.

I never felt beautiful until I was an adult. And even then, I wasn’t comfortable with my weight. I met the father of my son when I was at my heaviest. He loved me for me and not what I looked like, but he loved that too. After my son was born, fitness became a large part of my priorities. I found appreciation for my body and what it could physically do. I was at a point where I was, finally, comfortable. He was not. I had been working so hard at something I thought would improve every single aspect of my life. Yet it was the beginning of so many … creative differences between the two of us.

I share this small part of me to make one point- You are loveable. No matter what phase of life you are in.

Boudoir photography has taught me a lot about inner beauty and the way others perceive me. It’s simple but, we are blinded by our own self-image. We are enlightened when we have the opportunity to look through another’s eyes. I would get images back I questioned why this certain photographer would pick to edit. My eyes half open or leaning in an unappealing way. I would get images that stop me in my tracks. Is that really me? That natural, strong, pretty mama? Her face is doing all the right things. Is this how people see me? Even if for just moments at a time?

I came to the realization that it is. Every version of myself is worth noticing, appreciating. Even if I don’t see myself as perfect all the time—even if I don’t feel worthy everyday—other people see me as perfectly imperfect, as beautiful, as worthy to love and be loved in return.

Yet we are not just moments in time, but the sum of all the tears, scars, accomplishments, failures, great hair days, and comfy couch-sit in my sweats- Saturdays. Everything adds up. Our negative experiences count towards the greater sum of US. It gives you texture, strength, charisma, deviation from the general norm.

This is beauty.

Not everything resonates with everyone, and that’s even more romantic.

I have lived my life wanting everyone to care about me, as I have always been ready to care about anyone else. But the truth is, not everyone will like you. It's impossible. With this obvious realization I have found comfort. I can treat myself as I would treat others. I can love myself as I love others. Yet, I don’t have to love myself every day to appreciate myself all the same. Allowing myself to be imperfect has made me perfectly happy.

I have found peace in body neutrality. Instead of having to see myself as 100 percent all the time, and my feelings being invalidated when I don’t, I allow myself to feel what I may about my body and be okay with it. My body takes care of me. My body is so much more than beautiful. It is offering a smile to a stranger that lightens their mood. It is being able to help my best friend move an entire apartment in a weekend, just her and me. Maybe that’s more valuable than brows being on fleek. Inner beauty seeps through your literal skin, filling any room with enough light to see what is truly there.

Next time you look at your reflection, what will you choose to see?

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They're Not Just Photographs

Mon, 18 Mar 2019 06:00:00 GMT

By: MATEUSZ JAGIEŁŁO

I started pretty early, around the age of 5. I continued practicing everyday throughout school, all 12 grades. I even left my home, family, and friends, to study in the United States, and I finished my junior and senior year in the States. That was not enough, though. I continued my studies through my bachelor’s, master’s, and even a semester of my doctorate degree.

The thing is, that it wasn’t photography I was studying. It was music. Since I can remember I was learning how to play piano. At the age of 7 I started horn as well. I was born in Poland and that meant that I had the opportunity to study music in an actual music school if I could only get in. This is exactly what happened just before I entered the first grade.

New ParagraphOn paper it sounds like it is a dream come true – who doesn’t love music?! Being able to study it, play an instrument, and eventually perform and earn a living by doing music sounds like a lot of people’s dream. Unfortunately, as it often is, reality is far from the glorified vision of that profession.

Year 2009 was a very important year for me personally for many reasons. This was the year I left Poland to come to northern Michigan to study at an international art school, where creative writers, musicians, dancers, actors, visual artists, filmmakers, and all other sorts of kids with special talents could study together and push themselves to become who they want to be.

Here is where my problem finally started to shape itself. Who DO I WANT to be? Musician was the obvious answer given to me by family, teachers and peers who had been alongside me my whole life. But was it something I truly and personally wanted? It was a part of me since I could remember. It was impossible for me to make a fully conscious decision about who I was or wanted to be when I was only 5 or 7 years old. Music didn’t feel like a hobby or passion; it felt like a part of life, maybe even a chore.

When I joined that incredible school, their slogan at the time was “I am an artist”. They had this promo video made where different students would say what they do there. “I am a musician”, “I am a writer”, “I am a dancer”, “I am a painter”. At the end of the video they all came together to say, “I am an artist”. I remember this video very well because when I heard these last words, something struck me. It was the reality and a conscious understanding of what was going on in my life.

Music is obviously an art form but there is a big disconnect between how it is perceived and how it is actually made. Musicians are artists but there is very little artistry going on in what they do. There are “standards” and you put years and thousands of hours into practice so that you can fit within these standards. There are very few true artists nowadays, not only in the classical music world but also in other genres like pop or rock. To make the ultimate performer dream come true and either win an audition to a major orchestra or win a big solo competition, you need to be able to execute the expectations that are set before you perfectly.

Art cannot be objectively judged, that would contradict the whole purpose of an artist’s expression. But music, like a lot of other art forms, became a modern job. Where you have a boss and it really doesn’t matter what you have to say. All you need to do is follow the orders, and the better you can do it, the more secure you can be at your work.

This struck a very big cord with me for many years. I always celebrated artists who were allowed to express themselves or their thoughts in a way that was original, unconventional, and would speak to others in a much deeper way. Yet, this is the total opposite of what we were taught to do.

It really doesn’t matter what you feel. It doesn’t matter what you think something should be. There is a textbook, a teacher, a standard, and expectation, and you need to follow it to the very letter. If you don’t, you don’t get the job, you don’t get to fulfill your dreams, and you must settle for something else that will never fill the void of your whole life spent reaching for something that most probably was not even actually made for you in the first place, because to do it you must do something that does not operate on the same frequency as you do.

Photography has been something I always wanted to do. Visual art is my favorite medium, and I always put a lot value on the visual aesthetics of movies, photographs, buildings, posters, etc. I was very jealous of visual artists because they often were celebrated for breaking the rules and standards that the masses usually follow. I felt that they were truly free to do what they believed in and instead of being discouraged, they were often rewarded for it.

When I was finishing my master’s degree I found myself deeply depressed due to the constant failures in my musical development in recent years. If you’ve ever been depressed you know how I felt, when nothing made sense, there was no light at the end of the tunnel, and I had no idea what the fuck I should do with my life.

That is when 3 amazing things happened in my life. I finally married a woman who I love with my whole heart, I started Krav Maga training, and I decided to finally buy a camera.

I spent all my savings from that year and I bought myself a shiny new camera with a couple of simple lenses. For months before I was actually able to buy the camera, I was so excited by the prospect of buying it that I spent the whole summer watching dozens of hours of videos on photography, gear, and things that I found inspiring. I immediately knew that I wanted to create portraits – of loved ones, friends, strangers. My whole life I’d been mesmerized by the uniqueness of every individual. My camera became my way of capturing each “soul”, allowing each unique individual to see themselves the way that I see them.

This is when the most wonderful thing happened. “I had no idea I could look like that!”, “I love this picture and how I look, I cant stop looking!”, “I was afraid of having photos of me taken but I am very happy I convinced myself to allow you to take pictures of me. For the first time I am liking photos of myself”, “Oh my god, I look like a model! How is this even possible?”

I have never felt stronger, more fulfilled, or happier. This is something I have always wanted to do, and finally I have found the medium that worked perfectly for me. I finally discovered a way to help others while helping myself. I saw the power photography could have over people’s lives. The power that could start a very positive change in their own personal lives. A change that gave strength. Power that allowed them to stop looking for acceptance, validation, or applause from others. I could show others what I saw in them, which often is not what they see themselves. Too often their vision is blocked by the noise of people who don’t care for seeing and cherishing beauty in others.

PC: Casey Marquez

There are many reasons to have your portrait made. The first is to heal. In the digital age we are surrounded by judgement on every side. Comments, likes, shares. Doesn’t matter if we want to compare ourselves with others or not. Our subconscious mind will do it for us anyway. But healing also applies to much more threatening and close dangers than the digital world. Abusive relationships, families, “friends”, where often not only words but actions hurt us mentally and physically. Healing starts not with changing the environment, because often even if you get out, you will end up in almost the exact same place again. It must start within you. The vision of who you are. Who you TRULY are. Not who other people want you to be.

The second big reason to have your portrait made is to reward yourself. You are always the first person to help others. You never think about yourself, you always put everybody else first. Because of that you perhaps have forgotten who you are. When you give too much of yourself, sometimes you can lose yourself. Allowing somebody to help you find yourself again is not only good for you, but also helps you to continue to fulfill your personal mission of giving of yourself to others. It is dangerous to give all and keep giving when there is very little left.

Finally, the third reason is to celebrate who you are. You understand your value, you are very happy with who you are and where you are. Sharing this extremely good feeling is very important. It is contagious and by celebrating it, you are opening the doors for other people to see the power of self-love. Other people can use your strength to help themselves stand up straight and walk a much better path.

I am not just taking photographs. I am not interested in that. There are enough pretty pictures out there in the world. What I am interested in is you. Your story. Through poses, lighting, lens choice, wardrobe choice, I want to show you yourself in a way that will make you feel beautiful, strong, valuable, unique, and very important. Because you are the only you out there, and when you forget it you are robbing the world of an incredible gift.

This is my story. Now you know a bit more about me and why I do what I do. Now I would love to meet you and create something only two of us could create together.

A Guide To Boudoir Lingerie, Part 2

Sun, 17 Feb 2019 06:06:40 GMT

Boudoir Lingerie 2

What’s that? Your mama never taught you about garter belts? Neither did mine, darlin’. Some things we’ve got to pick up for ourselves. This guide will tell you everything you didn’t know to ask about what to wear to your boudoir photo shoot. I have so much information for you on lingerie that I had to write a two part series. If you missed Part 1, where I covered teddys, bodysuits, corsets, bustiers, waist cinchers, gowns and slips, check that out here.

Cami Sets & Rompers

Want to cover a little more skin but still feel smokin’ hot? Cami sets, short sets, and rompers are your answer. Choose something silky, satiny, or lacy, preferably in a solid color so that the focus remains on you, not on a distracting pattern or print. If you do choose a print, keep it simple like the one pictured above from Victoria’s Secret .

Garters & Stockings

Let’s talk garters. In my mind, garters are the quintessential sexy lingerie item. They look hot on all shapes and sizes and really elevate a simple bra and panty combo. But they are tricky to put on if you’ve never worn them before. The most important thing to remember is that you must buy the correct type of stocking to wear with your garters. Thigh high stockings come with rubber strips inside at the top to hold your stocking up without garters. The rubber sort of sticks to your skin and squeezes your leg, giving your leg a muffin top and leaving red marks behind. This doesn’t look flattering on anyone and WILL NOT work with garters! Make sure you buy the kind of stocking without the rubber. The garter belts and stockings above came from H&M . You can also find garters attached to a corset, bustier, or slip. And don’t worry about not being able to get them on before the shoot. Remember, if you run into trouble, I’m your girl.

Shoes

If you don’t have any already, you need a pair of stilettos in your life, honey. Do you NEED shoes for the shoot? No, of course not. Bare feet are incredibly sexy. But if you are a shoe lover or have never owned a super high heel before, it would make an awesome addition to your shoot. Ami Clubwear has tons of inexpensive options in every color. Black and nude are the best choices, as they go with absolutely everything!

The Push Up Bra

You might have guessed from the photo above that I am not a fan of the push up bra. I know you’re going to be tempted to buy one. We all are! I mean, these models are rockin’ them, aren’t they? Look at those perfectly round breasts! But here’s why I want you to resist temptation. We are going to take quite a few shots of you lying down. If you are small chested, the moment you recline, your breasts are no longer going to fill that cup and it is going to be obvious. If you are large chested, your breasts are going to be pushed toward your head and your neck is going to disappear. We like your neck. It’s pretty. The shot won’t be the same without it. But you are only going to stand upright in that particular bra, you say? Still no. These bras rarely flatter a woman’s figure. Your breasts are perfect the way they are because they are your breasts and we want to show them off in all their natural beauty. If you’ve got your heart set on a push up bra, though, talk to us and we will make it work.

The Bralette

YES YES, YES YES YES! If you are small to medium chested, this is the one that you want. Forget about those silly push up bras and find yourself a beautiful bralette. You will be amazed at the selection Blue Boutique has. Visit one of their stores and try a few on. They are feminine and flirty and often come in sets with matching panties.

Better Bras

If you are medium to large chested, you’re going to need more support. Underwire bras are great for that. Blue Boutique has some really special options that will perk your girls right up.

Undies

This is all you, honey. What do you feel sexiest in? That’s what you choose.

What Not To Buy

Are you hyperventilating yet? Sit down, darlin’, and take a deep breath. I’ve thrown a lot of information at you but I’m here for you! Call me if you need to talk about all this or if you need a shopping buddy. And remember, you don’t need to go out and blow your grocery budget on corsets. Only go shopping if you’re excited about it! Otherwise, I’m pretty sure you’ve already got some things that will work great. And as long as you bring your own undies, I probably have some things I can lend you. Feel better? Good. Now let’s do this!

About The Author

Pamela Godwin is co-owner of Silk + Salt Photography, an exclusive boudoir photography studio located in northern Utah. Pamela believes in mermaids and fairies and that all the tomorrows are going to be better than the yesterdays. She has the heart of a lion and the spirit of an artist, which is to say she will hopelessly forever be an entrepreneur. She knows too many powerful rad ladies to doubt that women are going to save the world. In her heart, Pamela is certain that all new clients are just friends she hasn’t become acquainted with yet.

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A Guide To Boudoir Lingerie

Sat, 16 Feb 2019 06:06:41 GMT

Boudoir Lingerie

You’ve done it! You’ve summoned forth your inner goddess. You’ve booked a photographer who shares your vision and motivation. All that’s left is that most treacherous of tasks: the shopping! No, no. I know that shopping isn’t generally too treacherous; I’m referring to lingerie shopping, which, when you know it’s going to be preserved in print for life, can be the most intimidating purchase there is! It doesn’t have to be, though. I am going to help you pick out the perfect thing to wear for your boudoir photo shoot- something classic, flattering, and most especially, sexy! Honey, let’s go shopping!

The Teddy

You might be looking at this model’s body, thinking, ‘Well, sure it looks good on her. She’s a model!’ <insert ginormous eye roll here> But the magic of the teddy is that it looks good on everyone! I found these teddys at Forever 21 . They are super reasonably priced, come in different sizes and colors, and they have many more options besides these four. If you’ve never owned one then, darlin’, it is just about time that you do! Treat yo’self!

The Bodysuit

Very similar to the teddy, but less lacy, the bodysuit also looks amazing on everyone. American Apparel has a great selection, very affordable, and in lots of colors.

The Lacy Robe

Aren’t these GORGEOUS?!! Can you imagine how sexy you will feel wearing one of these bad boys?! I found these at Blue Boutique . They are pricier than the teddys and bodysuits, but I’m pretty sure the hotness to dollar ratio is just about right. Plus, if you live in Utah, you’ll be supporting local by shopping there, which is always a good thing. ;)

The Corset

What is the difference between a corset and a bustier? Why, I’m so glad you asked!! Corsets lace up the back, like those above from Ami Clubwear , whereas bustiers do not. Corsets can both cinch your waist and give your girls a lift. Bustiers only do the latter. For smaller figures, either will probably work just fine, as long as you are able to fill out the bra cup. For voluptuous figures, the corset is your best friend. You are going to look hot, hot, hot!

The Waist Cincher

What you don’t want to wear is a waist cincher, which is like a corset or bustier with no bra cups. See how it pinches the skin in the photo above, creating a muffin top, on this six-foot-tall model? Yeah, they don’t work for anybody.

The Nightgown

All nightgowns are not created equal! Remember, boudoir is about showing off your curves! Look for actual slips or slip-style nightgowns that hug the body. Bonus points if they have garters attached- very sexy! Found these two at H&M . Babydolls and other flowy gowns, like the one above, are never flattering. Your shape will get lost in all the hanging fabric, even if it’s sheer. See how much sexier the tight-fitting slip looks than the loose gown? ‘Nuff said.

Nothing at All

Of course the hottest (and least expensive!) thing to wear is nothing at all. This is not for everyone and that’s ok! For some folks the whole point of the photo shoot is the lingerie. However, images of a bare back or of a naked body with strategically placed hands can be both powerful and classy… and you don’t have to spend a dime!

STILL FEELING ANXIOUS ABOUT THE WHOLE THING?

I got you, boo. Call me and we’ll talk. Or we’ll go shopping together until you find the perfect thing. This experience should feel luxurious and empowering from beginning to end. I’m here for you, friend. <3

Also, I’ve got lots more indispensable lingerie information in store for you in my next post. Stay tuned for Part Two!

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